WatchYourSix:


What do you mean by talk ill, insult or shout at your son....?? Give example....

Im asking because this your complain is one of the reasons men dont date single mothers...

..because their behavior or style of relating or even playing around their lovers kid is always under high and biased scrutiny....they will awlays be walking careful and not be free because of what may get the mother angry

.if it was his real father that shouted at him you probably wont see it as he doesnt like his own your kid...you will just feel he's a strict dad or being funny...

My aunt calls her own 6 year old daughter sisi kpelebe and enú já wire, becos the daughter is very slim and talks alot....yet an outsider dares not make such remarks or related about her daughter if you dont want to see her madness...

dont get me wrong i ddnt say you shouldn't look out for red flags ...i'm just saying u should be ready for things like this if u want to bring an outaider into your sons life....

the same way you will beat your son.....if an outsider does same...u will go ballastic... so u have to learn when to identify when its not a big deal and when to enter beast mode against an actual threat if you dont want to push your suitors away

Thank you so much for this assertion. You wise and i appreciate you for this statement. Actually i am in love with a single mother and she loves me back but have refused to ask her out cos of her son. The little boy is so so rude, finds it difficult to correct him cos of his mom and since i wouldnt want his issue to cause trouble in our friendship, i decided to just watch and ignore.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

His behavior is a red flag but since you're considering giving him a chance, have you had a discussion with him about it? or you talk about with strangers first before you talk to him?

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

best response bro.

This is why its hard to have sympathy for women. They will enter fire and when burnt expect us to feel sorry. No no no

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

That man doesn't love you. Do away with him. He can't love you only without your son. Run far from him.

lonelydora:


That man doesn't love you. Do away with him. He can't love you only without your son. Run far from him.

Your monica caught my attention lonely dora

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

You have valid points... All those asking her to leave the guy etc. won't be there to date or marry her.
Also she should take note and understand how challenging (if it is) for single mothers to find husbands within her society. Though she shouldn't be desperate

Run ooooo

The red flag is in capital letter, don't be deceived anymore

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Woman run !!!!! minimize your losses he ain't the man for you. This is coming from another man

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Focus on bringing up your child

Forget about men now until your son is mature.

Abi dicck Don de hungry you

GOFRONT:
Single mother

Single mother...and so?
Oga go front joor

Normally, love should not be half-half. On a norms na full time stuffs.

Coming here to ask this, makes me want to give you a knock on your head. Your son should be your pirority and him hating the boy, is YES a red flag.

Mufakirnaqdiun:
Leave the dude abeg,you either choose between your son's wellbeing or an idiot who probably needs you for sex.

This is a red flag oo,make e no be say one day the guy go try hurt your kid oo.

It is red flag for her, will you marry her??

Seeing someone to correct your son isn't bad jare, just play your game tight

WeLive:


You have valid points... All those asking her to leave the guy etc. won't be there to date or marry her.
Also she should take note and understand how challenging (if it is) for single mothers to find husbands within her society. Though she shouldn't be desperate

Does she have to be dated just to survive? Partner get rid of that mentality jeeze.

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

You can't conclude that either. It's possible that he hates the son because the son reminds him of his father. This situation is not new. It happens quite often that's why African men prefer not to marry single women with a son.

Guys say no to single moms. Unless the father died or something.



It's a loose loose situation trying to father a ready family. It will never go down well.

You better have sense.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

What more red flags do you need when a serious one is before you?
Do you think that giving him a chance will stop or increase his disdain for your son?
Loneliness and getting your groove on can be challenging, but that is not worth throwing your son under the bus for. ok?

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Please just leave the guy alone, even if he pretends to change later. Just leave him for the safety of your son. Your son is a blessing to you, and let no man make you feel otherwise. I know things are racing in your head now about the circumstances of his birth.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Leave him and go your way.

God just helped me from one like that sometimes this year. She did a few damage but God has taken control.

She told my son to his face that his presence at home is robbing her of my attention. What if she had harmed the innocent boy?

God will give you a better man!

Whixdom:

Are you sure you wouldn't choose your son over him if you guys eventually get married?

The man can walk away and marry another woman but her son will always be her son.

That's a challenge

MaryAye don't be desperate for a man.

Do u need nairaland or a soothsayer to tell you to leave him? If he doesn't like ur son now, he will never like him even if u marry him. The red flag is everywhere. Pls do not jeopardize the wellbeing of ur son for any relationship moreso that he has shown ur son cold shoulders!

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

You want to give him a chance because you have no other option. He's the only man stupid enough to want anything serious with a single mother.

Now you sound as if you're still a treasure.
Madam, take him like that or he leaves you. Either way, you lose one. You can keep your son and a good man.

So choose, your son or a man.

The man sef stupid o. How hin go wan date single mother? (Maybe hin wan chop clean mouth ni sha)

How old is your son?

Mufakirnaqdiun:
Leave the dude abeg,you either choose between your son's wellbeing or an idiot who probably needs you for sex.

This is a red flag oo,make e no be say one day the guy go try hurt your kid oo.

How is he an idiot? Because he showed his preference? The choice lies with the Lady, but obviously the guy not want to invest in raising another person's gene. The filling is natural. That's why Lion kills such cubs

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

how can you say he hates your son, if he's actually shouting at him in your presence then it means he's not a pretender. Your son would need a man's presence in order to be a man. Ask yourself, was your son guilty of what he was shouting at him for?

garriAndsugar:
Can't you read the handwriting on the wall? Or you need glasses?

what if her son is naughty or poorly trained