Good afternoon Nairalanders, I am here seeking for the best advice on how best to handle this situation.

My friend J has a girlfriend named B.

They have been through thick and thin throughout my stay with them in the city we live, it was not a smooth relationship though but they manage to tolerate each other non the less.

They never got married officially but she had a baby boy for my guy who is 3 years old now, the guys family do not like this girl because they believe her presence in their son's life is why he has not been making any serious progress in life.

My guy has stood beside this girl even when she insults his mum or family member, they both live in the family house, she do travel once in a while to see her family.

Anytime she is away my friend becomes depressed and frustrated thereby indulging in excessive drinking of alcohol.

Early this year he was diagnosed with liver problems which made him to stop drinking for some months, immediately he recovered he resumed the habit again.

On the 14th of September she came visiting again after his much pleading, we went to the park to pay her Tfare.

We came back home together and I left them to my because it was already 11pm.

The next morning his mother called me that he is not feeling fine, after much medication he was moved to a general hospital where he started vomiting blood and stooling blood at the same time, he gave up the ghost around 10am.

It 3 weeks since he has been buried the family has ignored the girl and took the son to another city where she can't see her child.

Just yesterday she called me that she is pregnant. I was confused and angry at the same time. she has attempted abortion and it failed, I have advised her to leave it but the circumstances surrounding her is not helping.

Please elders in the house I need your contributions.

Thanks.

D girl is in cross road which I don't envy at all
Born d child more grevance from d family
Terminate d child age could also lose her life or womb
My best advice let her have d child but try to keep it secret from his family is not gonna be easy sha
Then after some years she can present d child to his family
But one thing I notice us dat those kind of child dey resemble the father die

It's so pathetic. Wish I have advise for her

She should leave the child and seek help from financiers.

They are people willing to help on IG

Op marry the lady and take care of her and the unborn baby. Do that for friendship sake. Chaii

She should consult the family, some heads are not easy to kill as simple as that, lion head no de market , it might take her life , pour me some orijin , the spirits are speaking

Don't even think of marrying that lady o. Marry and pack another wahala on your head. The one your friend faced before his demise should be a lesson for you to stay away from her.

Don't she have family? Let her go back to her family. I am sure they will accept her and the pregnancy. Since they didn't stop her from cohabiting with a guy whom she isn't married to.

Advice her to go back to her family, if you have some money to spare, you can give her. And you face your own life.

darichlife:
It 3 weeks since he has been buried the family has ignored the girl and took the son to another city where she can't see her child.

Just yesterday she called me that she is pregnant. I was confused and angry at the same time. she has attempted abortion and it failed, I have advised her to leave it but the circumstances surrounding her is not helping.
Please elders in the house I need your contributions.

She should know and do what she wants to do.

It's simple bro

Marry her and take care of your friend's child. It's called sacrifice.

Lighting up my ganger

The family has taken the first child, she should keep this one for herself. Shikena!

It seems the lady in the story comes from a dysfunctional family.

The guy's family do not have the right to take the son she had with their late son away from her, she should go to their State's welfare office to report the guy's family for kidnapping, they would bring back the boy to her and arrangements must be made to financially support the boy and he should never be cut off from his father's family.

Her family should inform the late guy's family of the pregnancy, all interactions must be recorded.

Pls take care of her and the baby

1. If she intends to keep the pregnancy, she should inform the boyfriend's family. Keeping the pregnancy is her sole decision in this case. If she intend to abort, she should visit an hospital and not do quack abortion that can claim her life.

2. Her choices should be based on her current financial status and her own family support available.

3. If she has good financial status or her family supports, she should approach the welfare system to get her son back from the boyfriend's family. Otherwise she can leave the son with them if they can take care of the boy better but fight at the welfare for reasonable visitations between both her and her son both ways.

4. She should remember that she has no legal backing to compell any of her boyfriend's family members for any financial support towards the son. They can only do voluntarily.

