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Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 1:38pm On Jun 14, 2022 |
Many single/unmarried ladies today operate with a misplaced lens, perspective that land them low quality to average life partners, instead of the best. Any single/unmarried man, who shows interest in you, is not obligated to take over partly or wholly your financial responsibilities. He is not your father. By being so dependent, you expose yourself to the risk of having a mind beclouded by money or materialism in making a marital decision. You tend to ignore red flags, be at his mercy and amenable to his whims and caprices. Heartbreak awaits. But striving for financial independence and gaining it to some degree, positions you to discover his worth beyond how much money he offers or gives you. Ignore misleading trends online or offline. You would be clearheaded to assess his character quality and suitability for you as a life partner. He is dispensable after all. There is high chance of objectivity here. Also, this stands you out from the crowd, enabling him see how more of an asset you are to him than a liability. Your value will soar before him. It will be evident you're an addition, not a subtraction. Any right-thinking man would promptly take you to the altar, because you're a rare precious stone. Single/unmarried ladies, wisdom is always profitable to direct, be wise. ©Kelechi O. Naze (KON) 2 Likes
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 1:42pm On Jun 14, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 4:04pm On Jun 14, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 1:17am On Jun 16, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 7:05pm On Jun 18, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 5:58pm On Jun 29, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Magnoliaa(f): 2:15am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Sorry, but on this one, your pen is far from being rational. Precious stone nikan ko, rarest blossom flower ni. 2 Likes |
Re: Singles And Money by ahnie: 7:27am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Magnoliaa:Table shaker 1 Like |
Re: Singles And Money by Magnoliaa(f): 8:33am On Jun 30, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by ahnie: 8:36am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Magnoliaa:Trust the urchins to squirt on your mentions,infact expect more orgasm 1 Like |
Re: Singles And Money by Magnoliaa(f): 8:56am On Jun 30, 2022 |
ahnie: The OP is not of them urchins, though. He dey always make sense. Na why I tok say this time o, na the pen no dey rational. Besides, his posts hardly attract those kind, but if it does, I wouldn't expect anything less than a crazy display from them. 3 Likes |
Re: Singles And Money by Nobody: 10:01am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Bitter and sweet write up, sensible and at the same time not sensible. In as much as I support a woman's financial independence saying a Man is not obligated to take over a part of her financial responsibility is very wrong. So what's the man's use? Prick service? Katikati. How will a woman know the guys is responsible? Or his financial ability? How will she know if he is not the type she has to beg with god of thunder and lightening before she gets a Kobo from? Even if she can take care of herself, what about the kids and family as a whole? Lol Financial independence makes a woman stand out of a crowd? Which crowd? You are funny ooo you make that sound as if a woman needs a man's validation or approval to survive. The economy situation will make any right thinking woman to strive for more sources of income and a strong financial ability. Stop making this about men. Katikati write up! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Singles And Money by ahnie: 12:43pm On Jun 30, 2022 |
Magnoliaa:Nice to know he's not amongst them urchins. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Singles And Money by Magnoliaa(f): 1:31pm On Jun 30, 2022 |
Persephone1: And this is another point! If you wan dey financially independent, dey independent, make you make money for yourself and chop life. Who fking cares about making money to be "attractive" to men? Hianity of the highest order. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Singles And Money by Nobody: 3:49pm On Jun 30, 2022 |
Magnoliaa:These people think nah every woman dey reason them matter. Stand out of the crowd ko, standing ovation in. Here is one of them saying something else, confused bunch! 3 Likes
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Re: Singles And Money by Magnoliaa(f): 3:56pm On Jun 30, 2022 |
Persephone1: When I even saw the topic and I clicked on it, thinking pe it might be something fresh like o. I saw the usual MO. Generic topic, woman-specific content. 1 Like |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 1:41am On Jul 02, 2022 |
