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Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Originalsly: 12:25pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
It all started with a little fight about drinking water out of the fridge. Are we to believe you drank water from the fridge and your father decided to lock the parlor? ... just like that? ...he said nothing about It before?... no warning ... no instructions ... nothing? We would like to know ... since this is the root of the problem ... according to you. Why would you even fight your father over anything? ... is it because your no nonsense brother disrespects him you feel you are also entitled to do same? ... to the extent you can fight him? Do you realize your brother is independent? ... and is a man... like your father? Since you want to behave like a man .... at the age when you should be in courtship ... which man would want to be with a woman with a no nonsense man attitude? .... and a woman who fights her father? Your father gave you N50K .... you refuse it because it is not enough.... you are entitled to N150K .... you will accept no less. In fact that N50K was like an insult. In the end ... you're asking if you should forgive your father. Really? I don't blame you... I blame your parents for allowing you to grow and mature in your entitlement mentality. The last opportunity your father had to reset you was with the fight over water.... he should've really rolled up his sleeves and beaten the shit out of you ... instead here you are ... still full of it and be up in here in NL dropping it in our face. You are 24 years old ... go look at yourself in the mirror and you will see a whole lot is wrong with you. It is never too late to start working on yourself ... unless you believe you are flawless. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by dododawa1: 12:28pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Problem no dey finish |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by fof1: 12:35pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto: He is ur Dad...Don't Begrudge him for Eternity, Pls. Forgive him but dont Forget it Yet...until the Issues are Resolved. Find a Suitable and Serene time and Engage with ur Father,Pls. Out of 400 Levels...He has done well to Put u through. Notwithstanding, He Should Finish his Work. He Must not Abandon ur Mother no matter the issues involved, Pls. Try ur Best and UNITE THE FAMILY. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Sleyanya1(m): 12:35pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto: My dear, not everyone will understand your story or frustrations. We are mostly quick to judge. The truth is you don't need everyone's opinion. Facts: Your dad cares less about you. May not be because he hates you but because of his mentality and past experiences (psychology). The only escape here is for you to find a way to spend less time at home (good you're working) to dodge the space and interferences. Desire to have money, but much more desire wisdom. Renew your respect for him and tender a genuine apology from your heart. After that, focus more on yourself and peace. So many things to say, but I believe these would help. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Romanoff(f): 12:40pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
AfonjaConehead: As na you dey buy me data. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Abdulramana3(m): 12:40pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
From your story ur Dad has been the one taking care of you till u reach ur 400l and now what happens u better go and kneel down to him beg him to forgive you. He is still ur Dad |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Romanoff(f): 12:41pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
nkpommpko: Always prepared to dish out gbos for every gbas. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by AfonjaConehead: 12:42pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Romanoff:Ok madam, sorry..you know say you popular for here nah,why you come dey act like that ![]() |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Lucrativress(f): 12:54pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Pierocash:Nawa for you |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Lucrativress(f): 12:55pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Zonefree:It remains for you to open your own Court abi Mr Judge... |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by penocrat1(m): 12:56pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Psychology 101 Has your father always been like this? Have you sat your father to discuss this issues with him and how things can get getter? Is there something you are doing that your father does not like? Is there something that your mother is doing that your father does not like? Have you called your mother aside and asked her what she thinks is the course of this recent development? You are 24 years old, If home is not conducive, leave home but maintain constant communication. You rejected your father's 50k, how do you want him to feel low key. Be grateful for every little gesture. What if he was testing you? You should have collected the money and gifted you mother or use it to restock the house. Is your father looking happy? What do you think changed? Is he in debt? If he is a business man. How is his business fairing? If he is a retiree, has he been happy since retirement? Who does your father respect,fear or listen to his words be it religious leader, relative or friend. Talk to the person to talk to your father and when you are narrating the ordeal do not make your father look bad in their sight. Just tell the person that there is a recent development that you want the person to talk to your father for positive change. Don't take sides all the time with your parents especially when you don't really know the root of the problem. Finally forgive your parents.there is no law that said you should love them. The law only said you should respect and honour them. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Romanoff(f): 1:02pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
