My neighbour is confused now and needs advise. His wife wants wants to relocate from Nigeria but he does not want to and this is causing tension. Best advise to them is needed

RedTarantula:
My neighbour is confused now and needs advise. His wants wants to relocate from Nigeria but he does not want to and this is causing tension. Best advise to them is needed

Best option is to give him divorce notice
Happy Jummah Mubarak

It's usually the men that wants to JAPA in most homes so this is quite strange.

Is the wife in a medical line? Do they have kids?

Is he a mamas boy?

James289:
Is he a mamas boy?

He is not

ecolime:
It's usually the men that wants to JAPA in most homes so this is quite strange.

Is the wife in a medical line? Do they have kids?

She's not in the medical line. They have kids

Oladapo3971:

Best option is to give him divorce notice
Happy Jummah Mubarak

Why? How?

RedTarantula:


She's not in the medical line. They have kids

This is a tough one. Is she the one to majorly sponsor the relocation?

Is the husband doing very well here?

Uhmm nsogbu ụwa.

It is obvious each of them have different values.

Firstly, why does the woman want to relocate? It may not be for financial reasons alone, there could be other hidden reasons which have not been disclosed.

Secondly, why is the husband against relocation? He must have his own reasons as well.

It is when each of them disclose their reasons that a workable solution can be advised.

RedTarantula:
My neighbour is confused now and needs advise. His wife wants wants to relocate from Nigeria but he does not want to and this is causing tension. Best advise to them is needed

If the woman is adamant and the man is adamant as well, even after discussions, then it is better they go their separate ways. This is what happens when people plunge into marriage based on frivolous reasons and do not spend time discussing future prospects and the rules of marital engagement.

If husband and wife are committed to biblical rules of marital engagement, the woman understands she has yield to her husband and do his bidding but if the rules of marital engagement are based on the liberal "woke" values grounded on "equality", then the woman can pursue her ambitions even at the expense of her marriage.

Let them both search themselves and agree. If they cannot agree let them both separate. It is better to separate in peace than to live in pieces.

Blaxhex come and contribute here. Let’s see the other side of you

Rozross:
Blaxhex come and contribute here. Let’s see the other side of you

unlike you, as an independent Young man with responsibilities and youngings who look up to me, I have so many things to worry about..
Can't create time dissecting and analysing cock n bull stories on here, (politics, family, romance or whatever).

I only come here nowadays to relax and wind up with my football peeps in sports section, and sometimes I visit the tv movies section. Cheers.

Blaxhex:
unlike you, as an independent Young man with responsibilities and youngings who look up to me, I have so many things to worry about..
Can't create time dissecting and analysing cock n bull stories on here, (politics, family, romance or whatever).

I only come here nowadays to relax and wind up with my football peeps in sports section, and sometimes I visit the tv movies section. Cheers.

You don’t have anything to say because you are from the streets. You don’t have any knowledge to share as regards this. What responsibilities do you have when you obviously live a life of solitude? You’ve buy market since you decided to involve my family in your banters. You have to apologise and go delete that comment else I’ll never forgive you

Rozross:
You don’t have anything to say because you are from the streets. You don’t have any knowledge to share as regards this. What responsibilities do you have when you obviously live a life of solitude? You’ve buy market since you decided to involve my family in your banters. You have to apologise and go delete that comment else I’ll never forgive you

please don't tell me you're this dumb
People who live a life of solitude can't render help to extended family members? Lol

Lemme break things down to your level of understanding.. I dey send house rent money and upkeep money bi-weekly to a cousin of mine wey be your age mate for school so she won't go into dubious means to fend for herself.

You've not seen life so you wouldn't understand.
Stick to licking tinubu's corruption infested ass.

Blaxhex:
please don't tell me you're this dumb
People who live a life of solitude can't render help to extended family members? Lol

Lemme break things down to your level of understanding.. I dey send house rent money and upkeep money bi-weekly to a cousin of mine wey be your age mate for school so she won't go into dubious means to fend for herself.

You've not seen life so you wouldn't understand.
Stick to licking tinubu's corruption infested ass.

Only a dumb fellow like you will ever believe anything you type, do your family members even know where you live? I wonder what your damn problem is if I choose to support Tinubu, who are you to tell me who to support? If you don’t apologise for involving my family and go delete that comment, I’ll torment you both on this forum and spiritually, you’ll know why I’m Iyaebe.

Rozross:
Only a dumb fellow like you will ever believe anything you type, do your family members even know where you live? I wonder what your damn problem is if I choose to support Tinubu, who are you to tell me who to support? If you don’t apologise for involving my family and go delete that comment, I’ll torment you both on this forum and spiritually, you’ll know why I’m Iyaebe.

you're a dumb non-entity, end of story.

Oya swerve

Blaxhex:
you're a dumb non-entity, end of story.

Oya swerve

Psycho like you, I saw where you use your other account to quote this one and deceiving others. You are so deceitful and arrogant, oya go use your paradisvirgin monika when you rest with this one. Mad man

Rozross:
Psycho like you, I saw where you use your other account to quote this one and deceiving others. You are so deceitful and arrogant, oya go use your paradisvirgin monika when you rest with this one. Mad man

lmao, you're such a clown

I'm off, about to get busy. Continue dropping shit all over nairaland... You have the time on your side after all,
you're idle enough

Blaxhex:
lmao, you're such a clown

I'm off, about to get busy. Continue dropping shit all over nairaland... You have the time on your side after all,
you're jobless enough

I ignored you for a long time till you decided to be abusive and I promise you’ll not rest till you apologise and go delete that comment. I’m shameless on this forum and you already know that. I’ll drag you by your balls

Rozross:
I ignored you for a long time till you decided to be abusive and I promise you’ll not rest till you apologise and go delete that comment. I’m shameless on this forum and you already know that. I’ll drag you by your balls

you can suck them while at it

Dummy.

Blaxhex:
you can suck them while at it

Dummy.

I won’t suck a sagged and unhealthy balls who only do dirty cheap girls, I use harmmer to smash them

Lalasticlala, please move this to FP

Ishilove and Beremx, make una advise

Toks2008

RedTarantula:
My neighbour is confused now and needs advise. His wife wants wants to relocate from Nigeria but he does not want to and this is causing tension. Best advise to them is needed

You didn't state the intended country nor visa type, relocating to Cotonou is also relocation from Nigeria.

Mindlog:


You didn't state the intended country nor visa type, relocating to Cotonou is also relocation from Nigeria.

You should know the countries Nigerians have been fleeing to

RedTarantula:


You should know the countries Nigerians have been fleeing to

Nigerians "flee" to many countries around the world!

Mindlog:


Nigerians "flee" to many countries around the world!

OK. It is Chad..

RedTarantula:


OK. It is Chad..

At least, there is a destination.

RedTarantula:
My neighbour is confused now and needs advise. His wife wants wants to relocate from Nigeria but he does not want to and this is causing tension. Best advise to them is needed

Let her relocate and the man can go visit anytime he wants and once she is settled she can also visit Naija whenever she wants.

It's better that way so that they won't out all their eggs in a basket(Nigeria) or (abroad)

If the woman secures her stay abroad she would have secured a life there for both of them and if the man does well in Naija all good.

I know it is vital for a family to live together but securing a solid future is equally vital so let them make hard sacrifices for now for a better tomorrow.

RedTarantula:
Toks2008

I have written my stance above.
I hope it makes sense.

I gave my younger brother sane advice 7years ago, today he thanks me always.

They are now settled in the States.