Samantha123:
Well, I'm the last born of the family and I didn't have any younger siblings to worry about.

But in as much as you may feel like a third parent to your siblings, you're not their mother or their father and they're not your responsibility.

If the parents were no more, I'd understand.. but you're still young and have your entire future ahead of you, you still need to figure yourself since your parents never did gave you that opportunity to be you and do you.

You leaving your nest for a while will give them a chance to think of the kind of parents they've been to you.. But before you leave, let them know how you feel of their ways of parenting and how much it has affected you..

And I wish you all the best in your job hunting..

thanks a lot
I needed to hear this.
I'll start making plans

blackpink22:
I'm 23 a girl and a graduate , spent most of my life in a boarding school , then straight to a private uni for college , I'm done with school now, I have no skill ,no job , very few friends that live far away from me and nothing else
my parents still won't let me go out or make friends but everyday I'm hearing marriage , marriage , marriage
I'm depressed , I wish they would just die and leave me alone
to think both of them eloped together against their parents wish and are now forming saints because they older is really annoying

no they do not provide for my needs, pads , toiletries , clothes ,my hair and money , every girl child needs money but my parents don't know that , if I tell them , they'll give me money to buy tissue which is unhygienic, I got lucky and found a man that covers those things for me and more but they were against that too , took my phone away and sent me back to our dry village , I live in their house and if there's food I eat but most times I lose my appetite coz I'm not happy , I wish they would disappear , one or both of them

I'm tired and I don't want to runaway , i just need advice on what to do

lemme have ur number lets talk

blackpink22:
I'm 23 a girl and a graduate , spent most of my life in a boarding school , then straight to a private uni for college , I'm done with school now, I have no skill ,no job , very few friends that live far away from me and nothing else
my parents still won't let me go out or make friends but everyday I'm hearing marriage , marriage , marriage
I'm depressed , I wish they would just die and leave me alone
to think both of them eloped together against their parents wish and are now forming saints because they older is really annoying

no they do not provide for my needs, pads , toiletries , clothes ,my hair and money , every girl child needs money but my parents don't know that , if I tell them , they'll give me money to buy tissue which is unhygienic, I got lucky and found a man that covers those things for me and more but they were against that too , took my phone away and sent me back to our dry village , I live in their house and if there's food I eat but most times I lose my appetite coz I'm not happy , I wish they would disappear , one or both of them

I'm tired and I don't want to runaway , i just need advice on what to do

I can feel your parent love for you. They know boys out there are not smiling. They do t want them boys to show ur kitten shege
Its best they push you out now. Make U collect wetin you want collect once and for all before U marry. Cos if you are push into marriage you will still go back to the street to pay your dues.
Yes hear me right. Its call adolescent carryover
Pls no carry am. If you live anywhere close to Lagos pls dm me. You can start from me. Make I first show Ur pussi shege. My dear I am not insulting U every girl out there pussi has been shown shege and now they are wise. Pray to the lord and say lord Lord who will show me this shege ?

Sneakytoucher:
Good question... Didnt she make friends in the uni too?

I think it's a fabricated story

How can a graduate be sent back to the village

To do what, a research or what

frozen70:

I think it's a fabricated story
How can a graduate be sent back to the village
To do what, a research or what

I tell u..

Fool, you're looking for a way to start having sex, remember what happened to that girl in Abuja, that left her parent house. If you like don't use your head.fool.

I’m 23, a guy. I have no friends tho. Only I do all day is work on my phone(money must be made) and wander in intrusive thoughts if I’m not working. One major difference is I don’t have parents . So you just have to be appreciative for the little help they’re giving. It could be worse

You're welcome.

And I'm sure your parents won't starve your siblings to death when you're gone, they can't be that bad.

blackpink22:


thanks a lot
I needed to hear this.
I'll start making plans

She was sent to the village as a punishment for seeing a man who was providing for her since her parents weren't giving her any pocket money.

frozen70:


I think it's a fabricated story

How can a graduate be sent back to the village

To do what, a research or what

Must everything be about sex

Baronthecelebri:
Fool, you're looking for a way to start having sex, remember what happened to that girl in Abuja, that left her parent house. If you like don't use your head.fool.

blackpink22:


to move in with him would be trouble oh , he's living very close to our house in port Harcourt , that would be the first place they would look

Chill if they are a good people you will get to know them soon but if they are otherwise your result is soon.

frozen70:


I think it's a fabricated story

How can a graduate be sent back to the village

To do what, a research or what

I agree and it's just alarming. To what end is this if you are right?

