Klass99:


Lmao, I can see how you got yourself into this mess.

If I were you, I will look for a childless couple willing to adopt and put up this last child for adoption. I'll ask them to please handle the hospital bills as part of the process, while I negotiate a substantial adoption fee to help me start over in life.

It will be a win-win situation for all parties;

1. Your child will be with responsible individuals capable of caring for him or her and they won't have to suffer from you and your baby daddy's folly.

2. A childless couple will be made happy.

3. You will get a chance to clean up your act and enough money to make a fresh start.

Foolish women like you irritate my soul to no end. Critical thinking is usually far from you people and you make poor life choices over and over.

NemoDatQuod:
When you talk about what the scriptures say, you should quote it. Else, I won't listen or respond. I don't have time for so called men of god.

You should also read my comments well. Maybe you will understand. I use the logical part of the brain I have been blessed with.

Franciscabless:


Amen thanks I am not having anymore kids I need to focus on my life and make sure I deal with him well well for child support. Even if we will not be together anymore he should at least be taking care of his offsprings

Klass99:


Lmao, I can see how you got yourself into this mess.

If I were you, I will look for a childless couple willing to adopt and put up this last child for adoption. I'll ask them to please handle the hospital bills as part of the process, while I negotiate a substantial adoption fee to help me start over in life.

It will be a win-win situation for all parties;

1. Your child will be with responsible individuals capable of caring for him/her. That child won't have to suffer from you and your baby daddy's folly.

2. A childless couple will be blessed and made happy.

3. You will get a chance to clean up your act and enough money to make a fresh start. Hopefully, you'll do better than you've done so far.

Foolish women like you irritate my soul to no end. Critical thinking is usually far from you people and you make poor life choices over and over again.

BRATISLAVA:


He should take care of them. You aren't entitled for wanting him to take up his responsibility. After all, you didn't make the child by yourself.

But in the event that he doesn't want to be a man, you will just have to pick up his slack. Don't put your hopes on a man that wants to live without you, especially if you've tried talking to him about it.

Just follow your mom and help her out, grow your business together. When you can, improve your skills. It will be okay. Use the welfare you mentioned to bring him to order when you can and how you can. Don't let him get off easy then come back after 20 years to tell your children lies about why he left you. Document it. If it doesn't work out, just focus on your family.

BRATISLAVA:


He should take care of them. You aren't entitled for wanting him to take up his responsibility. After all, you didn't make the child by yourself.

But in the event that he doesn't want to be a man, you will just have to pick up his slack. Don't put your hopes on a man that wants to live without you, especially if you've tried talking to him about it.

Just follow your mom and help her out, grow your business together. When you can, improve your skills. It will be okay. Use the welfare you mentioned to bring him to order when you can and how you can. Don't let him get off easy then come back after 20 years to tell your children lies about why he left you. Document it.

Franciscabless:



Shame on you idiot i can see that you are jalous because i am blessed with 3 daughters and you have none. You want me to give them up so i can be barren like you guess what we can never be the same because i know the joy of motherhood something u will never experience in your entire life plus a real mother that am I can never give my baby away not matter how much the suffering. As long as my mum is alive I will not give up any of my children for adoption , am not the cause of to your problem go and ask your ancestors to tell you the reason why you haven't been able to conceive. Barren bitter woman like you irritate my soul to no end too because you can never be happy for people like us who are blessed with children. Stop taking paracetamol on my headaches

GboyegaD:


Motherhood isn't about just birthing children it involves catering for them. Stop insulting those who might not have had any for reasons best known to them.

Klass99:


The Brat .

At the bolded, she shouldn't be having any more kids period. Whether with responsible or irresponsible men.

Motherhood is not for everyone and she clearly lacks the mentality, resources and spine to handle it. It goes beyond fcking and giving birth.

Why do some women sabotage and short-change their lives like this? We need to make better choices with self care and self preservation in mind.

Franciscabless:


Stfu Irresponsible fool, fatherhood is not also about pouring sperm inside vagina and abandoning the child for the mother to cater for alone. it is about taking 99% responsibility

BRATISLAVA:


Klass de Klassik

I think she's a very young woman and not very equipped to handle what's happened, hence her anger. We don't really know how she came to be in this position and what the man told her before he ran off. But it is best she doesn't have any kids with another irresponsible man.

I know why I said so. The responsible are far and few between nowadays, so she will have to take time before she does that again till when she can find a man who isn't a deadbeat.

GboyegaD:


Stop encouraging what is not. They should raise the kids together including financially. What is she bringing to the table as regards upkeep for the children?

GboyegaD:


Since we don't know the bolded, why are you keep acting as though the man is highly irresponsible?

