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Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 7:23pm On Sep 24, 2022
Hello nairalanders. Hope your day went well.
Please I need advice.

I met my girlfriend some years back and she has been a good girl to me through all these while.

She comes from a large family of 7. Her father had stroke in 2018 and her mother left them all and ran away, leaving only the sick dad to Carter for the whole family.

She gained admission same year and I stood by her side from her first to final year in the university , sending her money on a weekly basis and sent more money to her when there's need for more money in school.

She has finally graduated last month but the truth is that her demands are becoming increasingly difficult for me and her sick father has become broke as a result of spending without getting back.

I won't really say she's a burden but mehn, it's been too much lately.

I am 27 and I plan to get married at 30 and I honestly don't need this sort of setback.

Dear redpillers, I know I've been a simple man but please I need advice from everyone right now.

Seun Lalasticlala
Mynd44 nlfpmod

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Francisanointed(m): 7:25pm On Sep 24, 2022
I must commend you because it is not everyone that can do what you did and doing. Ask yourself, why sudden more demand of more money? Sometimes it is important to say "no" at times because it will help you to see the real reaction of the person. Ask yourself,if you go broke now,will that same girl stand by you. Test her by saying no to her for sometime to see her reaction

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Kollins11: 7:25pm On Sep 24, 2022
You made that decision to spend on her in the first place. She didn't point a gun to your head so make sure you finish what you have already started.

Infact, as it seems now, if that your so called liability girlfriend cross path with someone more financially loaded than you she won't hesitate to dump your chronic SIMPle sorry ass despite all what you've done for her.

You feed her
You supported her sick father
You supported her through school
You give her money for hair dressing
You buy clothes for her
You take her out on a date
You do literally everything for her.

Only to get kpekus in return. And I'm 101% sure she's riding another man's dick aside yours. I hope say you dey take good care of your papa, mama and siblings?

In your next life, try and get yourself a foreign girlfriend when you're ready to hook up again. Stay away from Nigerian girls.

Foreign girls are so hardworking despite being a student, and they are less expensive to maintain because they are very supportive.

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by phorget(m): 7:26pm On Sep 24, 2022
Should I tell him the truth?... undecided

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Abfinest007(m): 7:28pm On Sep 24, 2022
I like that part simple man but the Truthvmeaning is not simple .I tell d meaning later





But as for ur girlfriend sit n down and talk sense into her bcuz she's looking 4 an excuse to dump u .u still have 3 more years

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 7:30pm On Sep 24, 2022
Mynd44 please frontpage
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 7:33pm On Sep 24, 2022
phorget:
Should I tell him the truth?... undecided

Please tell me, I'm all ears. I really need to hear the truth right now.
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by ogashman(m): 7:33pm On Sep 24, 2022
U said she has graduated, is she not working yet?

If she is,why is she not fending for herself?


I for call u simp if not for the fact that u have already acknowledged that. How could u not man up and tell ur babe that her demands re too much for u to bear, ohhh, fear of losing her abi?

See,it is not everything a woman demands that u give to her. There re ways of dodging billings from them bro.

Let her know that u have ur own problems to solve. And u also need to save for una marriage.

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by JASONjnr(m): 7:34pm On Sep 24, 2022
You started it all....if you think that her demands will outweigh you and your plans...then step aside....Look for someone that's moderate and less demanding to settle down with....


I still wonder how people seek for solutions to their problems when they already know the problem.

The moment you can figure out the problem... Solving it becomes very simple....


You know what to do and you alone can take the final step to whatever you decide....

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 7:35pm On Sep 24, 2022
JASONjnr:
You started it all....if you think that her demands will outweigh you and your plans...then step aside....Look for someone that's moderate and less demanding to settle down with....


I still wonder how people seek for solutions to their problems when they already know the problem.

The moment you can figure out the problem... Solving it becomes very simple....


You know what to do and you alone can take the final step to whatever you decide....

If I leave, it means all the stuffs I did for her in the past would go down the drain. I've spent so much on her bro.

Shit, can't believe it got to this stage.
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Sheistoopretty(f): 7:36pm On Sep 24, 2022
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LatestgistTv:
Hello nairalanders. Hope your day went well.
Please I need advice.

I met my girlfriend some years back and she has been a good girl to me through all these while.

She comes from a large family of 7. Her father had stroke in 2018 and her mother left them all and ran away, leaving only the sick dad to Carter for the whole family.

She gained admission same year and I stood by her side from her first to final year in the university , sending her money on a weekly basis and sent more money to her when there's need for more money in school.

She has finally graduated but the truth is that her demands are becoming increasingly difficult for me and her sick father has become broke as a result of spending without getting back.

I won't really say she's a burden but mehn, it's been too much lately.

I am 27 and I plan to get married at 30 and I honestly don't need this sort of setback.

Dear redpillers, I know I've been a simple man but please I need advice from everyone right now.



I think u or the dad made a mistake by sending that lady to the University, a girl who came from such family they can barely eat 3 square meal a day shouldn't have a business being in the University, she could've just gone to learn a skill and maybe after being good at it, they can now use this money u guys wasted on school fees, textbooks and other frivolities all these years to open a shop for her

Now, what does she stand to gain after graduating? Starting from scratch again? If you ask me, I think she's a type of lady that is in competition with her fellow friends hence the reason she's trying to live an ostentatious lifestyle even when she has nothing doing and it's just a matter of time before she dumps u for a higher bidder

I might be wrong anyway.................

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by JASONjnr(m): 7:39pm On Sep 24, 2022
LatestgistTv:


If I leave, it means all the stuffs I did for her in the past would go down the drain. I've spent so much on her bro.

Shit, can't believe it got to this stage.

You just have to make a decision then...To continue or to slide out.....