Persephone1:A man's responsibility quotient is discernable through his values, worldview, not pocket. His "financial ability" doesn't necessarily have to be tested on you. A woman is no bank! Generosity before marriage is no guarantee of generosity after marriage. A right-thinking man knows marriage differs from dating/courting and where his financial obligations to a lady begin, which is the former. Also, my write-up's context is romantic relationships. Thus, the scope is specific, not general as you wrongly supposed. Financial independence is interpretable within here. Your mention of "economy situation" is a digression, an avoidable one. |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 1:42am On Jul 02, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 2:27pm On Jul 02, 2022 |
CC: Lalasticlala, the viewpoint above attempts to answer why marriages crash nowadays. It draws attention to some foundational, remote causes. Kindly forward to front page. Thank you. |
Re: Singles And Money by eazzzy1(m): 6:27pm On Jul 02, 2022 |
Well some men like dependent women and some women like being dependent. At the end of the day people should go with who they are compatible with. Personally, I have never been in the unfortunate situation of having a girlfriend who thought I was duty bound to provide for her, either partly of fully. I believe in generosity, I believe one of the ways to show your love to someone is through material resources but I do not believe in doing it because it’s obligatory and that’s one of the ways to keep your relationship. The way I see it, if a lady thinks it is a guy’s responsibility to fund her, there’s the motivation to have more than one guy because more guys mean more sources of funding. Who would say no to more money? 1 Like |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 2:05am On Jul 06, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by ZIMDRILL(m): 3:38am On Jul 06, 2022 |
Persephone1: using your theory then its ok for men to sleep with girls before marriage, to find out if she good in bed ? financial responsiblity can be seen without spending on your woman, how you run your financials can give a clue on how financially responsie you are eg living within your means, savings, investing or how helpful you are to your own parents etc NOT spendindg on your girlfriend (am not against buying gifts,presents etc) i am against eg paying rent, skol fees, monthly clothes cosmetic etc) The funny thing is that most women demand things that herself and family can not afford eg she demand dating a man who has a car but herself doesnt even own a car even a wheelbarrow and her family doesnt even own a bicycle When a man takeover responsibilty it can be used in 3 ways to charm, use and control 1 to charm --- no much explanation needed 2 use ----- having extra money at disposal means one can waste it on those gulliable and disposible 3 control --- he who plays the piper calls the tune aka the hand that feeds you controls how much you eat It is the responsibility of yourself or your parents to look after you until the day you are married NOT your boyfriend And the day you get married it is the responsibility of yourself and husband to look after each than the husband unless hubby declares that you are s fully housewife As a father dont let any men take responsibilty of daughter before marriage, most parents take a blind eye when boyfriends takeover responsibility but knowing fully that our daughters are being used for chicken change by someone who has money to spend 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 12:56pm On Jul 06, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL:On point! Aptly said. |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 12:58pm On Jul 06, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 9:37pm On Jul 11, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 6:55am On Jul 27, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 12:39am On Aug 04, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 1:24pm On Aug 09, 2022 |
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Re: Singles And Money by Raalsalghul: 1:35pm On Aug 09, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: Wow. So much sense in one write up. |
Re: Singles And Money by Nobody: 5:40pm On Aug 09, 2022 |
Nice writeup. An average woman would most likely end up with the wrong man because they are the ones willing to actually spend money without any thoughtfulness behind it, if you're willing to spend more money, the more women you would get across all demographic in Nigeria. This includes good & bad women. Also don't be fooled that good women also don't want your money, they want it too. No difference really. Relationships in Nigeria are very very traditional, when it comes to money in Nigeria, there is nothing like Feminism, the average woman wants your money & that's it, Period. If you like preach from now till tomorrow, that one no concern her, the responses thread proves it. Women want money, no type of preaching can change their minds. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 6:54pm On Aug 09, 2022 |
truthsayer009:Thanks for the kind words. Such dogmatism will continue to be their undoing, making them easy preys for marital slavery, depression, ritualism, murder and domestic violence. |
Re: Singles And Money by Kayceenaz(m): 6:54pm On Aug 09, 2022 |
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