Dear all, Good morning, please I need a sincere and matured advise on this.

I have been going out with this particular girl for quiet a period of time now but one thing I noticed is that her mother got married to 3 different men with the total of 6 children, 2 for the first man, 3 for the second man and 1 for the third man. I was uneased at such and that prompted me to ask my gf questions as to why her mother gave birth to 3 different men and she told me that her mom informed her that men are the same that they jilted and dumped her. Currently as I speak the mother is now a single mother, my gf's elder sister is equally having marital issues with her husband to an extent that she had to move back to her mom's house.. my fear is I hope this girl won't start going about with such mentality instilled into her by her mom about men being the same and start resenting me for that afterwards if ever I make up my mind to wife her. Is it advisable to settle with this type of lady?? I only want peace of mind. Please advise

that's why you have the room for dating...all you have to do is find out her mentality and perception about men, marriage and life as a whole....if she has and believes in the perception as her mum...I would advise you take a walk early enough....

DON'T GO INTO MARRIAGE WITH SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T BELIEVE IN THE VIRTUES OF MARRIAGE ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DO BELIEVE/CHERISH THE VIRTUES OF LOVE AND MARRIAGE.

good luck

Seriously speaking, a child trained by both parents often stand out different from a child trained by either a mother or a father....


The one trained by a father will lack mother's training and warnings. If the child is a male child, he will have terrible experience on how to treat a woman well. But will be a very good father to his children.

And the one trained by the mother will lack father's trainings and warnings and if the child is a female child, she will will not understand how to take care of her husband and will be a very good mother to her kids....


Op, you either decide to not experience any future unknown troubles or you give it a shot to withstand the unknown troubles... Also have it at the back of your mind that you could be leaving her for the devil that 6ou don't know.. Or to a woman that could be a God sent to your life.

Best wishes...