| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by AFONJAPIG(m): 2:12pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Never never disturb the poor girl.. most time it's not their fault, some women are lucky to marry early while some are not.. lemme tell u this story of mine..my eldest sister our first child wasn't that lucky to marry earlier unlike the other of my sisters that married in late 20s and early 30s.. it become frustrating to her, infact this my sister is the most discipline, reserved, respected, cultured etc among my sisters, I can't even say this guy have dated her before unlike others I knw their boyfriends before they married.. my sister later met a man living abroad when she's was at 38 , along the line got pregnant and the guy told her to keep it, well she does. The other of my sisters were making fun on her because she's a single mum without husband , I and my mother reman her backbone, her comfort, infact I took it upon myself to make sure she never lack, fast forward to present day,the guy later came back after 4 years in Germany, and marry her and took her along with her daughter , she's now in Germany working and with set of twins , now those my sisters that married earlier, now survive at the mercy of her, infact she's the one carrying their burden , she adopted 2 of their daughters and took her along with her, they are now in Germany schooling as well.. as for little me, my sister can no do without me infact I am his executor, I have visit her twice this year not less than 6 months each.. in life never judge motor by it color 5 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by meobizy(f): 2:12pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Nairaland and fake stories are 24, 7 and 365. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by cooljude(m): 2:12pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. Its not your life! Your priority and her own is different. Women prefer to date men better than them or at the same level with them. Probably the options she is seeing doesn't match up to her status. Note: y'all cannot just pick up a man from the village for her. So she will have to navigate her life for herself. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by PAQ(m): 2:12pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
The best you can do is talk to her about it, and respect her choices. Being physical will make u loose her & the idea of marriage for ever.
If you rush her into an unhappy marriage you will not be there to wipe her tears or heal her wounds. Allow her to define what being happy & fulfilled means. If later in life she gets lonely and sad, give her support & love. Dont put yourself in a position to be blamed for a life of pain. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by riverbird: 2:12pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
She feels that the money she is making is everything she needs but very soon her eyes go clear just like Linda ikeji...... very soon |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Olumaeme: 2:13pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
You want to threaten your sister to go physical with her if she doesn't get married?
Interesting! |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by ufuosman(m): 2:13pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
She don't want to use it to worry her mind, she will get married soon. Believe |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Evidenx(m): 2:13pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. give me her number and watch us get married. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by izubext007: 2:13pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Just shut up �� |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by nurudeen181(m): 2:14pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
MufasaLion:
And why don't you emulate your ancestors' way of life by ditching your mobile phone, so as to stop posting about a happy lady that's not married?
you failled to understand that those ancestors used what they have in their time, we use what we have in our time.. those ancestors also ditch throwing arrows diring their time.. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by SeriouslySense(m): 2:16pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Correct, you can give sound advise  However something is wrong with the brother, maybe he needs to sit down and plan his own life and examine himself, more importantly PAQ:
The best you can do is talk to her about it, and respect her choices. Being physical will make u loose her & the idea of marriage for ever.
If you rush her into an unhappy marriage you will not be there to wipe her tears or heal her wounds. Allow her to define what being happy & fulfilled means. If later in life she gets lonely and sad, give her support & love. Dont put yourself in a position to be blamed for a life of pain. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Ogatobe: 2:17pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. Give me your sister's number. Maybe I am the one she has been waiting for. Me too want to settle down with someone who is financially independent. Hope she is pretty? Must be Igbo o. E get why. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Myself2(m): 2:17pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
How you tell her is you face your front, mind your business and DO NOT TELL HER |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by detectivejones: 2:17pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
You're one of those small minded people who think a single woman ought to be unhappy. I pray your sister sees this post and withdraw her financial help cause you no good 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by tundeblack: 2:18pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Face your life. She's an adult. Na she know wetin she see. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Peterrio: 2:18pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. She will eventually get married But like close to her late 30s or early 40s She's more concerned about her personal development for now You should be more concerned about your personal development too There's a way you can approach her about the marriage talk and she will feel supported and open up to you But if you're too aggressive, she'll see you as an enemy to her personal development and dreams, thereby creating a gulf of communication and probably hatred She isn't stupid When you discussed future plans with her, did you ask her about marriage? |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by gr8child(m): 2:19pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
You don’t. You mind your business. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Teejay13(m): 2:19pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Is this supposed to be an issue of concern or worry to you. It's her problem, she knows where it is paining her.