AfonjaConehead: Act like how? The post no show say she be woman. Anybody wey dey regular for here spos know say that "f" sign for her post no mean anything, even guys dey open account dey use the "f" sign. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Mamaab: 1:03pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
We need to hear from your father |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ephemmm: 1:16pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Tukor1759: She is seeing her father in the way he was painted by her mother, and this has lead to unconscious disposition of hatred towards her father. A father who has been responsible so far can't just stop to doing so overnight; something might have caused it. You can also see that her entitlement mentality is second to none and she need to work on this. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ephemmm: 1:24pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
usah4: Your son will punch you when you grow up and you will learn in hard way. So, are you telling me that a father who has been responsible so far will just stop overnight without a cause? She feels comfortable beating a three year old kid, but has the gut to raise her hand against her father when corrected. Yet, you are here spewing rubbish. Her relationship with her father got severed due to the hatred and complaints handed over to her by her mother. Imagine, she even have a right to reject 50,000, but she is finding it difficult to realize 1,000 per day as a grown up adult. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by gabemuyi: 1:36pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto: My lady I know you are really angry. I would just tell you to leave the man alone. It's not worth it. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by luluosas(m): 2:06pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
I was 21 when I left the village for town after my secondary school and I started taking care of myself since then. So, you have no reason to hate your father, seek his love and he will do more for you |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Karleb(m): 2:25pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto: He does not deserve your forgiveness. You have to cut him off until he comes back to his senses. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Karleb(m): 2:31pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
The people are responding to this thread is the same way people usually respond to earning 100k per month. They think it's cool and a lot until they start earning it. ![]() I wish some of these guys would have the treatment this lady had, maybe by then they'd be able to give an informed contribution. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by ojinuocheibi(m): 2:56pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto:he might need prayer but you guy will not know. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by bepositive11: 2:57pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Pierocash: When you see a disrespectful child, you will see a disrespectful parent. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ashirioluwa: 2:58pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Leave your mom out of this. It’s not a bad idea if you start from the point where your dad stopped assisting you. At 24, you are a man. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ayomivic(m): 3:07pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Pierocash: She talked about what her father was doing that she did not like but she did not boder to know what herself and her mom were doing that the father doesn't like. You must submitt yourself to the control of your father. No man would want to bow to the command of his wife or his daughter or son. He is the head of the family. The king of the family. Yo enjoy him , you must accept him as that. Are you into wook up what do you people called it. O don't know how to take survive in school when your parents did not send money to you. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ayomivic(m): 3:11pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto: I don't know you but I begin fear you if you can do that to 3 years old no matter the reason |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by bumy27(f): 3:15pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Almost in same shoe just that my story is a bit different. I just consider myself as an orphan since the death of my mum since 2015 |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Dest8sman: 3:25pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Leave your father to himself. It is his turn today, tomorrow might be your own. What goes round must come round. I'm saying this because I know how some parents behave. A word is enough to the wise. Pronto. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by AfonjaConehead: 3:44pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Romanoff:Yes nah,I do it at times when I wanna get naughty hehe ![]() I stopped when one bronco was trying to get drunk... |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ibelearner: 3:45pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Kill pride my dear |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Exceed15: 3:46pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Your behavior to your dad is what your mother taught you. Relate with your father with full respect and see his reaction. Be wise, someday u will marry. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by SPAMBOX7: 3:50pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Enacto:Your story is funny and hard to believe but I have read worse. You type well tho seem like you a smart girl. Come live with me next year at lekki if you beautiful and chocolate/light skinned. That's if you'd be okay doing gee. That's my only way to help you get a house of your own and live your life in peace without having to ask anyone for money not even yoir dad or boyfriends. If you can't do gee then no way I can help you. Also if you dark-skinned and dumb don't bother. Waste of time and resources |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ijb11: 4:12pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Really |
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