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Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Wizzyonyxphoenix(m): 5:18pm On Sep 20, 2022
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Kobojunkiee: 5:21pm On Sep 20, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.
And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.
He is your dad, and he got you the phone, and my guess is you are a Nigerian living in your dad's house in Nigeria... LOL... there's not much you can do here, bob! lipsrsealed

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Felimax(m): 5:39pm On Sep 20, 2022
You are 18! So?

Why not go and get your own home and have your dad get off your neck? Answer me!

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Helpout12345: 5:46pm On Sep 20, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.

You will love what he is doing by looking out for you now when you become a man, because you are still a boy now. Forget that theoretical 18 years is an adult thing.

Start building trust so that your dad will not have to doubt you by forcing his way through your phone.

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Efuaye(m): 5:49pm On Sep 20, 2022
Why should it border you if you have nothing to hide?
If he allowed you to have a phone it's because you have shown some form of maturity and integrity!
If you respect him enough, don't betray the trust he has in you!
Face your studies.

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Tokskob2008: 5:55pm On Sep 20, 2022
You didn't ask if it's right for him to have gotten you the phone in the first place or even let you live under his roof but you are only consigned about him checking your phone just because you are 18 right If truly you are an adult you wouldn't still be under his care.

You wan dey claim woke for African parent abi?
That your teeth he didn't knock out earlier might still get knocked out pretty soon if you keep that attitude up.

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Mindlog: 5:56pm On Sep 20, 2022
As long you are in Nigeria, you are under his roof........he is always right. cheesy

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by feranmi143: 5:56pm On Sep 20, 2022
Yo fish, you too hustle hard so you can leave your parent home, any time soon. but he has no right
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:57pm On Sep 20, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.

in this day and age, a father should do anything he sees fit to make sure his children are on the right path of life.... if you want to
talk about PRIVACY then A) buy your own damn phone and/or B) get your own place, buy your own food and take care of your own damn self... until then, abide by the rules your father set.

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Wizzyonyxphoenix(m): 6:13pm On Sep 20, 2022
Tokskob2008:
You didn't ask if it's right for him to have gotten you the phone in the first place or even let you live under his roof but you are only consigned about him checking your phone just because you are 18 right If truly you are an adult you wouldn't still be under his care.

You wan dey claim woke for African parent abi?
That your teeth he didn't knock out earlier might still get knocked out pretty soon if you keep that attitude up.

It's not a question of forming woke, it's a question of being realistic...if he continues this way he might stumble across something that he might misunderstand and cause trouble for me. He's already banned me from having female friends as it is, what's to say he won't ban me from having a life completely. But the issue here is that he should trust me enough to understand that I'm no longer a kid now, and it's wrong to just wake up one day and start going through Ur grown sons phone!! And forget all that brouhaha about living under his roof and what not....I didn't ask them to give birth to me,so of course I'll live under his roof!!! I'm just waiting for ASUU to call off the strike so I can start from there...let's call a spade a spade bikonu
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Chnbanc: 6:23pm On Sep 20, 2022
Tokskob2008:

You wan dey claim woke for African parent abi?
That your teeth he didn't knock out earlier might still get knocked out pretty soon if you keep that attitude up.
grin
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Tokskob2008: 6:35pm On Sep 20, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:


It's not a question of forming woke, it's a question of being realistic...if he continues this way he might stumble across something that he might misunderstand and cause trouble for me. He's already banned me from having female friends as it is, what's to say he won't ban me from having a life completely. But the issue here is that he should trust me enough to understand that I'm no longer a kid now, and it's wrong to just wake up one day and start going through Ur grown sons phone!! And forget all that brouhaha about living under his roof and what not....I didn't ask them to give birth to me,so of course I'll live under his roof!!! I'm just waiting for ASUU to call off the strike so I can start from there...let's call a spade a spade bikonu
Trust or not he is your dad and if he chooses to check your phone from time to time, he has the right to. You should be happy he even cares enough to check what you are up to, to me that shows he loves and want you on the right track. Even some Nigerian security personnel will stop you to check your phone by force so why should it be a big deal for your dad to do it

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Komoscofield: 7:31pm On Sep 20, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.
if he feeds you, clothes and shelters you then he has all the rights, break free and take charge of your life Asap if you want to be respected by all and sundry.

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by maureensylvia(f): 7:35pm On Sep 20, 2022
Yes
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Helpout12345: 10:37pm On Sep 20, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:


It's not a question of forming woke, it's a question of being realistic...if he continues this way he might stumble across something that he might misunderstand and cause trouble for me. He's already banned me from having female friends as it is, what's to say he won't ban me from having a life completely. But the issue here is that he should trust me enough to understand that I'm no longer a kid now, and it's wrong to just wake up one day and start going through Ur grown sons phone!! And forget all that brouhaha about living under his roof and what not....I didn't ask them to give birth to me,so of course I'll live under his roof!!! I'm just waiting for ASUU to call off the strike so I can start from there...let's call a spade a spade bikonu

Who told you, you are grown up? Yes physically but not in mind.

