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Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by Gbadamosi01(m): 10:06pm On Jun 20, 2022
A Nigerian lawyer and Facebook influencer, Olakunle Allison has revealed the reason why he neglected a lady, in spite of his affections for her. He made the post on his official Facebook page today.

Read what he wrote below;

"Ghosting a lady I really liked."

"People may not know this, but a guy can "ghost" a lady for reasons that might have nothing to do with the lady herself. It might be about someone else in her life or her family. Or it might be about her friends or some other "dumb" reasons like that."

"And a lady can be ghosted simply because the guy isn't just sure that she is really what he wants AT THAT POINT IN TIME. Or he might just be confused about his feelings, not knowing what to make of them."

"Yes, guys can be indecisive especially when it comes to making that big decision. And especially if they have other options."

"I know this because I have done something similar."

"There was this tall, pretty and well-trained Igbo lady I used to really like. Very intelligent lady. She graduated � with a 2.1 CGPA from a University in the UK. She was and is a combination of good looks (height) and brains."

"Amaka is her name."

"Amaka and I used to meet at the BRT bus terminal every morning on my way to work. I was working in a Commercial Law Firm in Ikoyi at the time. She too worked on the Island at Pricewaterhousecoopers LLP (PWC)."

"If you knew PWC or someone who works there, then you'd understand how much of a big deal it was that she was working there. They employ only the best and they pay extremely well. She was employed solely on merit. She told me how she got the job."

"Since Amaka and I met every morning at the BRT terminal we gradually got closer whilst we waited for the next BRT bus. We chatted to while away time before the bus came."

"And when the bus arrived we would sit beside each other and continued our conversation. With lots of traffic on busy, bubbling Lagos roads from Berger to Obalende, marathon gisting was guaranteed for both of us."

"Amaka was so simple and naive in a very attractive way, in addition to her physical beauty. She also had this innocence about her that made her even more attractive. I doubt she could hurt a fly. She was that kind of a person."

"Naturally I began to really like her even though I was with someone else at the time, but that relationship was having issues. And I think she (Amaka) began to like me too."

"So one fateful day I asked if she would like to see a movie with me."

"Without hesitation, she accepted."

"So we fixed a date and time to see a movie in Silverbird Cinemas at the Ikeja City Mall."

"The movie day came. She showed up a few minutes after I got there looking pretty as usual with all smiles."

"We went to the Cinema premises where I bought movie tickets, popcorn and drinks for two after deciding which movie to see. We chose an American Movie. A romantic comedy."


"I think I can say we both enjoyed the movie and each other's company that evening."

"As we walked out of the cinema hall, Amaka spotted her big brother in a seafood restaurant and dragged me along to say hello to him. Her brother happened to be a medical doctor. They are all well read in her family."

Read more here�
https://ofofoentertainment.com/why-i-ghosted-a-lady-i-really-liked-nige/

Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by AJOBI77(m): 10:16pm On Jun 20, 2022
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Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by Benki003(m): 10:16pm On Jun 20, 2022
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Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by Gbadamosi01(m): 10:21pm On Jun 20, 2022
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Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by Alapojames: 10:27pm On Jun 20, 2022
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Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by JONSYN7154: 10:44pm On Jun 20, 2022
I HATE NONSENSE. HERES THE FULL GIST. NOBODY SHOULD CLICK ON THAT LINK.


A Nigerian lawyer and Facebook influencer, Olakunle Allison has revealed the reason why he neglected a lady, in spite of his affections for her. He made the post on his official Facebook page today.
Read what he wrote below;

“Ghosting a lady I really liked.”

“People may not know this, but a guy can “ghost” a lady for reasons that might have nothing to do with the lady herself. It might be about someone else in her life or her family. Or it might be about her friends or some other “dumb” reasons like that.”

“And a lady can be ghosted simply because the guy isn’t just sure that she is really what he wants AT THAT POINT IN TIME. Or he might just be confused about his feelings, not knowing what to make of them.”

“Yes, guys can be indecisive especially when it comes to making that big decision. And especially if they have other options.”

“I know this because I have done something similar.”

“There was this tall, pretty and well-trained Igbo lady I used to really like. Very intelligent lady. She graduated � with a 2.1 CGPA from a University in the UK. She was and is a combination of good looks (height) and brains.”

“Amaka is her name.”

“Amaka and I used to meet at the BRT bus terminal every morning on my way to work. I was working in a Commercial Law Firm in Ikoyi at the time. She too worked on the Island at Pricewaterhousecoopers LLP (PWC).”

“If you knew PWC or someone who works there, then you’d understand how much of a big deal it was that she was working there. They employ only the best and they pay extremely well. She was employed solely on merit. She told me how she got the job.”

