yusuf_@:

hmm, so we are this many in Number?  

@ Toba, This your "i don't do s\ex" thing is beginning to get on my nerves oh

okooyinbo:

In Nigeria, there is no point in marrying. If you marry a woman and impregnate her, the child will bear your name. If you impregnate a woman you did not marry, still the child will bear your name. There is absolutely no advantage in sticking to a woman in Nigeria. There are just too many of them who wanna be your MRS.

However, if you are in Europe or Oyinbo man land, dont try to impregnate a woman you no marry o. That one dey bring down finance well well,

Now to the topic, the reasons you are giving are just no excuse not to marry. I have been with a woman who is a very inquisitive oyinbo for almost 20 years, yet I have my freedom. Maybe "modern" African wives are different. I have no experience sha. I could not imagine my aged mother stopping my father (God bless his memory) from doing what he liked doing.

IBEXY:

Where is that statistics to prove rich guys dont marry. For ya info, in ma neck of the wood, only poor dudes remain barchelors. Bride price too cost.

Gbam!!! you spoke my mind.

Hey you young guys!!!. I understand your feelings.

Anyone who thinks getting Marriage is all about being caged is nothing but a nonentity.  Sorry, if that hurts!

One thing you people fail to realise is that as far as LIFE is concern - there is something called "T-I-M-E". You cant be a youth forever. Two they say, is better than one - though it comes with its UPs and DOWNs. Yea, thats how the world is created. Sometime its sweet and some times it bitter. Anyone, who would always want LIFE to be "Bed of Roses" is either a clown of himself or he/she is not ready to face the reality of life. Being TWO, when one falls, the other helps thats how GOD intelligently and fundamentally created the workings of Human Being. It would have been very possible if the factor of T-I-M-E is not included in the equation of man. But so sorry, TIME will soon catchup with you and before you say "JACK ROBINSON" - You are gone.

Who believe say "MIKE TYSON" fit broke?? Ohh, meaning you never knew what could happen to all your riches and bla bla, There is NO WAY in LIFE you wouldn't need an HELPING HAND. Its darm IMPOSSIBLE, I repeat darm IMPOSSIBLE.

Sincerely, anyone who is afraid of getting marriage is afraid of being RESPONSIBLE.

6 years into the school of marriage is no joke. Come and learn, Chicken hearted fellas!!!!!!!!!!

Wetin I dey do here sef, hisssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!

Sicherheit:

OP
Bros, don't lie you just want the Nairaland girls to know you are rich is that not so?
Let us know how many emails you get because we all know the money hungry ones are always lurking.

TeskyMan:

Gbam!!! you spoke my mind.

Hey you young guys!!!. I understand your feelings.

Anyone who thinks getting Marriage is all about being caged is nothing but a nonentity.  Sorry, if that hurts!

One thing you people fail to realise is that as far as LIFE is concern - there is something called "T-I-M-E". You cant be a youth forever. Two they say, is better than one - though it comes with its UPs and DOWNs. Yea, thats how the world is created. Sometime its sweet and some times it bitter. Anyone, who would always want LIFE to be "Bed of Roses" is either a clown of himself or he/she is not ready to face the reality of life. Being TWO, when one falls, the other helps thats how GOD intelligently and fundamentally created the workings of Human Being. It would have been very possible if the factor of T-I-M-E is not included in the equation of man. But so sorry, TIME will soon catchup with you and before you say "JACK ROBINSON" - You are gone.

Who believe say "MIKE TYSON" fit broke?? Ohh, meaning you never knew what could happen to all your riches and bla bla, There is NO WAY in LIFE you wouldn't need an HELPING HAND. Its darm IMPOSSIBLE, I repeat darm IMPOSSIBLE.

Sincerely, anyone who is afraid of getting marriage is afraid of being RESPONSIBLE.

6 years into the school of marriage is no joke. Come and learn, Chicken hearted fellas!!!!!!!!!!

Wetin I dey do here sef, hisssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!

Orikinla:

Most rich guys are married!

Jeez! I buy this STATEMENT!

Laalamed:

Why should u buy cow when milk is free.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
why do you think these men are "scared"?! why didnt you say WISE enough not to fall for the marriage scam, SMART enough to wait for the right person or [b]CONFIDENT [/b]enough to be on their own!

here are a few points to consider:
[b]- with the amount of gold diggers in 9ja, getting married there would equal to going swimming in a river full of piranhas, expecting to come out alive. what insane person would try that?!

- in today's world (with today's laws), nobody needs to get married to get the PERKS of marriage. is that piece of paper gonna make a man treat that person differently?! if they love/care/respect each other while dating then they will certainly still do after marriage, so what exactly getting married ADDS to a man's life, really?!

- many married men are WORST than dating guys. they lay under the cover of a ring on their fingers to do their evil deeds. is marriage an insurance of faithfulness, respect, care, trust?!

- since polygamy is allowed in 9ja, are married guys really all that better than dating guys in Nigeria?!