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by RavagedHeart: 7:43pm On Sep 24, 2022
LatestgistTv:


Dear redpillers, I know I've been a simple man but please I need advice from everyone right now.


You're doing a thankless job. I've gone down that path before and it doesn't have any winning outcome.

You already did too much by burning your resources to see her through school. It would have been better if you used all that money to invest in yourself and try out some business ideas.
You know you'd have become financially stronger, if you did that all those years you sponsored her.

Here. She's poor and from a poor home. She needs all the money that can come from a man to help herself and family out of poverty.

Your options:
1. Amplifier your giving so the money that flows from you reaches deepest point of her financial emptiness. Untill she finds a high bidder and moves on.
2. Stop giving her money and watch her run things with yahoo boys and big gods (that is if she's pretty). While you stand back and wonder.
3. Dilute your giving so she can make it up by getting from other guys, and be ready for a change of attitude and sudden break up.

She's not likely to land any job with a pay that can solve her problems. That's why her getting a job is not featured here.

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Sweetvie: 7:44pm On Sep 24, 2022
Ok. You guys need to talk
Like serious talk... Tell her your struggles and what is going on. If she act unreasonably u will just know that you're only dating yourself and you av not reach ur final destination

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 7:52pm On Sep 24, 2022
ogashman:
U said she has graduated, is she not working yet?

If she is,why is she not fending for herself?


I for call u simp if not for the fact that u have already acknowledged that. How could u not man up and tell ur babe that her demands re too much for u to bear, ohhh, fear of losing her abi?

See,it is not everything a woman demands that u give to her. There re ways of dodging billings from them bro.

Let her know that u have ur own problems to solve. And u also need to save for una marriage.

Yes she graduated last month but she's still yet to do clearance and other stuffs in school.
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 7:53pm On Sep 24, 2022
RavagedHeart:


You're doing a thankless job. I've gone down that path before and it doesn't have any winning outcome.

This advice really hit me, thanks bro.
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by RavagedHeart: 8:08pm On Sep 24, 2022
LatestgistTv:


This advice really hit me, thanks bro.
You're welcome.

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by goshikid: 8:11pm On Sep 24, 2022
Even if I give you advice, you go still mumu, so what's the need of my advice? embarassed

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 8:13pm On Sep 24, 2022
Dear op you have really tried. You have done a lot for her already, i hope you will reap where you sow. embarassed

If her demands are becoming choking ,let her know. The highest you will get is break up while posterity will reward you. The truth is nothing can stop anyone that wants to go from leaving, don't weigh yourself down for someone who may not end up with you.
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by kelspinall(m): 8:17pm On Sep 24, 2022
last time i dated a gal with 5-4 younger siblings i must tell you is stressful,you go dey give and give extra..oga tell her to help herself by finding something to do and sametime his siblings too...

nowadays if you go broke you are gone ooo,no one accepts the broke except a golden heart person..
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Magnoliaa(f): 8:20pm On Sep 24, 2022
Another banger from Wale Adenuga Productions...
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by julybaba(m): 8:28pm On Sep 24, 2022
LatestgistTv:
Hello nairalanders. Hope your day went well.
Please I need advice.

I met my girlfriend some years back and she has been a good girl to me through all these while.

She comes from a large family of 7. Her father had stroke in 2018 and her mother left them all and ran away, leaving only the sick dad to Carter for the whole family.

She gained admission same year and I stood by her side from her first to final year in the university , sending her money on a weekly basis and sent more money to her when there's need for more money in school.

She has finally graduated last month but the truth is that her demands are becoming increasingly difficult for me and her sick father has become broke as a result of spending without getting back.

I won't really say she's a burden but mehn, it's been too much lately.

I am 27 and I plan to get married at 30 and I honestly don't need this sort of setback.

Dear redpillers, I know I've been a simple man but please I need advice from everyone right now.

Her mom left her father when he had problem, she may likely leave you when (God forbid) you are financially down.

A woman will continue to demand from you until she is 100% sure you have nothing more to offer, then she'll move on to the next available man. It's a natural business. Know this and know peace.

In your next relationship, don't build the foundation on money. You can't buy love & you are not Jehovah Jireh (The provider).

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Nobody: 8:30pm On Sep 24, 2022
Magnoliaa:
Another banger from Wale Adenuga Productions...

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by folake4u(f): 8:36pm On Sep 24, 2022
Magnoliaa:
Another banger from Wale Adenuga Productions...

Stop ettttt!!!! grin grin

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 8:39pm On Sep 24, 2022
goshikid:
Even if I give you advice, you go still mumu, so what's the need of my advice? embarassed

I need the advice please
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Magnoliaa(f): 8:40pm On Sep 24, 2022
folake4u:
Stop ettttt!!!! grin grin

See the way him dey tag mods. He obviously, so badly, wants to get to the promised land. grin

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by LatestgistTv: 8:47pm On Sep 24, 2022
Magnoliaa:


See the way him dey tag mods. He obviously, so badly, wants to get to the promised land. grin

I need lots of advice, understand me
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by goshikid: 8:50pm On Sep 24, 2022
LatestgistTv:


I need the advice please
No be only her be girl... If you no do again... Leave!! Them no tie your leg for inside the relationship embarassed
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by folake4u(f): 9:01pm On Sep 24, 2022
Magnoliaa:


See the way him dey tag mods. He obviously, so badly, wants to get to the promised land. grin

I'm telling you.
He go soon see wetin he dey find. cheesy
Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Nemesis0147(m): 9:09pm On Sep 24, 2022
Try bringing up marriage talks with her and see her reaction.

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Re: Please Help, my relationship is depressing me and I don't Know What To Do. by Holybaddo: 12:35am On Sep 25, 2022
Don't get surprised if she later dump YOU

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