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I Just Found Out My Genotype is AS / Genotype: The Reason For My Unhappy Marriage. / My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? (2) (3) (4)
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by ezugegere(m): 4:11pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
I work with an NGO that cares for Siclklers. Please don't even try it if you love your sanity. Even if you don't love yourself, kindly pity your unborn kids. I bet you, if you happen to give birth to a sickler, you will never forgive yourself, given that you are aware of the consequences of what you're going into 3 Likes |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by naija4life247: 4:28pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Jasiman: Good. Very Good. Go ahead and marry. The village people that are after you will be very happy to end your own lineage after wasting all the money you earn on SS children who are called Abiku / Emere in Yoruba and Ogbanje at the other side. On the Judgement Day, you will still end up in Hell Fire together because the Abikus / Ogbanje that you will give birth to will never allow you stay in Heaven continue 1 Like |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by eyinjuege: 4:32pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
If you can have IVF, then go ahead. Genotype shouldn't stop you getting married to the love of your life especially when it can be avoided by IVF. They will use the embryo that's not ss |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Jasiman: 5:10pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
ezugegere:Thanks |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Jasiman: 5:11pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
naija4life247: Haba... Na fight? |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Jasiman: 5:13pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
eyinjuege: Thanks a whole lot. That's exactly what this thread is all about. I want to know if there's any hope at all before we go our separate ways. Don't want to lose a good lady if I can get a solution |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by baby124: 5:28pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Jasiman:So, throughout your marriage you will use condom? Or how do you plan to have sex during the IVF time to prevent pregnancy? Or no sex at all? How many abortions will your wife do in fear? You better think straight and clearly. 4 Likes |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Justkatty(f): 8:13pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Forget love for now Even though not for yourself but the sake of the unborn kids. Love is never enough reason to be selfish � You want to trade your kids health because of what can be avoided? There are so many reasons why you too aren't fit to marry. This just made me remember Mercy (May her soul rest in peace) she died after our senior waec after battling for years with SS Anemia I also have a close friend that lost his twin girls in the space of 1year, all because he's AS and got married to an AS. The marriage was blessed with 3kids including the twins and now they are no more Marriage between him and his wife has ended, he's now in search of an AA person. Brother think twice Love is never enough There's always someone else the cap can still fit. Please and please avoid everlasting pains. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by tayo60(f): 8:39pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
I know this is possible medically. Get her pregnant and do the phenotype of d foetus after one or two months in d womb. If it comes out SS, you can abort d baby and if otherwise, you keep it but you may not be able to have more than one child to avoid having SS children. I learnt this somewhere. |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by eyinjuege: 9:08pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Jasiman:If you have the money, speak with a fertility specialist about it first. If you can't afford the IVF and all, just don't bother |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by eyinjuege: 9:10pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
baby124: There is a reason we have contraceptives. So many options that are safe including non hormonal ones like the copper coil. It's a shame ladies that are sexually active don't explore it in Nigeria and would rather use abortions as their own form of contraception |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by baby124: 10:09pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
eyinjuege:Contraceptives while doing IVF? Do you also think that contraceptives are 100%? So you live your life constantly in fear of having sex recklessly with your own husband? Ha! Except they abstain from sex during the whole IVF and pregnancy periods. So that no mistake will happen! If you have sex during the IVF stage, how do you even know which process entered? Could be natural, and you won’t know till you can test the foetus. Some women are touch and go, I hope you know? They easily get pregnant. Plus some women get pregnant while pregnant. I hope you know that. 4 Likes |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Freelane33(m): 9:27am On Jun 24, 2022 |
if I’m in your shoe big bro , ama get out of the relationship, I’m not finna allow love to blind me from seeing the pains ahead of me and thinking on how I can circumvenge the pain . Big bro , pain is pain . Nobody loves pain , and the pain is real , pls don’t step in if you are not fully equipped financially Jasiman: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Mindlog: 10:00am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Be asking questions you hear! Both of you are AS and you are still insistent because I guess you didn't grow up with a sibling or siblings with the SS genotype. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by ImaIma1(f): 10:46am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Please end the relationship for the sake of your kids so that you don't watch them in pain because of a selfish love. Some of these kids grow to hate their parents for subjecting them to such pain and trauma. When the issues start, all this totori love will go out the front door. Project into the future. 2 Likes |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Jasiman: 12:55pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
Freelane33: Thanks, I really appreciate |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by dahmie2013: 2:22pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
OP take heart. I had the experience too. But I have learnt to leave with it. It is so painful how genotype has to be a criteria for one to be with someone you are compatible with. Although I am still single, I won't marry someone because the person is AA. |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by gannod(m): 3:54pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
Jasiman: Please, don't take that risk,Let her go. I lost my immediate younger brother to the cold hands of death because of same issue. He was SS. The pains he went through each time he had crisis is still fresh in my memory .Till date, I still feel bad about it. I try as much as possible to advise people against it. 1 Like |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by TheeDetective: 3:59pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
@Op; Does it mean both of you never asked about your genotype at the beginning of your relationship/your getting to know each other? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Mindlog: 4:13pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
gannod: Sorry for your loss. My elder brother who is in his 40s is also SS but we thank God for sustaining him this far. He is now married with kids and made sure his wife is AA because anything outside that is calamity. He is looking very fresh and one wouldn't easily know his genotype because he is very conscious of his diet and steadily on his supplements but we hear am when he was younger. When he was 22, he had a crisis that slipped him into coma for 4 days at LUTH idi-araba, Lagos....I still shiver from just recollecting it because he was actually confirmed dead and was being prepared to be moved to the mortuary, his coming back to life was a profound miracle and reason why over the years when he provokes any of us his younger ones, we ignore him as we are still grateful he is alive. ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Tohsynetita1: 8:29pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
I think there's a thread on Nairaland where I read about changing genotype if it's eventually SS. I mean changing before foetus is formed. |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by mastermaestro(m): 9:12pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by gannod(m): 9:48pm On Jun 25, 2022 |
Mindlog: Thanks. God will continue to be with him and be with you( his siblings) 1 Like |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by baby124: 8:29pm On Jun 29, 2022 |
eyinjuege:Are you a woman? You can’t use contraceptives when trying to conceive and not everyone can take contraceptives. By the way, they are not 100%. |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Resurgent2016: 9:25pm On Jun 29, 2022 |
Jasiman: If your calc goes wrong and you birth a ss child (which is quite probable) you'll probably regret meeting your spouse. The financial and emotional stress of catering for a constantly sick child is no joke....think well before you leap |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by frozen70(f): 12:09am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Jasiman: If you have made up your mind that you can't do without her You can go ahead, whatever comes out you bear it But make sure you don't complain |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by nnamdiosu(m): 1:58am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Jasiman: Do you love her enough not to have a child with her but to adopt? Or not to have any at all? Your answer to my question is the answer to your question. |
Re: Genotype Is About To Break My Relationship, Please Help by Acidosis(m): 7:24am On Jun 30, 2022 |
Jasiman: See your mouth like "not much". You're not a serious somebody. Even AA couples these days don't desire more than two. 1 Like |
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