- by the look of the many threads about signing a prenup, we can clearly understand why a wealthy man would rather date forever rather than marry someone who EXPECTS to get half his hard earned shiit, if they divorce.

- if anyone believe that only mature guys get married then they surely have a lot to learn. sadly, in 9ja marriage is synonymous with happiness so every kids are brought up to believe that to be happy and successful, a personNEEDS to be married, thus the reason why (as soon as they turn 18) every Dikc, Tom, Mary and Elisabeth will settle for any dumbasss/ashi just to get that Mr/Mrs title.

- the only difference between a married man and one that isn't, is a damn piece of paper.

- some women out there have absolutely NOTHING to offer to a man (wealthy or not) and therefore they will just be a "trophy wife". why should a ABLE BODIED man settle for just ONE trophy?!

- if a woman is unhappy while single (with only ONE goal in life: to get married) then she will surely be an unhappy wife. nothing worse than a partner KILLING YOUR DREAMS!!!

- you dont have to be married to have a supportive caring understanding trustworthy respectful gf (aka baby mama).
the lack of tie (aka marriage ring) will have you and her perform at your very BEST forever. . . . . . . . instead of having a partner believe that they dont have to work on your r/ship since they got the ring/prize/title.

- many will have you believe that marriage means RESPONSIBILITY,  N O N S E N S E!!!!!!!!!
a responsible man is someone who can take care of his life, so if you can take care of your OWN and your GF(s) and kids (while unmarried) then you ARE responsible!!!! dont get it twisted.
also, anyone who know what it takes to MAKE MONEY, will also understand that "responsibility" is needed to KEEP THAT MONEY!!

- sadly, many men in 9ja are driven by money, SIMPLY because they believe that it will attract women towards them. so when they make a little something, they spend it all to attract that wifey. that will get them right back to BROKE, and that's when the wifey aka goldigger start acting up, lol! who can blame them?! when the "honey" is gone, the "bee" have no reason to stay!
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these are just MBJ's views oh!!!

favouredjb:

Get married and become responsible

Mynd_44:


So what you are saying is that if a man or woman is not married, then he/she is not responsible. You people need to wake up before the bus leaves you.

NatGas:

I think they dont want the ladies to come and control their money.but that is not the reason why some guys are afraid to get married.I think responsibility is the word.they fear the responsibilities that comes with marriage, but the funny aspect of guys saying I dont want to get married or I will never get married is that when they are about 38 - 45 years they will eventually get married and have their children in primary and 2ndary school when they are 60 and who knows if they will live to see 60.
my advice is that get married on time, have the kids when you r still have strength and vigor and have the grooving as side attraction(if you must) because most guys I come to know that is feeling the the poster will eventually say the word "I Do" so why the delay?

TeskyMan:

Gbam!!! you spoke my mind.

Hey you young guys!!!. I understand your feelings.

Anyone who thinks getting Marriage is all about being caged is nothing but a nonentity.  Sorry, if that hurts!

One thing you people fail to realise is that as far as LIFE is concern - there is something called "T-I-M-E". You cant be a youth forever. Two they say, is better than one - though it comes with its UPs and DOWNs. Yea, thats how the world is created. Sometime its sweet and some times it bitter. Anyone, who would always want LIFE to be "Bed of Roses" is either a clown of himself or he/she is not ready to face the reality of life. Being TWO, when one falls, the other helps thats how GOD intelligently and fundamentally created the workings of Human Being. It would have been very possible if the factor of T-I-M-E is not included in the equation of man. But so sorry, TIME will soon catchup with you and before you say "JACK ROBINSON" - You are gone.

Who believe say "MIKE TYSON" fit broke?? Ohh, meaning you never knew what could happen to all your riches and bla bla, There is NO WAY in LIFE you wouldn't need an HELPING HAND. Its darm IMPOSSIBLE, I repeat darm IMPOSSIBLE.

Sincerely, anyone who is afraid of getting marriage is afraid of being RESPONSIBLE.

6 years into the school of marriage is no joke. Come and learn, Chicken hearted fellas!!!!!!!!!!

Wetin I dey do here sef, hisssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!

NatGas:

I think they dont want the ladies to come and control their money.but that is not the reason why some guys are afraid to get married.I think responsibility is the word.they fear the responsibilities that comes with marriage, but the funny aspect of guys saying I dont want to get married or I will never get married is that when they are about 38 - 45 years they will eventually get married and have their children in primary and 2ndary school when they are 60 and who knows if they will live to see 60.
my advice is that get married on time, have the kids when you r still have strength and vigor and have the grooving as side attraction(if you must) because most guys I come to know that is feeling the the poster will eventually say the word "I Do" so why the delay?

Natasha,,:

odiaero, there is time for everything obviously you are not ready for marriage it has nothing to do with fear me thinksyou haven't met the right woman cos when you do you'll be the one begging for marriage, just take your time and don't let this bother you, marriage is not just something you jump into. as for me if I had my may then I would love to get married at 19