Da Doctor:

^^THIS IS IGBO LAND NOT YORUBA WHERE THE BRIDES PARENTS CONTRIBUTE A GREAT OR GREATER PART. IN IGBO LAND THE GROOMS DOES IT ALL AND HANDS SAME OVER BEFORE HAND. IF U ARENT MAN ENOUGH , PLS SIT BACK^^

[b]IT MAY NOT EVEN END AT THE ABOVE THE GROOM HAS TO CLOTH THE BRIDES FAMILY ETC IN MOST CASES[/b]

Seen this happen!

Omo wa ise o ri ise! Sorry, no Comment.

My sis got married last Dec and we took care of the trads. Her hubby's contribution was providing the items on the list he was given. Even bride and groom's wardrobe for the day was provided by bride's family.

The church wedding also saw us helping out with expenses - not cos d groom couldn't do it, but because its just common sense and fair to contribute to the expenses.

Personally i think whoever has more (financially) should do more but if you're waiting for one party to do everything cos culture says so, u're on your own.

Ohh plzz lets hear a word!!!
If you dont have money to take care of a woman, you can go and hang yourself on a transformer,
Abi una no wan spend money before.
@poster you said your brother, has an igbo chic he wants to marry but because of the money involved he's about changing his mind, BREAKING NEWS!!! Tell your brother he is not in love with the chic, or else common sense should have told him to go and meet with the in-law to be and discuss how they can help him out in the trad.
Abeg make una no dey fall my hand again,

there is a general saying in Igbo Land !!

if bride prize prevent a man from marrying a woman of his choice in Igbo Land it means that the man is not yet ready for marriage.

Marriage in Igbo land is serious business. its not marrying today and separate tomorrow.

a real igbo woman marries one man i her life time(except death)

in cultures where most women marries up to 4 or 5 husbands in her life time, their men knows  it will be a waste
of time spending  money when taking a wife. knowing fully well that the woman can wake up tomorrow morning and pack her loads to another man's house.

my point is if a man want to buy pure water or groundnut, =N=5  is enough.

Marriage cost more than N5 in igbo land. if u no get liver !! gerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrooooout

anyone

M M M:

anyone

When are you inviting us for your Igba Nkwu?.

ZE:

there is a general saying in Igbo Land !!

if bride prize prevent a man from marrying a woman of his choice in Igbo Land it means that the man is not yet ready for marriage.

Marriage in Igbo land is serious business. its not marrying today and separate tomorrow.

a real igbo woman marries one man i her life time(except death)

in cultures where most women marries up to 4 or 5 husbands in her life time, their men knows it will be a waste
of time spending money when taking a wife. knowing fully well that the woman can wake up tomorrow morning and pack her loads to another man's house.

my point is if a man want to buy pure water or groundnut, =N=5 is enough.

Marriage cost more than N5 in igbo land. if u no get liver !! gerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrooooout

you make sense, anyways. But it isnt necessary the sum spent that causes d stability, but rather the culture effect trickled down-you grew up with ur father and mother, and why would u even think of changing a hussy in ur own time, most often, whateva d lady will b passing thru, hv bn experienced by her mom, and she surpassed, imo!

Guchis:

My sis got married last Dec and we took care of the trads. Her hubby's contribution was providing the items on the list he was given. Even bride and groom's wardrobe for the day was provided by bride's family.

The church wedding also saw us helping out with expenses - not cos d groom couldn't do it, but because its just common sense and fair to contribute to the expenses.

Personally i think whoever has more (financially) should do more but if you're waiting for one party to do everything cos culture says so, u're on your own.

kudos to ur family, while ur deeds are passable, it is not the norm in the ibo society/culture. Bride's parents that are not janded in thots and lifestyles prefer the groom to cater all to his ability, then the bride family will 'i du' ie sort of settle their daughter after all festivities with what they have, which may be a building - sewing machine - plastic buckets; depends on thir pocket's depth. Reason for this generally is for the bride to know, no matter how well of her family is, she is now changing into another man's name and under his authority, and should be prepared to abide in her own man's home. Her mother may cite her own case anrcumstances when she got married to her hussy, and how she stuck by him till he was made. The groom is encouraged to spend by hisself to ascertain his size of heart towards his new wife/family, imo.

xynerise:

Everything they will eat on that day will be provided by the bride's father. The groom will just pay her dowry and buy the necessary stuff for the kinsmen.

that is the bride's fanily dey pose. No core igbo would do that! We have a saying that goes thus :'ka aka ha nwanyi, ka ona eji de di ya' literally : the length of one's arm will s/he use to hug the spouse. Fact now, no longer imo.

Da Doctor:

^^PLS POINT OF DIRECTION^^

MARRIAGE NORMS AND RITES IN IGB LAND DIFFERS FROM THAT OF THE YORUBAS IN ALL RESPECTS.

I AM IGBO BUT MY WIFE IS TSEKIRI-YORUBA SO I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING OFF INTERMS OF EXPERIENCE FROM BOTH TRIBE

hi, dont know if you are just stating a point, or refering to my earlier post. If it is the latter, pls clarify the point of direction so I can answer adequately. Or better still, elaborate your experience in marrying from itsekiri! We are all here to enlighten ourselves. Cheers.

my dad paid but he's black american.

