Hello nairalanders/ parents. I have this issues bordering me lately I will like to seek parents advice and opinion about. I have a 1year 7month old boy that behave weird, he doesn't want to be around me his father except when I have goodies and immediately the goodies finishes he ran back to his Mom, he follows his mom everywhere, the mom is currently heavily pregnant and I'm already having a serious headache about this, cos his very stubborn and would gum his mom everywhere. he his scared of men the antinatal male doctors about attending to his mom he will be scared and start crying like someone who his traumatized and cry's always. this issue is embarrassing for his mom and bothersome, he doesn't allow the mom to rest or have a free time except when his sleeping, have been a freelancer and works from home and have been with this boy since the day of delivery and suddenly he doesn't want to see me he won't want to associate with me and cry anytime I want to play with him, he doesn't want me to carry him, have tried beating but it doesn't work just to stop crying for no reason and following his mom, one thing about this boy is, he his is a smart kid that knows and understand his environment and what his doing very well and we his parents don't associate with stranger cos of bad blood we've experience in the past so I'm now fed up and depressed pls parents I will appreciate your sincere advice and opinions thanks

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He's scared because of the previous terrible experience[s] he went through in the hands of Men in his past life.

Hmmm...



It's just a phase; he will outgrow it.
Don't mind someone that will tell you it is a sign that he is gay.
And if you believe in reincarnation, then you have your answer directly above mine. It might be due to past experience.

OP's hands are bloody and babies usually see such things

You dey learn work, my boy do worst than yours, but do not panic, that your wife pregnancy might be the cause, if she put to bed, believe you me after three months of delivery, the dice will be casted on him, you will be his final succour to rest on.

Your problem is you feel insecure. The kid is too tender to be judged as you are doing now. The kid is yet to be cognizant enough for you to judge his psychology.

Well tbh he's a child and kids act that way sometimes, he'll out grow it, beating him will only make it worse so please don't beat him again, just be patient, besides I think your wife is also at fault here, she probably spoiled him too much

immortalcrown:
Your problem is feel insecure. The kid is too tender to be judged as you are doing now. The kid is yet to be cognizant enough for you to judge his psychology.

this is not a matter of me feeling insecure or anything if you reside with us you will be more scared

What do you expect from a male child

Better do the needful before it is too late

A word is enough for the wise

Ur kid is scared of u, yet u beat him to make him do what? ... Hahahaha. That is one dumb act.

mtmboss:
this is not a matter of me feeling insecure or anything if you reside with us you will be more scared

Some kids have gender phobia at tender age. Some will be scared of women. I have a cousin who was so scared of small people when he was below the age of 4. He allowed only big (tall or chubby) people to carry him. You said your boy also avoids other males. So, it is clearly an age factor.

;D¹

OP go for DNA test

immortalcrown:
Some kids have gender phobia at tender age. Some will be scared of women. I have a cousin who was so scared of small people when he was below the age of 4. He allowed only big (tall or chubby) people to carry him. You said your boy also avoids other males. So, it is clearly an age factor.

okay thanks but his mom already considering taking him for mental evaluation

mtmboss:
okay thanks but his mom already considering taking him for mental evaluation

If it continues after his sixth year, you may take him for the mental evaluation. But for now, it is a waste of time.

immortalcrown:
If it continues after his sixth year, you may take him for the mental evaluation. But for now, it is a waste of time.

ok thanks very much!

Candidlady:
What do you expect from a male child

Better do the needful before it is too late

A word is enough for the wise

And what's the needful?

Candidlady:
What do you expect from a male child

Better do the needful before it is too late

A word is enough for the wise

pls what's the needful thanks

Jeon:
He's scared because of the previous terrible experience[s] he went through in the hands of Men in his past life.

be serious for once in your life

The reason is that you are not always at home to bond with your son.

If you take your son out always, he won't be scared of you

Jeon:
He's scared because of the previous terrible experience[s] he went through in the hands of Men in his past life.

