Don’t you have dreams?
Aspirations?
Listen, I can give you a gazillion reasons not to rush into having sex but chances are, as soon as that man calls your name, you’ll throw caution to the wind and just hump away.
Yes, you’re an adult.
You can decide whatever you wanna do with your body…. But sex is really something grown folks get tired of at some point.
You really should take your time.
Calm TF down!
Own your raging hormones, tame em!

God speed.

Bloommax:
The only thing on my mind right now is a way I'll find an excuse to leave the relationship. I'm grateful that everyone here took their time to advice me. I'm not the type that throws wise words away. I just hope God strengths me and make me avoid all temptations. Thank you.

See this one

You are dealing with your enemy, a thief and a destroyer

Someone you should excommunicate yourself from automatically..cut his line off...you are waiting on finding an excuse....I pity you

Bloommax:

Wonderful evening to y'all.

I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.

Let me cut to the chase.

I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.

I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.

Sex never determines marriage, but love does, but it's not enough

Can you cope with distance relationship with out coming here to complain of him not responding since after your first sex

Who told you that he has not had sex since a year, yet he is sex active, who does that and you believe him

One thing is to promise a woman marriage
Another thing is to fulfill it

If he will wait to marry you after school as he has said

Why can't he wait for you and have sex with you on your wedding night and take the respect that you kept yourself for him

I think he is sweet mouthing you with those promise of marriage so that you can submit, i bet you, you won't be able to cope especially as he's going to end the relationship when you are still thinking that the relationship is on

So keep yourself if you can and let him keep his sweet mouth till he is man enough to marry you

Distance relationship is for more matured women who are not new into relationships

Then as for the idiot that said that you should keep same sex relationship that it's better than opposite sex

She is leading you into a wicked bad world of hers
Run from her

Bloommax:
The only thing on my mind right now is a way I'll find an excuse to leave the relationship. I'm grateful that everyone here took their time to advice me. I'm not the type that throws wise words away. I just hope God strengths me and make me avoid all temptations. Thank you.

The only reason he is dating you is to get to your pant and have a feel of what it's like to deflower a virgin. Believe me he is really taking his time to gradually make you surrender it to him willingly without giving you any suspicion or guilty feeling.

Starz825:

See this one

You are dealing with your enemy, a thief and a destroyer

Someone you should excommunicate yourself from automatically..cut his line off...you are waiting on finding an excuse....I pity you

I've done that already, he's out of my life already and I don't regret taking people's advice here.

Houseofglam7:
Don’t you have dreams?
Aspirations?
Listen, I can give you a gazillion reasons not to rush into having sex but chances are, as soon as that man calls your name, you’ll throw caution to the wind and just hump away.
Yes, you’re an adult.
You can decide whatever you wanna do with your body…. But sex is really something grown folks get tired of at some point.
You really should take your time.
Calm TF down!
Own your raging hormones, tame em!

God speed.

Everyone has a dream. You talk like it's easy to calm raging hormones. I do sometimes just that once in a while it gets out of control. I'm done with relationships now or anything related. He's out of my life now. I've blocked and deleted his number and I don't regret it.
Thanks for your advice though.

frozen70:


Sex never determines marriage, but love does, but it's not enough

Can you cope with distance relationship with out coming here to complain of him not responding since after your first sex

Who told you that he has not had sex since a year, yet he is sex active, who does that and you believe him

One thing is to promise a woman marriage
Another thing is to fulfill it

If he will wait to marry you after school as he has said

Why can't he wait for you and have sex with you on your wedding night and take the respect that you kept yourself for him

I think he is sweet mouthing you with those promise of marriage so that you can submit, i bet you, you won't be able to cope especially as he's going to end the relationship when you are still thinking that the relationship is on

So keep yourself if you can and let him keep his sweet mouth till he is man enough to marry you

Distance relationship is for more matured women who are not new into relationships

Then as for the idiot that said that you should keep same sex relationship that it's better than opposite sex

She is leading you into a wicked bad world of hers
Run from her

Thank you so much!!

Bloommax:
Thank you so much!!

Thanks dear

Bloommax:
Everyone has a dream. You talk like it's easy to calm raging hormones. I do sometimes just that once in a while it gets out of control. I'm done with relationships now or anything related. He's out of my life now. I've blocked and deleted his number and I don't regret it.
Thanks for your advice though.

That’s why I said OWN AND TAME!!!!!
You are welcome.

FromOuterSpace:
Girl, listen to me and listen very well.

1. You're 19. Not only should you still be a virgin at 19, but you should keep your virginity for as long as you can. You've only been dating this man for 7-months, and the fact that you're going back and forth about it means you're not ready, so don't do it. Even if you're sure about it, don't do it now or anytime soon.

2. You have no business dating a 34-year old. You're 19. Find a guy in his 20s to date, not someone 15-years older than you. Quite frankly, it's sickening of him to be preying after someone 15-years his junior. It's giving perversion and pedophilia.