So oga chill and let her be. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Streett: 2:19pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
Then let her at least take the guys approaching her serious. What is hard in that? Would You take Paracetamol for Hunger pang? 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by latolz: 2:20pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
You must be very stupid.. So what do you want her to do, hug transformer.. Don't be stupidly insensitive because telling her obviously shows either ignorance or wickedness..Duh 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by freddie009(m): 2:20pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Rubbiish:
Exactly @bold
U see most people saying what is marriage here are mostly below 30 yrs. When u approach 40, whether male or female, u must feel that absence of family. When u see all ur friends & colleagues now doing school run, u must feel that sense of regret. If i had started earlier. But u can only get this feeling when u approach 40, because by then reality sets in & it is not a good one. U begin to question all u have ever worked for, who will enjoy the money u have worked for, the so called career u are dying so hard to build becomes unfulfilling because there isn't anyone to enjoy the money u are making from it. Exactly, man or woman you going to feel it. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by bigpicture001: 2:22pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
AFONJAPIG:
Never never disturb the poor girl.. most time it's not their fault, some women are lucky to marry early while some are not.. lemme tell u this story of mine..my eldest sister our first child wasn't that lucky to marry earlier unlike the other of my sisters that married in late 20s and early 30s.. it become frustrating to her, infact this my sister is the most discipline, reserved, respected, cultured etc among my sisters, I can't even say this guy have dated her before unlike others I knw their boyfriends before they married.. my sister later met a man living abroad when she's was at 38 , along the line got pregnant and the guy told her to keep it, well she does. The other of my sisters were making fun on her because she's a single mum without husband , I and my mother reman her backbone, her comfort, infact I took it upon myself to make sure she never lack, fast forward to present day,the guy later came back after 4 years in Germany, and marry her and took her along with her daughter , she's now in Germany working and with set of twins , now those my sisters that married earlier, now survive at the mercy of her, infact she's the one carrying their burden , she adopted 2 of their daughters and took her along with her, they are now in Germany schooling as well.. as for little me, my sister can no do without me infact I am his executor, I have visit her twice this year not less than 6 months each.. in life never judge motor by it color liea..from the pitnof hell...those that got married early lowered their requirements and got a man....sh is looking for a perfect man.... |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by gasparpisciotta: 2:22pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. Send me her number, you never can tell |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Troublemania5: 2:22pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Ten is happening but don't go physical on her. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Prince001(m): 2:22pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. Just mind ur own business! Stop using medicine for someone else headache!!!! What will be will be!!!!! |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by yellowgarri2(m): 2:23pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. Reply your DM bro, I pick interest in your sister. That age bracket is what I seek. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by SeriouslySense(m): 2:24pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Thats a very good point. I am sure . She is smart, so maybe this point, may make her reconsider, if she knows it will feel that way for her. Rubbiish:
Exactly @bold
U see most people saying what is marriage here are mostly below 30 yrs. When u approach 40, whether male or female, u must feel that absence of family. When u see all ur friends & colleagues now doing school run, u must feel that sense of regret. If i had started earlier. But u can only get this feeling when u approach 40, because by then reality sets in & it is not a good one. U begin to question all u have ever worked for, who will enjoy the money u have worked for, the so called career u are dying so hard to build becomes unfulfilling because there isn't anyone to enjoy the money u are making from it. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by tyinfinity: 2:26pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
08063741763. My WhatsApp.i will like to marry her please |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by bisqit: 2:27pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Emperor88:
I love this .. same way not everyone will have or deserves to have kids. old age? |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Tamakay(m): 2:27pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Very common with most women in Nigeria. When they have small money they don't like men anymore.
Some are stingy. They don't like spending their money with a man but if na man get, they will blackmail the man with emotional love and finish his money and probably move or begin to insult the man at home.
Men be wise oo. Women have been scamming us with Love oo. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Moneyyman: 2:28pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Even the bible recognizes that not every woman or man will get married.
You want to "change it" for your sister because of her decision to not get married yet?
Bros, calm down and get sense.
Pastor Kumuyi's wife was 65 when they married.
Allow her live her life. If you're so concerned, pray for her and gently ask her. |
| Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by anonimi: 2:28pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.
But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).
As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.
Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.
What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family. As an Intel chief, please why do you have to go physical instead of using intelligence to help her  2 Likes 2 Shares |