GboyegaD:


Worst is you aren't even catering for the children since your mom is the one taking care of them. That said, the father doesn't need take care of 99% responsibility because the child is birthed by both of you. You both should take responsibility.

Dem go soon knack your type another belle. Dey run mouth anyhow meanwhile, sense you no get.

Franciscabless:



Shame on you idiot i can see that you are jalous because i am blessed with 3 daughters and you have none. You want me to give them up so i can be barren like you guess what we can never be the same because i know the joy of motherhood something u will never experience in your entire life plus a real mother that am I can never give my baby away not matter how much the suffering. As long as my mum is alive I will not give up any of my children for adoption , am not the cause of to your problem go and ask your ancestors to tell you the reason why you haven't been able to conceive. Barren bitter woman like you irritate my soul to no end too because you can never be happy for people like us who are blessed with children. Stop taking paracetamol on my headaches

Mindlog:


Re-read the highlighted, no take pikin brag is a wise counsel.

Not everyone will birth children, either by choice or health reasons but that does not give you the right to demean another human being who struggles with infertility be it male or female (not even the person who you quoted, who I don't even know whether she is a parent or not).

I don't have interest in how many children someone gave birth to, my focus is what is the quality of life these children are exposed to in a country where 133 million Nigerians live in poverty and are reproducing irresponsibly while risking the lives of the children.

Franciscabless:


Have you ever seen me before at your doorstep asking you to give me the money to feed my children? You were born and raised in nigeria going to Cambridge or whatever you call it doesn't give you the right to call me irresponsible if you have nothing better to say please keep quiet Mr or madam Cambridge

Mindlog:


You read my post and self-classified yourself as irresponsible.

RomolaJ:
This OP na comrade
Just abusing everyone left right n centre

Single mum of 2 n pregnant nonchallant comrade

She is pregnant and the hormone is not helping her case... I expected some of us to understand that... Besides, she's just 21

BRATISLAVA:


She said she's bringing her mother's business to the table. And that Government welfare offices will be willing to help her pursue her matter.

From the looks of it, they (she and deadbeat) are religious people. At least, that's why she wants him to be the head of the home.

What is the runaway man bringing to the table, though? Did he equip her to help him? Did he not see she did not have employment when he decided to shack up with her and have a child between them? Then why would he expect her to suddenly have employment and be the one to financially handle his children? Why is he running away from his duties?

She's going to have to pick up the slack, but exonerating him from his responsibility and putting it all on her isn't going to make everything rosy. He should cater to his children, because clearly she's doing so in her own way.

Franciscabless:



If you care enough you can open a centre and accommodate all these children with bad quality of life God will bless you more . I am not talking about my children because their quality of life is good by God's grace

BRATISLAVA:


Why have you decided that she's the problem factor in their relationship? We don't know how she came to be in that position, but..

A man is irresponsible once he has a child and refuses to take care of it. That is irresponsibility. Take it to any court.

Franciscabless:



My mum and I are 1 if she's catering for us it is the same thing as me doing it because she is my mum not his mother , even if I was working I can only bring 1% on the table and he must bring 99% whether you like it or not that's how it should be. but a irresponsible person like you will never understand because you are destined to be irresponsible all your life you ain't worth the MB am wasting on you

Blessedmercy8:
I don't know what to advice you cos all I see here are two irresponsible people who came together for the sake of sex but not willing or even planning to take up the responsibilities that come with it.

You guys didn't plan to have a family but you went ahead birthing children without control. You, try close legs. You already had one before you met him, you didn't learn from your previous baby daddy that abandoned you, you still went opening legs for another man without marriage. See how you just put yourself into hardship because of 5mins fun.
Now you're living on handouts from your mother.

When they say siddon one place, una go the fling hair left and right, una no go hear until e happen.

Really, I don't know what to advise you.

9JAFULLBREED:
Just imagine! With the way things be for naija now ehn and una just dey nack anyhow and born anyhow smh. No work, no plans = Nothing

ahnie:
I don't wanna imagine what this pregnant lady is going through .
The man should look for means of supporting his kids financially since he has the means.

As for you op,I believe you have learnt your lessons,after giving birth pls stay the heck away from men, whilst you look for job or hustle,or learn a skill to invest all your energy on.

For your own good I repeat......stay the heck away from men.

BRATISLAVA:


Why have you decided that she's the problem factor in their relationship? We don't know how she came to be in that position, but..

A man is irresponsible once he has a child and refuses to take care of it. That is irresponsibility. Take it to any court.

GboyegaD:


If your father bore 99% of your financial responsibility,you wouldn't be this bitter. A man isn't a poverty alleviation program. Know this and know peace.