3. You're asking if you should have sex with him and hope he'll marry you thereafter. Sweetheart, that is foolishness. A smart lady doesn't move like that. Why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? Nigeria has enough single mothers already and many are in their 20s. Please don't become a statistic.

4. A man who loves you will wait until after marriage. He will marry you first, especially if you're a virgin. Point. Blank. Period. One thing I liked about my ex, even though he was a cheater (because I didn't want to sleep with him and why I eventually broke up with him and have no regrets about it) is that he never pressured me for sex and always said he would wait until after marriage. If a man has any ounce of love for you, that's what he will tell you and he most definitely will not pressure you for sex. No man who has ever truly loved a woman has asked her to sleep with him without/before marriage. That is not love, but lust.

5. The fact that he's having sexual discussions with you and telling you these things when your discussions should revolve around you finishing your studies or anything uplifting are enough to know this your relationship is lust-based and he's only pleasure-seeking.

You're sick!

Bloommax:

Wonderful evening to y'all.

I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.

Let me cut to the chase.

I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.

I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.

And should in case you break up and need a new man in his early twenties to patch up with ? I’ll be willing to take it up , just send me a mail and I’ll send your my WhatsApp number ciao

Luiz321:
And should in case you break up and need a new man in his early twenties to patch up with ? I’ll be willing to take it up , just send me a mail and I’ll send your my WhatsApp number ciao

I don't need any man now.

Kaii, this babygirl is about to fall into temptation from an experienced old bachelor. My dear, that man has disvirgined other innocent girls, so why didn't he marry any of those girls? Keep your legs tightly shut. Let him go to helll if he refused to wait for you. NO MARRIAGE NO SEX, ,that's if you are even sure you would be comfortable marrying a man with such age gap.

He is an opportunist, lurking around the internet searching for virgins. Block him on all social media apps if he mounts too much pressure on you. You are only 19yrs, think well, pray and be very careful before choosing a man. If he truly loves you let him him marry you now or wait till you write your final year exams.

Bloommax:
The only thing on my mind right now is a way I'll find an excuse to leave the relationship. I'm grateful that everyone here took their time to advice me. I'm not the type that throws wise words away. I just hope God strengths me and make me avoid all temptations. Thank you.

The strength you need is made available for you, kindly utilise it.

Thanks to those that contributed to the topic. Sexual liberation has its consequences like everything you do on earth. If you feel you can live with it, then go have your fun but if you really love your peace of mind you should focus on other areas that matters to you.

Bloommax:
I don't need any man now.

lol I respect your decision! Where do you stay actually? And do you mind if we’re friends? I like to make new friends

Continue

Bloommax:

Wonderful evening to y'all.

I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.

Let me cut to the chase.

I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.

I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.

Not right
Abort mission
Stay away from mumu small boys
Single motherhood is not a joke
.
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1. He's 34. My dear he's MARRIED which one is long distance relationship.
2. He has been having sex reegular with his wife and side chick you're just an addition to his list

Gollow your father's advice

Please face your studies. You have no business dating some you met online now.

Keep your virginity my dear sister. You wont regret it. You are still young

OP run o

Bloommax:
It isn't. All I need is the right advice.

U don't need a boyfriend at this age. You need men when you're set to marry and even that is called courtship.

You can't have a boyfriend as in boyfriend in the right sense of the word and not be sexually active. So you know what you're in for.

Bloommax:
Thank you so much for this ma.

Are you so daft that you never knew about all what she said before?

How can you be dating a man who's 34 and yoire just 19? Like Are you okay? Is it his biy Dick that is turning you on? Oh! I'm sure it's the money that he usually sends to you that's making your pussy wet.

FromOuterSpace:
Girl, listen to me and listen very well.

1. You're 19. Not only should you still be a virgin at 19, but you should keep your virginity for as long as you can. You've only been dating this man for 7-months, and the fact that you're going back and forth about it means you're not ready, so don't do it. Even if you're sure about it, don't do it now or anytime soon.

2. You have no business dating a 34-year old. You're 19. Find a guy in his 20s to date, not someone 15-years older than you. Quite frankly, it's sickening of him to be preying after someone 15-years his junior. It's giving perversion and pedophilia.

3. You're asking if you should have sex with him and hope he'll marry you thereafter. Sweetheart, that is foolishness. A smart lady doesn't move like that. Why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? Nigeria has enough single mothers already and many are in their 20s. Please don't become a statistic.

4. A man who loves you will wait until after marriage. He will marry you first, especially if you're a virgin. Point. Blank. Period. One thing I liked about my ex, even though he was a cheater (because I didn't want to sleep with him and why I eventually broke up with him and have no regrets about it) is that he never pressured me for sex and always said he would wait until after marriage. If a man has any ounce of love for you, that's what he will tell you and he most definitely will not pressure you for sex. No man who has ever truly loved a woman has asked her to sleep with him without/before marriage. That is not love, but lust.