With the amount of madness going on and being promoted as normal in this world today, any parent that love his or her children will do similarly. Especially from the way you are talking. You sound very naive of life and you truly need your parents guidance for now.

Like I said before, your father loves you and that's why he is doing this for you. In 10 years from now, you will look back and cherish what he is doing for you now.

And even after you move out of the house, you still need your parents sincere guidance and advise sometimes to navigate certain aspects of this life until you are experienced enough about life.

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Nobody: 12:33am On Sep 21, 2022

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Fiscus105(m): 1:19am On Sep 21, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.


Is there any reason for ur dad to stop paying ur school fees, feeding & clothing u, because u r are big boy of 18?
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Nobody: 7:42am On Sep 21, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
He is your dad, and he got you the phone, and my guess is you are a Nigerian living in your dad's house in Nigeria... LOL... there's not much you can do here, bob! lipsrsealed

Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by main24(m): 7:46am On Sep 21, 2022
Your dad loves you and he is actually doing what he thinks is the best for you. Enjoy it while it last.
This your age range is an interesting era. You think you see but you are so blind. We all past through it.
You need a caring adult to lead you through it.
Wishing you all the best.
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Nobody: 7:46am On Sep 21, 2022
Op, he's your father and he's only doing that because he cares and doesn't want you in trouble.

You're only eighteen and still under his watch. So he has every right to do that to make sure you're not into any shady deals that can land him in a mess.

Respect your father a d don't go questioning his authority before dem break your left rib for you.
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by GloriousGbola: 8:04am On Sep 21, 2022
Mindlog:
As long you are in Nigeria, you are under his roof........he is always right. cheesy

angry angry angry

You hear that kids

The child psychologist has spoken!!

Now handover the phone angry angry angry

You can go and report me at us embassy angry
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Mindlog: 8:11am On Sep 21, 2022
GloriousGbola:


angry angry angry

You hear that kids

The child psychologist has spoken!!

Now handover the phone angry angry angry

You can go and report me at us embassy angry

For many, you no fit form "human right" under your Nigerian papa roof while still in Nigeria.....unless homelessness dey hungry you! cheesy cheesy

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by legacystore: 12:08pm On Sep 21, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.

U are grown up the day you will pack to your own house. Until then obey his rules under his roof.
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Wizzyonyxphoenix(m): 12:55pm On Sep 21, 2022
Thanks for all your words of wisdom guys. I've already apologized to him, and I would try my best to understand him...I just hope he'll trust me enough not to do it again sha
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Nemesis0147(m): 1:19pm On Sep 21, 2022
Stories like this makes me miss my old man soo much....
I thought he was treating me bad when I was younger until I lost him...
We weren’t even talking when I lost him...went out and never came back...

YOUR DAD LOVES YOU!

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Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by frozen70(f): 1:35pm On Sep 21, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.

Just take it easy with him

He was just being protective, but am sure if both of you have a good relationship, it won't be an issue as you can be sharing things together

I bought phones for my children after high school

You know what they did, they pass word the phones so because they password the phone i dont touch it

When i want to touch it, they open it but already password the whatsapp and gallery

I just stop wanting to open their phones

My own is to keep advising them about life and the risk involved because of their young age

So in your own case, dont challenge him, get admission to school first then password it when you come he will observe that it was Locked

If he queries you, tell him your fellow students were using your data when it was not pass word so you have to guide your phone
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Wizzyonyxphoenix(m): 2:32pm On Sep 21, 2022
Nemesis0147:
Stories like this makes me miss my old man soo much....
I thought he was treating me bad when I was younger until I lost him...
We weren’t even talking when I lost him...went out and never came back...

YOUR DAD LOVES YOU!

I'm so sorry bro. My deepest condolences
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by Wizzyonyxphoenix(m): 2:32pm On Sep 21, 2022
frozen70:


Just take it easy with him

He was just being protective, but am sure if both of you have a good relationship, it won't be an issue as you can be sharing things together

I bought phones for my children after high school

You know what they did, they pass word the phones so because they password the phone i dont touch it

When i want to touch it, they open it but already password the whatsapp and gallery

I just stop wanting to open their phones

My own is to keep advising them about life and the risk involved because of their young age

So in your own case, dont challenge him, get admission to school first then password it when you come he will observe that it was Locked

If he queries you, tell him your fellow students were using your data when it was not pass word so you have to guide your phone

Yes, I already put a pattern on it.. thanks so much
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by frozen70(f): 2:35pm On Sep 21, 2022
Wizzyonyxphoenix:


Yes, I already put a pattern on it.. thanks so much

Thanks dear
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by meobizy(f): 5:24am On Dec 06, 2022
This is why there is no respect on Nairaland. Eighteen years old.
Re: Is It Right For My Dad To Go Through My Phone, Even Though I'm Eighteen? by merieam16(f): 5:19pm On Dec 06, 2022
Police they search ur phone,nt to talk of ur dad

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