“Since Amaka and I met every morning at the BRT terminal we gradually got closer whilst we waited for the next BRT bus. We chatted to while away time before the bus came.”

“And when the bus arrived we would sit beside each other and continued our conversation. With lots of traffic on busy, bubbling Lagos roads from Berger to Obalende, marathon gisting was guaranteed for both of us.”

“Amaka was so simple and naive in a very attractive way, in addition to her physical beauty. She also had this innocence about her that made her even more attractive. I doubt she could hurt a fly. She was that kind of a person.”

“Naturally I began to really like her even though I was with someone else at the time, but that relationship was having issues. And I think she (Amaka) began to like me too.”

“So one fateful day I asked if she would like to see a movie with me.”

“Without hesitation, she accepted.”

“So we fixed a date and time to see a movie in Silverbird Cinemas at the Ikeja City Mall.”

“The movie day came. She showed up a few minutes after I got there looking pretty as usual with all smiles.”

“We went to the Cinema premises where I bought movie tickets, popcorn and drinks for two after deciding which movie to see. We chose an American Movie. A romantic comedy.”

“I think I can say we both enjoyed the movie and each other’s company that evening.”

“As we walked out of the cinema hall, Amaka spotted her big brother in a seafood restaurant and dragged me along to say hello to him. Her brother happened to be a medical doctor. They are all well read in her family.”

“When we got to him he was seated looking quite business-like, reserved and frankly a bit too serious. She introduced me to him and him to me. I said “good evening” and he responded casually. A bit too casual. Not even a handshake.”

“A tiny part of me felt ignored, like he was not too pleased to see me with his sister. I am pretty sure I may have read his body language wrongly but that was how I felt at the time.”

“For a few minutes she and her big brother got talking while I stood there waiting for her. And soon enough they were done. We left her brother and made our way out. It was already night.”

“As we came out to the open space within the premises where cars usually park, she became a bit more playful oblivious to my sour mood. I didn’t begrudge her. She was just being herself.”

“Clearly she enjoyed the evening. But I was not feeling the evening anymore. I was mildly sour because of her brother’s perceived coldness towards me.”

“Don’t get me wrong. I was not expecting her brother to give me a big hug or smile from ear to ear at me. But look at me and my height for a second and tell me whether I look like someone anyone could ignore like that.”

“Deep down inside me I felt he was not too pleased to see me and his sister together.”

*After I said goodbye to Amaka that night, I ghosted her.”

“I hated that I did it, but I did it.”

“And I justified it by telling myself that there was already someone in my life (even though that relationship was no longer promising at the time). FYI, I am no longer dating the lady I was seeing then.”

“A year or two later, Amaka got married to a guy who works at PWC. I saw her lovely wedding photos on Instagram and I congratulated her.”

“She responded with thanks. That was the first time we spoke after that movie evening. But I was truly happy for her.”

“I think what happened to me and why I ghosted her was because I have always had this paranoia about having Igbo inlaws.”

“I always felt, whether rightly or wrongly, that you needed a lot of money and title to satisfy and please Igbo fathers and brothers-in-law.”

“So when I got that attitude from her brother at the restaurant, it worsened my fear for Igbo inlaws and i just disconnected mentally from her. That then gave me the license to feed my fear and run.”

“Unfortunately, she doesn’t know this till today. All she knows is that i went cold and quiet.”

“And if I am to be honest, a part of me is not proud that I did that to her. She didn’t offend me at all.”

“But that’s it guys. Ghosting happens and it might have nothing to do with the lady.”

“And that’s why ladies who find themselves in such situations SHOULD NOT beat and blame themselves unnecessarily because men always have their own “dumb” or whatever reasons for doing it. And you cannot blame them too.”

“Just move on like a big girl that you are. And if you can still be friends be friends without holding it against such men.

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Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by arizon101(m): 10:50pm On Jun 20, 2022
JONSYN7154:
I HATE NONSENSE. HERES THE FULL GIST. NOBODY SHOULD CLICK ON THAT LINK.


A Nigerian lawyer and Facebook influencer, Olakunle Allison has revealed the reason why he neglected a lady, in spite of his affections for her. He made the post on his official Facebook page today.
Read what he wrote below;

“Ghosting a lady I really liked.”

“People may not know this, but a guy can “ghost” a lady for reasons that might have nothing to do with the lady herself. It might be about someone else in her life or her family. Or it might be about her friends or some other “dumb” reasons like that.”

“And a lady can be ghosted simply because the guy isn’t just sure that she is really what he wants AT THAT POINT IN TIME. Or he might just be confused about his feelings, not knowing what to make of them.”

“Yes, guys can be indecisive especially when it comes to making that big decision. And especially if they have other options.”