I nor understand why you just nor wan get sense. when dem dey share sense for your area, e be like say dem send you message that time.
ASUU, you do this one!!

Labelling the behavior of a 1.7-year old irrational?
What have I not seen on nairaland?

mtmboss:
Hello nairalanders/ parents. I have this issues bordering me lately I will like to seek parents advice and opinion about. I have a 1year 7month old boy that behave weird, he doesn't want to be around me his father except when I have goodies and immediately the goodies finishes he ran back to his Mom, he follows his mom everywhere, the mom is currently heavily pregnant and I'm already having a serious headache about this, cos his very stubborn and would gum his mom everywhere. he his scared of men the antinatal male doctors about attending to his mom he will be scared and start crying like someone who his traumatized and cry's always. this issue is embarrassing for his mom and bothersome, he doesn't allow the mom to rest or have a free time except when his sleeping, have been a freelancer and works from home and have been with this boy since the day of delivery and suddenly he doesn't want to see me he won't want to associate with me and cry anytime I want to play with him, he doesn't want me to carry him, have tried beating but it doesn't work just to stop crying for no reason and following his mom, one thing about this boy is, he his is a smart kid that knows and understand his environment and what his doing very well and we his parents don't associate with stranger cos of bad blood we've experience in the past so I'm now fed up and depressed pls parents I will appreciate your sincere advice and opinions thanks

OP you are the cause of the problem. He saw trying to strangle his mother and you constantly put yourself between them. He is your competition.
Don't worry the rivalry will end soon and you all will be alright.

dont worry he will come around!
He still a baby and need the mother's attention!
When the new baby comes he will know his place!
Nothing to worry about, he is going through a phase!
Very soon you will not be able to go out without him,
I had same experience.

If nah oyinbo now dey b like d baby is gay he is girl he is fighting d man side n wants to b a woman.
Smh


He is a baby na normal thing na she dey always dey around d baby thats y.

U nah partime visitor soon he dey use to ur face just b smiling n telling weird jokes n laughing any how

mtmboss:
Hello nairalanders/ parents. I have this issues bordering me lately I will like to seek parents advice and opinion about. I have a 1year 7month old boy that behave weird, he doesn't want to be around me his father except when I have goodies and immediately the goodies finishes he ran back to his Mom, he follows his mom everywhere, the mom is currently heavily pregnant and I'm already having a serious headache about this, cos his very stubborn and would gum his mom everywhere. he his scared of men the antinatal male doctors about attending to his mom he will be scared and start crying like someone who his traumatized and cry's always. this issue is embarrassing for his mom and bothersome, he doesn't allow the mom to rest or have a free time except when his sleeping, have been a freelancer and works from home and have been with this boy since the day of delivery and suddenly he doesn't want to see me he won't want to associate with me and cry anytime I want to play with him, he doesn't want me to carry him, have tried beating but it doesn't work just to stop crying for no reason and following his mom, one thing about this boy is, he his is a smart kid that knows and understand his environment and what his doing very well and we his parents don't associate with stranger cos of bad blood we've experience in the past so I'm now fed up and depressed pls parents I will appreciate your sincere advice and opinions thanks

U know get problem at all. Pikin na woman own.

Relax!

U shud b happi sef.

Okonandmary:
The reason is that you are not always at home to bond with your son.

If you take your son out always, he won't be scared of you

Did you read where he said he is a freelancer who works from home 24/7 and has always being with the boy since birth

Op you don't have to worry, he is just a baby and they tend to display different kinds of behaviors during this their baby-ish period. With time he will outgrow all this and thank God he is about to get a younger one soon, no one will tell him he is now a "big boy" before he gets the gist himself.

Jeon:
He's scared because of the previous terrible experience[s] he went through in the hands of Men in his past life.

how sensible....

mtmboss:
okay thanks but his mom already considering taking him for mental evaluation

don't waste your time and money...when your wife give birth, he will have no where to go than to turn to you. The new child will take all his benefits and attention both from you and the mother. Just cool down, abi the mama go carry am for back join the newborn?