Op if you don't wanna complicate your life pls follow this advice

fyzaila:
Don't even think of marrying that lady o. Marry and pack another wahala on your head. The one your friend faced before his demise should be a lesson for you to stay away from her.

Don't she have family? Let her go back to her family. I am sure they will accept her and the pregnancy. Since they didn't stop her from cohabiting with a guy whom she isn't married to.

Advice her to go back to her family, if you have some money to spare, you can give her. And you face your own life.

3 weeks and you advice her to keep, seems you want to continue where your friend stopped.

Shalommy:
Op marry the lady and take care of her and the unborn baby. Do that for friendship sake. Chaii

you think say na naija film

xtivin2:
you think say na naija film

Na indian film. Chaii..

Shalommy:
Op marry the lady and take care of her and the unborn baby. Do that for friendship sake. Chaii

This our sexy wall lizard don come again

Shalommy:
Op marry the lady and take care of her and the unborn baby. Do that for friendship sake. Chaii

what da fück did I just read

She is the only one who can decide what she wants to do with the foetus.
I am more concerned about the 3year old. She should go to human right and ensure the family gives custody of the son to her.

She should engage welfare association and get them to force the family to do something

Helpout12345:
1. If she intends to keep the pregnancy, she should inform the boyfriend's family. Keeping the pregnancy is her sole decision in this case. If she intend to abort, she should visit an hospital and not do quack abortion that can claim her life.

2. Her choices should be based on her current financial status and her own family support available.

3. If she has good financial status or her family supports, she should approach the welfare system to get her son back from the boyfriend's family. Otherwise she can leave the son with them if they can take care of the boy better but fight at the welfare for reasonable visitations between both her and her son both ways.

4. She should remember that she has no legal backing to compell any of her boyfriend's family members for any financial support towards the son. They can only do voluntarily.

Every options you need is in this comment. Choose the most suitable one in your present state. Anything you do outside this options will be sentimental to the child's welfare and future.

Shalommy:
Op marry the lady and take care of her and the unborn baby. Do that for friendship sake. Chaii

too much Nollywood is bad for the brain

Shalommy:
Op marry the lady and take care of her and the unborn baby. Do that for friendship sake. Chaii

you funny sha why will Op marry the lady is he the one that poured sperm in her womb?
the only help he can render is to take Care of her and her unborn baby
if you say he should marry her for friendship sake? when his friend was alive would he have allowed the Op to bang his woman for friendship sake?

Karleb:
3 weeks and you advice her to keep, seems you want to continue where your friend stopped.

don't mind the Op himself want cut him own share and produce him own pikin from the babe body

FREDCLSSICO7:


you funny sha why will Op marry the lady is he the one that poured sperm in her womb?
the only help he can render is to take Care of her and her unborn baby
if you say he should marry her for friendship sake? when his friend was alive would he have allowed the Op to bang his woman for friendship sake?

My guy, that's your opinion. Before Op put interest in the said lady, there's a thing in his mind.

Shalommy:
My guy, that's your opinion. Before Op put interest in the said lady, there's a thing in his mind.

Lol
The Op just want nack the babe

Karleb:
3 weeks and you advice her to keep, seems you want to continue where your friend stopped.

Grow up young man, I have serious dislike for abortions and from the way you sound your mind is corrupt and filled with negativity. I don't date my best friend's girlfriend not to talk of one who died in a bizarre situation. Will you have the guts to approach her for relationship if it was your own friend?

FREDCLSSICO7:


Lol
The Op just want nack the babe

You are a very wicked fellow. For your information what you are thinking is nauseating, if you are close to me I would have burst your head.

[quote author=darichlife post=117612235]
You are a very wicked fellow. For your information what you are thinking is nauseating, if you are close to me I would have burst your head.
I'm a very wicked fellow because I told you the truth you don't want to hear ahbi
@Bolded
so if them leave you you fit burst bottle
I go just send you message to your ancestors... shey you want whine me