If you Know the kind of “friends “ that abound these days, you will know you are happy without them

Stargurl20:

Pls, how can one go for Nysc and not return home. I'm thinking of that already, even though I'm in my penultimate year, but I can foresee that life at home after NYSC will be hell for me. I don't have the courage to face that. I'm 23 as well

Chai! Nigerian millennial and gen X parents are creating a generation of traumatic gen Zs. They'll regret this.

It's not easy out there, my dear.
If you already have a skill you're earning money from, it should not be hard. And this may sound cliché but if you're determined, you'll make it. Or you can save your NYSC allowance and invest in a business idea, if you have one.

But my best advice is that you should use this time to learn a skill, preferably a digital one. My suggestion is UI/UX and graphic design. I have a friend who did this and now she's doing very very well for herself.

But don't expect it to be easy o. Learning a skill is not easy.

siofra:


Chai! Nigerian millennial and gen X parents are creating a generation of traumatic gen Zs. They'll regret this.

It's not easy out there, my dear.
If you already have a skill you're earning money from, it should not be hard. And this may sound cliché but if you're determined, you'll make it. Or you can save your NYSC allowance and invest in a business idea, if you have one.

But my best advice is that you should use this time to learn a skill, preferably a digital one. My suggestion is UI/UX and graphic design. I have a friend who did this and now she's doing very very well for herself.

But don't expect it to be easy o. Learning a skill is not easy.

Whaooo! You talk sense today. Well done babe. I will really take that in account

Same Here i'm Just Waiting For D Day D Freedom Will Come

siofra:


Chai! Nigerian millennial and gen X parents are creating a generation of traumatic gen Zs. They'll regret this.

It's not easy out there, my dear.
If you already have a skill you're earning money from, it should not be hard. And this may sound cliché but if you're determined, you'll make it. Or you can save your NYSC allowance and invest in a business idea, if you have one.

But my best advice is that you should use this time to learn a skill, preferably a digital one. My suggestion is UI/UX and graphic design. I have a friend who did this and now she's doing very very well for herself.

But don't expect it to be easy o. Learning a skill is not easy.

My parents are not making life hell for me. They're wonderful beings, but I just foresee that no matter how angelic our parents are, once it comes to marriage and earnings when you are of age and they ain't seeing any signs, they might change side in split of second

blackpink22:
I'm 23 a girl and a graduate , spent most of my life in a boarding school , then straight to a private uni for college , I'm done with school now, I have no skill ,no job , very few friends that live far away from me and nothing else
my parents still won't let me go out or make friends but everyday I'm hearing marriage , marriage , marriage
I'm depressed , I wish they would just die and leave me alone
to think both of them eloped together against their parents wish and are now forming saints because they older is really annoying

no they do not provide for my needs, pads , toiletries , clothes ,my hair and money , every girl child needs money but my parents don't know that , if I tell them , they'll give me money to buy tissue which is unhygienic, I got lucky and found a man that covers those things for me and more but they were against that too , took my phone away and sent me back to our dry village , I live in their house and if there's food I eat but most times I lose my appetite coz I'm not happy , I wish they would disappear , one or both of them

I'm tired and I don't want to runaway , i just need advice on what to do

friends will teach u some hard life lesson. If u lucky to have a good person as a friend thank God. They are just protecting you like the way a Shepard protect sheep from wolves. There are plenty wolves out here. It better you choose your steps wisely

It depends on the relationship you have.

I'm 21 and the no born my mother well to try to control me.

It's because of my elder bro and also my self respect that I'm not over the board.

But if my dad was around, I might not have been like this.

Not because he was harsh but because I respect him.

What's the title of the Nollywood movie

Samantha123:
She was sent to the village as a punishment for seeing a man who was providing for her since her parents weren't giving her any pocket money.

Ok to do what exactly to progress or retrogress

When your parents punish you for something they think it's wrong, do they care whether you progress or retrogress

From what the op said, you can see that they still treat her like a little kid and not an adult.