@OP, the igbos have already answered you

Tsun:

Ohh plzz lets hear a word!!!
If you dont have money to take care of a woman, you can go and hang yourself on a transformer,
Abi una no wan spend money before.
@poster you said your brother, has an igbo chic he wants to marry but because of the money involved he's about changing his mind, BREAKING NEWS!!! Tell your brother he is not in love with the chic, or else common sense should have told him to go and meet with the in-law to be and discuss how they can help him out in the trad.
Abeg make una no dey fall my hand again,

you should have money

ZE:

there is a general saying in Igbo Land !!

if bride prize prevent a man from marrying a woman of his choice in Igbo Land it means that the man is not yet ready for marriage.

Marriage in Igbo land is serious business. its not marrying today and separate tomorrow.

a real igbo woman marries one man i her life time(except death)

in cultures where most women marries up to 4 or 5 husbands in her life time, their men knows  it will be a waste
of time spending  money when taking a wife. knowing fully well that the woman can wake up tomorrow morning and pack her loads to another man's house.

my point is if a man want to buy pure water or groundnut, =N=5  is enough.

Marriage cost more than N5 in igbo land. if u no get liver !! gerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrooooout

If he can't foot the high bill then he is not ready. Confirmation of your brother's fears

Obiagu1:

The first question your bro should ask himself is whether he could afford his kids school fees. If the answer is 'No', then he should go and work harder before he could think of marrying an Igbo girl.

Once he can afford his kids school fees, then he can equally afford a traditional marriage.

Final conclusion.

What more does he want to hear. The real igbos have spoken. Case closed.

H-Star89:

my dad paid but he's black american.

Did your dad pay for your own traditional marriage or your mum's?

Obiagu1:

Did your dad pay for your own traditional marriage or your mum's?

my mom, shes igbo.

H-Star89:


my mom, shes igbo.

I see.
Would you like to marry an Igbo?
Good no one has paid your bride price.

Obiagu1:

I see.
Would you like to marry an Igbo?
Good no one has paid your bride price.

Sure . Nigerian guys are nice

H-Star89:

Sure . Nigerian guys are nice

Cool. Someone might be interested in you. I'll try and link you up with him.
I'll like to see you back to Igboland.

Obiagu1:

Cool. Someone might be interested in you. I'll try and link you up with him.
I'll like to see you back to Igboland.

cool. I really dont practice igbo culture much. I've been americanized lol.

H-Star89:

cool. I really dont practice igbo culture much. I've been americanized lol.

It doesn't matter, really. You still have Igbo blood in you and it won't be difficult to catch up. The culture is much more modernised now.

You can message me your contact. I think there's a provision for personal messages here.

Obiagu1:

It doesn't matter, really. You still have Igbo blood in you and it won't be difficult to catch up. The culture is much more modernised now.

You can message me your contact. I think there's a provision for personal messages here.

Modern, really?

H-Star89:

Modern, really?

Yah, most of the culture have been 'christainised'.
It's continually evolving with many non-indigenous cultures added.

my mom seldom says much about it.

H-Star89:

my mom seldom says much about it.

She probably won't except if something cultural comes up like marriage or even a visit to her town.

2dmax:

hi, dont know if you are just stating a point, or refering to my earlier post. If it is the latter, pls clarify the point of direction so I can answer adequately. Or better still, elaborate your experience in marrying from itsekiri! We are all here to enlighten ourselves. Cheers.

I am in concurrence with your point bros. I also made it clear that the yoruba and other tribes have differing norms

u okay now?

Da Doctor:

I am in concurrence with your point bros. I also made it clear that the yoruba and other tribes have differing norms

u okay now?

yeah da doc, kind of. But, if u permit me to say, love carry u go far o! Itsekiri ke? Can u gist us, pls? Lol!

2dmax:

yeah da doc, kind of. But, if u permit me to say, love carry u go far o! Itsekiri ke? Can u gist us, pls? Lol!

my bros na God oh! but i dey enjoy am die

nuthing do u joo. Its meant to b enjoyed!

2dmax:

nuthing do u joo. Its meant to b enjoyed!

Being ethnic in marriage decision can be misleading most times. TO ME ! THE FITTEST WINS MY HEART AND UNENDING LOYALTY , THAT IS HER

@jayyem

hello house,i believe everybody is right to an extent,but as of every tradition,some people are well enlightened more than the other,it used to be like that which i do confirmed from my igbo friends but notwithstanding,some people will still try to be greedy
Igbo own is still even much more better,when we calculated the list they gave my cousin that married an akwa-ibom,it was over a million naira,but after so many negotiations they actually reduced their demands.

    U're very right Igbo's own is cheaper compared to Akwa Ibom, also if the bride is pregnant or have children before the list is fullfilled in Akwa Ibom. The groom will pay more including a separate insult goat & gifts for that "Insult!" .

ibibiogrl:

@jayyem    U're very right Igbo's own is cheaper compared to Akwa Ibom, also if the bride is pregnant or have children before the list is fullfilled in Akwa Ibom. The groom will pay more including a separate insult goat & gifts for that "Insult!" .

I think its the same everywhere including Rivers State

I think both families join heads together to foot the bills.

abagoro:

I think its the same everywhere including Rivers State

  Which part is the same? I haven't heard of "insult" list escept in Akwa Ibom. namywedding even have comparisons and listed Ibibio & Igbo to be the top 2 most expensive. http://www.namywedding.com/articles/44-ibibio-traditional-wedding

Comparing Igbo and Ibibio list:- http://www.namywedding.com/articles/90-battle-of-the-tribes-igbo-vs-ibibio-traditional-marriage-list-traditional-marriage-series