5. The fact that he's having sexual discussions with you and telling you these things when your discussions should revolve around you finishing your studies or anything uplifting are enough to know this your relationship is lust-based and he's only pleasure-seeking.

Op everything this person typed here is correct apart from the bolded in No.4(they are sometimes true but NOT ALWAYS true.....Overall, at your age u should either not be in a romantic relationship or be in one with a guy who will be discussing studies and career prospect with you at this your age. SO break away from that man.
Also do not listen to that your friend that asked you to have sex with your gender. Stay away from Sex at your age...Change ur circle, ur friend is bad, ur boyfriend(abi na sugar daddy) is also bad

Richy4:


I'm glad she hasn't encountered "I am sick format ".... Me and my circle of friends call that NIFES format Wayback in Uni because it's common with the 'Brothers in the Lord'...

They will fake sickness and u will see sister Georgina telling Sister Funke that brother Paul was sick... That one will scream devil is a liar.. kabbaashammarahakundo!!!...

Both of them will rush to Paul's house and find sister Jane already preparing Noodles...
And war of looks and eye blazing will start..each trying to outdo the other on who is a better wife material...

Brother Paul will have any of them at his convenient... those are still ancient format.. even David's son used that format in the Bible...

Many Young ladies like to see men in what looks like their vulnerable state..and they will like to help. Most times, that is the time that they should put their guard up... when a man u are not ready to have sex with says he's sick for u to nurse.. Help but know when to draw the line to avoid unnecessary mistakes...

you must have been very active with campus fellowship,

The ones I hate most are the canopy/umbrella ministry gang, hangers association they will not allow better brother see sister, crowding around her, talk them no go talk wetin dey their mind , people will be assuming he has something with sister and nothing oo but they will not leave sister alone. God forbid evil umbrella.

Wetin person no go read on nairaland

Luiz321:
And should in case you break up and need a new man in his early twenties to patch up with ? I’ll be willing to take it up , just send me a mail and I’ll send your my WhatsApp number ciao

Patch up. Imagine
Are you so desperate ni
Level the young lady alone

Bloommax:

Wonderful evening to y'all.

I just discovered Nairaland few weeks ago and I've read so many informative things and people's story. Some get advised and some get bashed when they drop their stories here, I hope I wouldn't.

Let me cut to the chase.

I'm 19, I'm a virgin and I'm a 300lvl student. I have a boyfriend that is 15years older than I am and he's sexually active. We met on online. We've known each other for seven months. We both love each other really well, even with the ups and downs that we've had in our relationship. This relationship is a long distance relationship. Now the thing is my boyfriend who is sexually active hasn't had sex for almost a year and lately he's been craving for sex. Sometimes I'll tell him I'm ready to have sex and other times I change my mind because of fear. I've been undecided about having sex. I thought about having sex with him maybe it'll make our bond stronger. He isn't married, he has no kids but he says he wish to marry me as soon as I graduate from the university. To be a virgin in a university isn't easy, there are temptations everywhere. Sometimes I get so tired of being a virgin and just want to have sex but other times I just want to keep it. One of my friends who is also my age had sex in 2019 and she has been sexually active ever since, she told me sex with males aren't really worth it, that if I'm ready I should try having sex with my gender because it's freaky.

I need advice please, should I have sex with this guy and hope that he'll marry me. Or I shouldn't and just be patient. He coming to meet me in two weeks time.

Ahh he's about to taste the cherry, and he's the first, lucky guy, it'll take grace of God for him to still marry you after you're done with school, cuz any right thinking man won't be comfortable with his virgin girlfriend schooling in some faraway place where there's temptations everywhere, he'd think you do it in school since you're not a virgin anymore, him just wan chop him share nothing more, keep your virginity o, the old man you're dating has had sex several times, why didn't he marry any of those girls in his escapades, na you him wan marry, what made you think you're special and he won't discard you like his old sexual partners, if he's in a hurry let him put a ring on it, I still regret the day I lost mine to an expert, girl wey don f*cK tire disvirgin me, e pain me die, cuz she was my first meanwhile I am her 5th abi 9th I don't even know.

Come make I marry you, you guy wan knack. It won't be bad to have a tear rubber lady as a wife.

I advise you not to have sex, you've tried already and you jus have two more years to be done with school, be more patient and if he truly loves you he will wait and even encourage you.
Secondly he can marry you even while in school.
I married my wife when she was at 400lvl from the University and she is running her PHD today at ABU...me I am still hustling making money with my degree and I don't plan to go back to school.
Secondly Alot of blessings come with been a virgin...note that the instant you have premarital sex with him, you will become enslaved to him and you wi always crave for more....
Lastly at 19 you should be a virgin and remain so till marriage.
stay away and finish the good journey you've started.