I guess they took her to the village so that she could stop seeing the man who was providing for her since she said he stays close to their family house.

frozen70:


Ok to do what exactly to progress or retrogress

frozen70:


I think it's a fabricated story

How can a graduate be sent back to the village

To do what, a research or what

it might be a fabricated story but it happens in our society where parents won't give their Adult children some space.

Rach310:
it might be a fabricated story but it happens in our society where parents won't give their Adult children some space.

I know parents can be over protective if their children
But not to the detrimental of their children and them as parents

Samantha123:
When your parents punish you for something they think it's wrong, do they care whether you progress or retrogress

From what the op said, you can see that they still treat her like a little kid and not an adult.

I guess they took her to the village so that she could stop seeing the man who was providing for her since she said he stays close to their family house.

Is even more better because those local champions in the village will love a fresh babe like her

Then she will be put in a family way

That will not clear to her family that they spoilt her future

But I am still doubting the story because once a girl have gone through the university and out of the she starts speaking out for herself

Nigerians, they are just too insensitive to everything. With the rates of people committing suicide everyday. Are they just daft or is this also a sign of illiteracy. Some are even asking which Nollywood movie.

First and foremost, the fact that you are in the village is a added advantage. Far from your parents, you can gain your sanity back, they are your problem. Let's face it. Some parents are just useless.

First solution find a job. Something to keep your mind off things, you have a degree, At least teaching, I recommend private secondary school pls, don't be shy about anything, you're building your life, so you have to start small, at least they should pay up to 35 or so.
Just stay low key. And if you want to learn a skill. I recommend fashion designing.
Always remember this is just a phase in your Life, it will pass.

Don't depend on men, not all are responsible.

Who are you staying with in the village?

siofra:


Never seen a more ironic moniker

The dude is super dull

akwesenana:
It depends on the relationship you have.

I'm 21 and the no born my mother well to try to control me.

It's because of my elder bro and also my self respect that I'm not over the board.

But if my dad was around, I might not have been like this.

Not because he was harsh but because I respect him.

And you don't respect your own mother?! Incredible!

Stargurl20:

And you don't respect your own mother?! Incredible!

She doesn't deserve it.
If I commit suicide tomorrow, hold her responsible.

blackpink22:


to move in with him would be trouble oh , he's living very close to our house in port Harcourt , that would be the first place they would look

He should get another apartment
If he's really serious and you get mind elope

Or talk to your parents first and gauge them

blackpink22:
I'm 23 a girl and a graduate , spent most of my life in a boarding school , then straight to a private uni for college , I'm done with school now, I have no skill ,no job , very few friends that live far away from me and nothing else
my parents still won't let me go out or make friends but everyday I'm hearing marriage , marriage ,
I'm depressed , I wish they would just die and leave me alone
to think both of them eloped together against their parents wish and are now forming saints because they older is really annoying

no they do not provide for my needs, pads , toiletries , clothes ,my hair and money , every girl child needs money but my parents don't know that , if I tell them , they'll give me money to buy tissue which is unhygienic, I got lucky and found a man that covers those things for me and more but they were against that too , took my phone away and sent me back to our dry village , I live in their house and if there's food I eat but most times I lose my appetite coz I'm not happy , I wish they would disappear , one or both of them

I'm tired and I don't want to runaway , i just need advice on what to do

Obamamessi strikes again
Nigerian product, you no dey ever tire

blackpink22:
I'm 23 a girl and a graduate , spent most of my life in a boarding school , then straight to a private uni for college , I'm done with school now, I have no skill ,no job , very few friends that live far away from me and nothing else
my parents still won't let me go out or make friends but everyday I'm hearing marriage , marriage , marriage
I'm depressed , I wish they would just die and leave me alone
to think both of them eloped together against their parents wish and are now forming saints because they older is really annoying

no they do not provide for my needs, pads , toiletries , clothes ,my hair and money , every girl child needs money but my parents don't know that , if I tell them , they'll give me money to buy tissue which is unhygienic, I got lucky and found a man that covers those things for me and more but they were against that too , took my phone away and sent me back to our dry village , I live in their house and if there's food I eat but most times I lose my appetite coz I'm not happy , I wish they would disappear , one or both of them

I'm tired and I don't want to runaway , i just need advice on what to do

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