If you don't value inner beauty, you will be up for RUDE SURPRISES after marriage when all the "love at first sight" syndrome will be meet by harsh reality of day-to-day family life.

You will wake up in the morning to find out that the woman next to you on the same is not the same as the "externally beautiful" babe that you fell in love with!!! Then the inner beauty is what keeps the fire of affection burning.

When I say inner beauty I mean kindness, godliness, humility, patience e.t.c.

I am not condemning outer beauty but in summary it is vain to seek only that. Proverbs 31:30

yes

dear rokiatu, men used to care about inner beauty over outer beauty, but then women changed, and all of a sudden, if a man is not rich, don't have a car, is not muscular or handsome, no girl will give him a second look, not to talk of go on a date. with all this conditions placed on men, before getting a "mate", well lets just say men start to put their own conditions too . i believe the problem started when women started asking for "equality".

cycober, asking for equality by women is not the issue for me, the crucial one I think is that we're living in a superficial world, where showing off what you have is more important than who you are, this is capitalism and its consequences

Nayah:

cycober, asking for equality by women is not the issue for me, the crucial one I think is that we're living in a superficial world, where showing off what you have is more important than who you are, this is capitalism and its consequences

Wonderful contribution; u just summarised the whole truth.

pendo89:

A man told me,'Who wouldn't want to open the cover of a beautiful book or the door of a beautiful car?'
I was asking him why a man would see your looks and declare his love for you when you have not yet told him your second name!
He made me understand that what attracts a man is outward beauty but what will make him stay is inner beauty.
Now since beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder and even those we consider 'ugly' get suitors we can as well agree that everybody is beautiful in the eyes of somebody else.
Am not a man but I try to enter their minds at times to understand them. I know men value both.
One(outer beauty) leads them to discover the (inner beauty) and that inner beauty will determine if the relationship lasts.

plenty sense

rokiatu:

This dude is one crazy dude.

Thanks for the compliment

Op, same way i dated an outer beauty and she made 1st class elude mi. Wel, im dating an (outer + inner) beauty now. Outer beauty = bleeping. Inner beauty = marriage

Inner or Outer,a ni komo dun ko de daa niwa.Guyz,hav i said d truth?

All na Join Join. . .If im to be honest with the op then i must say personally i respect inner beauty but times are jst 2 hard naw and one most definately need to disregard inner beauty coz lately it making no sense. Dats y i said all na Join Join.

Yes, I most confess ooo i value the inside beauty thank outside beauty because what u see is subject to change (outside beauty is deceptive) and what u cannot see is perfect and permanent , it cannot be change because out of the abundance of heart the mouth speak, and a corrupt mind, crook mind is a crook and corrupt outside. what is inside influence the outside. if a lady is crook and corrupt inside it will affect outside no matter the amount of make up she put on is still dirty. that is to say if inside is dirty then outside is also very dirty.

YOU MAKE ME LAUGH

I WILL YOU SEE THE INNER IF YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED BY THE OUTER. THE INNER MAKES YOU HAPPY WHILE THE OUTER SUSTAIN YOU HAPPINESS. THAT IS FOR MEN

IRRESPECTIVE OF ANYHTING MEN ARE PROUD OF THERE WIVES WHEN THEY ARE PRESENTABLE- IN BEAUTY AND SPEECH.
SOME THAT HAVE INNER BEAUTY MORE THAT OUTER ARE ONLY KEPT IN THE HOUSE.

YOU MAKE ME LAUGH

HOW WILL YOU SEE THE INNER IF YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED BY THE OUTER. THE INNER MAKES YOU HAPPY WHILE THE OUTER SUSTAIN YOU HAPPINESS. THAT IS FOR MEN

IRRESPECTIVE OF ANYHTING MEN ARE PROUD OF THEIR WIVES WHEN THEY ARE PRESENTABLE- IN BEAUTY AND SPEECH.
SOME THAT HAVE INNER BEAUTY MORE THAN OUTER ARE ONLY KEPT IN THE HOUSE.

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Brain pulse we 're talking about long term, first someone can attracts you but then?

Inner beauty is more important. but a little bit of outer beauty added will go a long way to complete the package

A man may need a tall woman because he is shorty, a pretty woman because he wowo. He might have been so much bullied because of his small personality and would not like his children to experience such. He might have had tough time getting a woman because he is not handsome or goodlooking and would not like his offsprings to experience such hence the need for a pretty woman.
Some decisions in marriage could be for some genetic reasons

I broke up with  my girl friend because of Inner Beauty

She's so conceited and selfish.

but I definitely don't want to wakeup after marriage wondering, how did I get here? There just has to be a balance of Beauty but on the Scale of 1 - 10, I want inner beauty to close in on 10, while outer beauty can be anywhere between 5 and 10

atasteve:

If you don't value inner beauty, you will be up for RUDE SURPRISES after marriage when all the "love at first sight" syndrome will be meet by harsh reality of day-to-day family life.

You will wake up in the morning to find out that the woman next to you on the same is not the same as the "externally beautiful" babe that you fell in love with!!! Then the inner beauty is what keeps the fire of affection burning.

When I say inner beauty I mean kindness, godliness, humility, patience e.t.c.

I am not condemning outer beauty but in summary it is vain to seek only that. Proverbs 31:30

Fantastic reply.

You have summed it all up.

cycober:

dear rokiatu, men used to care about inner beauty over outer beauty, but then women changed, and all of a sudden, if a man is not rich, don't have a car, is not muscular or handsome, no girl will give him a second look, not to talk of go on a date. with all this conditions placed on men, before getting a "mate", well lets just say men start to put their own conditions too . i believe the problem started when women started asking for "equality".

Sir, not all women.

Men must know how choose a wife based on content (virtues and character) and container (physical attributes).

Depending on what you want, some men go after container, but mind you container do wears out with time, While some go after content only, which is great and lasts for ever, For me am glad to be blessed with a wife that has a fantastic container with good content.

GM compere that's exactly what I said, depends on what you seek

@Nayah.

Very cool my sister, we are on same page. The issue is most men are confused and don't know what they want. And while still trying to figure it out, they end up hurting so many innocent damsels. Until a man knows what he wants, only then he is ready for a serious relationship that will lead to the altar.
Selah!

Fantastic, couldn't said it better, some do not really know what they want!

GMcompere:

Men must know how choose a wife based on content (virtues and character) and container (physical attributes).

Depending on what you want, some men go after container, but mind you container do wears out with time, While some go after content only, which is great and lasts for ever, For me am glad to be blessed with a wife that has a fantastic container with good content.

Okay! Two men are not worthless.

You see Mrs Chima??

I see!

Inner beauty ko, outer beauty ni. Men are extremely visual beings and most times, ugly chicks in heavy makeup, with big succulous breasts and yansh will do just fine.

And when the make up comes off, and reality kicks in what do you do?

It is hard and actually a long process to quantify and verify inner beauty because i personally go for outer beauty because what is out can determine what is inside. Tell us should we look at to determine inner beauty if it is there and is tangible we might change for me i want tangible things.

I wish MORE MEN WOULD JUST BE FUCKING HONEST!

We know you guys like pretty girls and many of you will gravitate toward the pretty girls FIRST and eventually look for more than just her face or body. Come on!

It is not that fucking hard! Yes I said it! Most of you hell ALL OF YOU.

Nsodo that's why we say, in long term, I think this post is about the impact on inner beauty when you meet someone you think just ok
Every single human being think first with first impression whether is for behaviour or physical appearence, but then it's about what it's really important for you superficiality vs sincerity that's the real issue