I have been looking at these 2 types of dating options and i have seen that the modern way of dating has really affected our marital values in a negative way (My opinion though), i am setting up this thread to discuss various pros and cons of traditional dating likewise modern dating.

Pros of Traditional dating :

1: You rarely get unwanted pregnancy claim shoved down your throat because not only you knows that you've never slept with her, but also most of the family members (including hers).

2: less temptation

3: More reason to want to get married to her due to the fact that you both hardly see eachother

4: Moral standard is upheld

5: Both family are aware and knows about both of you (no hiding place for you incase you're thinking of "hit and run"

6: Roles of both the male and female are known right from the beginning.

7: You have people watching your steps and moves.

You can add more :

Cons :

1: Not enough time to know each other that much

2: deceit is very likely

3: Too much 3rd party involvement.

4: Inequality is supported to a fault here

5: You have people watching your steps and moves thereby making you uncomfortable and gives you room to pretend.

Add more if you have any.


Pros of modern dating:

1: Fast and straight to point

2: easy entry, easy exit

3: equality

4: You can have her sleep over at your place anytime any day

5: Sampling knows no boundary

6: Can have issues even before tying the knot.

Add more if you have any

Cons:

1: Infidelity is likely to be rampant here

2: Deceits too

3: Contracting of deadly disease is also possible

4: Unwanted pregnancy is a likelihood

5: Dumping very common

6: Over familiarity thereby killing the zeal to get married on time.

7: Notion like "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" comes into play.

You can add more if you have.

Having highlighted the above, i would say i prefer the traditional way of dating and the modern way, to me, i think the modern way has actually done more harm to the societal, marital and family value than the traditional dating way.

With the way young girls get pregnant and contact diseases now a days, it leaves your mouth wide open thinking of these things going on. in the traditional dating days, you're likely never to see a 17 years old thinking of a relationship, Being Intimate or going to sleep over at her BF's place but in the modern dating days, its rampantly common and very detrimental to the sanity of the whole society at large.


What do you guys think?

Discuss.

sexkillz:

Traditional setting without the 3rd party Involvement & Practiced in a Modernized WAY!

Explain the bolded

traditional

toba:

traditional

Any reason? is this what you practice in your relationship if you're in anyone right now?

I feel the traditional way of dating is the best and can stand the real marital test of time unlike the too fast too furious modern dating ways we have already now.



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When i said "watch", i didn't mean policing you, but people knowing that both of you are together and anytime something is wrong, they'll know even without any one of you telling them because it's a known issue.

It helps curtain infidelity, it also helps you in a way, other men won't chase after your girl because they know the whole world know she's for you.

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I ain't honorable, rather call me honeyeric

Anyways the definition can be taken from the explanations i gave below, add 1 + 1, you'll surely get the definition that suits you.

Babe

Let me see if I can help you on this one.

Traditional dating are usually refer to courting back in the old days where the boy will come to the parent house and request your hand in courtship with parent's approval beforehand. It is something similar to gentlemen calling when back in the old days where a group of girls who were "ready" to be courted go to the town ball and the suitors would show up and "auction" for the girl and sometimes you will have two guys picking the same girl. The guy then will have a silent auction the largest bid won.

Sex talk and actions were like a diamond in a pile of shit during the traditional time.

Now imagine the opposite for modern dating. Hope that helps.

remember d part in godfather when d youngest son left for sicily and was chyking dat girl. everywhere they went, all d female members of the family goes. it was cool

Mrs.Chima:

Babe

Let me see if I can help you on this one.  

Traditional dating are usually refer to courting back in the old days where the boy will come to the parent house and request your hand in courtship with parent's approval beforehand.  It is something similar to gentlemen calling when back in the old days where a group of girls who were "ready" to be courted go to the town ball and the suitors would show up and "auction" for the girl and sometimes you will have two guys picking the same girl.  The guy then will have a silent auction the largest bid won.  

Sex talk and actions were like a diamond in a pile of poo during the traditional time.  

Now imagine the opposite for modern dating.  Hope that helps.  

Nah, what you described here is a cultural thing and not the traditional dating i put up here, what you're trying to describe is like a festival for virgins, so be clear on the difference.

Traditional dating does not need any festival, it's just a conventional way of dating where a man is not expected to know the color of all your pants in your wardrobe even before he knows your middle name. (not to you o, na general statement o).

BABE!:

Below? Honeyeric ko, Honey Jar ni.

Anyways, brb (maybe) with my comment(s).

Hehehehe, you don't have to call me honey, i have someone who does that already

honeric01:

Hehehehe, you don't have to call me honey, i have someone who does that already

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Online tripping

seedord247:


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Online tripping

Face front, true true, if you see my babe, you go shake my palm wella.

BABE!:

I see you still do stand-up comedy.

So, you prefered giving the definition to Mrs Chima (that never asked you), to me (that intentionally asked you for it)--?

I'm back with my comment: I prefer Modern dating.

Thanks, Mrs Chima.

Well i didn't give her, i only corrected her own "definition".

You still didn't give your o, BTW, do you show your BF every new PTS you buy while putting it on? (jokes)

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PTS - panties the modern way

One of the most annoying things about modern days dating is that some girls even leave their undies at their BF's place, some washed and some unwashed, how else do you expect him to go all the way to pay your dowry or anything of such when he knows virtually everything about you including how many unshaved hair you have left underneath?

honeric01:

Well i didn't give her, i only corrected her own "definition".

You still didn't give your o, BTW, do you show your BF every new PTS you buy while putting it on? (jokes)

No, no, and no suga. You didn't correct me because what I said was THE TRUE definition of traditional dating.

Traditional in the DICTIONARY even states the definition is an adjective of which place or thing are handed down by or conforming to tradition.

How do you think cultures are formed? DUH.

the old and traditional way is what God almighty instituted in d garden of eden coz he was aware of d process b4 eve got married to adam. so modern dating like u said is just full with evil and selfish interest. so i'll go for d old and traditional style it suits me coz sex spoils everything. d truth is d difference btw d trado way and d modern way is d no sex thing in d old way while sex is part of d modern way. dat is all.

Mrs.Chima:

No, no, and no suga. You didn't correct me because what I said was THE TRUE definition of traditional dating.

Traditional in the DICTIONARY even states the definition is an adjective of which place or thing are handed down by or conforming to tradition.

How do you think cultures are formed? DUH.

That is not a traditional dating or are you trying to say before you date in a conservative way, you must gather in the village square, dance around with virgin girls all lined up as "prizes" for the best male dancer or male fighter? that's just a religious and cultural festival, nothing to do with the common dating practices.

*Yawns*

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To high for you to comprehend or?

Traditional dating is better,

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Why and is that what you practice?

honeric01:

^^^^

Why and is that what you practice?

No, i did not practise that, but wished i did, i like the fact the couples keep themselves till that wedding day, there is something so special about that and so divine, there is usually more respect and trust.

Civility, which we call 'modern dating' has no virtue but sin, lies, untrustworthiness,infidelity and so on. I do not see any 'pros' in modern dating.

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I don't think modern day dating lacks any pros, they might not be much but "taking off guard" is out of it.