“I know this because I have done something similar.”

“There was this tall, pretty and well-trained Igbo lady I used to really like. Very intelligent lady. She graduated � with a 2.1 CGPA from a University in the UK. She was and is a combination of good looks (height) and brains.”

“Amaka is her name.”

“Amaka and I used to meet at the BRT bus terminal every morning on my way to work. I was working in a Commercial Law Firm in Ikoyi at the time. She too worked on the Island at Pricewaterhousecoopers LLP (PWC).”

“If you knew PWC or someone who works there, then you’d understand how much of a big deal it was that she was working there. They employ only the best and they pay extremely well. She was employed solely on merit. She told me how she got the job.”

“Since Amaka and I met every morning at the BRT terminal we gradually got closer whilst we waited for the next BRT bus. We chatted to while away time before the bus came.”

“And when the bus arrived we would sit beside each other and continued our conversation. With lots of traffic on busy, bubbling Lagos roads from Berger to Obalende, marathon gisting was guaranteed for both of us.”

“Amaka was so simple and naive in a very attractive way, in addition to her physical beauty. She also had this innocence about her that made her even more attractive. I doubt she could hurt a fly. She was that kind of a person.”

“Naturally I began to really like her even though I was with someone else at the time, but that relationship was having issues. And I think she (Amaka) began to like me too.”

“So one fateful day I asked if she would like to see a movie with me.”

“Without hesitation, she accepted.”

“So we fixed a date and time to see a movie in Silverbird Cinemas at the Ikeja City Mall.”

“The movie day came. She showed up a few minutes after I got there looking pretty as usual with all smiles.”

“We went to the Cinema premises where I bought movie tickets, popcorn and drinks for two after deciding which movie to see. We chose an American Movie. A romantic comedy.”

“I think I can say we both enjoyed the movie and each other’s company that evening.”

“As we walked out of the cinema hall, Amaka spotted her big brother in a seafood restaurant and dragged me along to say hello to him. Her brother happened to be a medical doctor. They are all well read in her family.”

“When we got to him he was seated looking quite business-like, reserved and frankly a bit too serious. She introduced me to him and him to me. I said “good evening” and he responded casually. A bit too casual. Not even a handshake.”

“A tiny part of me felt ignored, like he was not too pleased to see me with his sister. I am pretty sure I may have read his body language wrongly but that was how I felt at the time.”

“For a few minutes she and her big brother got talking while I stood there waiting for her. And soon enough they were done. We left her brother and made our way out. It was already night.”

“As we came out to the open space within the premises where cars usually park, she became a bit more playful oblivious to my sour mood. I didn’t begrudge her. She was just being herself.”

“Clearly she enjoyed the evening. But I was not feeling the evening anymore. I was mildly sour because of her brother’s perceived coldness towards me.”

“Don’t get me wrong. I was not expecting her brother to give me a big hug or smile from ear to ear at me. But look at me and my height for a second and tell me whether I look like someone anyone could ignore like that.”

“Deep down inside me I felt he was not too pleased to see me and his sister together.”

*After I said goodbye to Amaka that night, I ghosted her.”

“I hated that I did it, but I did it.”

“And I justified it by telling myself that there was already someone in my life (even though that relationship was no longer promising at the time). FYI, I am no longer dating the lady I was seeing then.”

“A year or two later, Amaka got married to a guy who works at PWC. I saw her lovely wedding photos on Instagram and I congratulated her.”

“She responded with thanks. That was the first time we spoke after that movie evening. But I was truly happy for her.”

“I think what happened to me and why I ghosted her was because I have always had this paranoia about having Igbo inlaws.”

“I always felt, whether rightly or wrongly, that you needed a lot of money and title to satisfy and please Igbo fathers and brothers-in-law.”

“So when I got that attitude from her brother at the restaurant, it worsened my fear for Igbo inlaws and i just disconnected mentally from her. That then gave me the license to feed my fear and run.”

“Unfortunately, she doesn’t know this till today. All she knows is that i went cold and quiet.”

“And if I am to be honest, a part of me is not proud that I did that to her. She didn’t offend me at all.”

“But that’s it guys. Ghosting happens and it might have nothing to do with the lady.”

“And that’s why ladies who find themselves in such situations SHOULD NOT beat and blame themselves unnecessarily because men always have their own “dumb” or whatever reasons for doing it. And you cannot blame them too.”

“Just move on like a big girl that you are. And if you can still be friends be friends without holding it against such men.

Lol, boss I hail o

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Re: Why I Ghosted A Lady I Really Liked -- Nigerian Lawyer Reveals by blaquebelle: 10:50pm On Jun 20, 2022
I think the guy just has ego problems. What if the brother was just in a bad mood that day?

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