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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Slickszoom(m): 10:46am On Dec 02, 2022
In as much as what she said happens but it doesn't stop you from calling. If they ask you and you tell them your own situation too. I have friends in UK and they have this mindset too that when you call them you must beg them for money so they keep their distance and i don't even bother because i am not a people chaser. If not for the bad leaders who have made this country difficult why will i want to japa. Some of them once they get there they cut off from everybody here in Naija. One once said he doesn't want anything to do with people from Nigeria. It was so funny even that one of our friends also travelled there and he refuse seeing him because he does not want anything to do with people from Naija. Oponu them dey forget say na all of us suffer the suffer

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Lexusgs430: 10:48am On Dec 02, 2022
1Sharon:


And when you check, you'd see that most of them are actually living fine. They just want to milk somebody.


Absolutely........ cheesy

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Paulpak34(m): 10:50am On Dec 02, 2022
Don't worry, just continue your attitude because a day is coming when you will get a problem that money can't solve and that time you will be depending on that family in which you don't pity.

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by FireUpNow(m): 10:53am On Dec 02, 2022
Her life her friends her family and her phone call. Las las all na her problems
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by ChybuzzDD(m): 10:55am On Dec 02, 2022
[quote author=humberjade post=118840405]I get the frustration, and I know where she's coming from.

Although life abroad, at least developed abroad grin, is far better than Nigeria's, in terms of social amenities and availability of jobs, but when you begin to do plus and minus, you hardly have anything left. Most developed countries aren't built for you to save at all, you earn, the system collects it back.

Okay let's do a quick calculation, let's say you have a 2500 euro job. By the time tax and insurance are deducted, maybe you will have 2000 or less left, depending on the tax level you are. You pay bills, say 400-700 euro. Service your credit with let's say 200 euro per month. About 1100euro is left. So let's say you spend 250 euro on food, send 200 euro to your parents, and let's say you budget 300 euro for two kids. Let's say you spend 100 on miscellaneous, and you discover you have just 250 euro left. God forbid there is an emergency back home, or God blessed you with 3 or more siblings. And then you still have friends who are in need too back home for naija. Phew, nah die you dey.

Shey you can see that the money is finished without even buying cloths for yourself or flexing. And even for you to make the 2500 for example, depending on the kinda work though, you go don work your bones off; 10-15 hours on the jobs, 3-5 hours(depending on the no of jobs) navigating your way from home-one job- 2nd job-back home. On top of it, less than 5hours of sleep each day. All these are even worse during winter.

Imagine all the scenarios up there playing out every month, which is the case mostly, when exactly will the person be able to invest and secure his or her own future.? Imagine things going sideways, and the person gets deported, same set of people will desert her and even mock her, saying, "as she go, nah him she come back". Men are even built to withstand stress than ladies, hence, some get to do up to 4 jobs, but ladies, hmm.

On top of that, if you give person 10k or 20k for naija, e go still dey vex, dey downgrade the money. So for those who are saying chop alone and die alone, it is not all bed of roses out here.

If you no do am with sense, you go see say 10-20 years after you don dey hustle for abroad, you can hardly account for your labour, and your life still remains the same as when you relocated. That's why people just slump and die anyhow out here; stress and pressure.

Nah the emotional blackmail come worse pass...imagine a naturally kind person, chai, it is finished.

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You got it!

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Ologundudu2020: 10:56am On Dec 02, 2022
1Sharon:


You must be one of those that do the billings.

If you're not one of those that got her to where she is, you don't deserve anything.
Who’s this ??
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by 1Sharon(f): 10:57am On Dec 02, 2022
Ologundudu2020:

Who’s this ??

Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by nedekid: 10:58am On Dec 02, 2022
uuzba:


Nigerians back home will NEVER be convinced that things are difficult overseas.
So they are ALWAYS going to beg for money if you call them back home.
Don't waste your time trying to convince them otherwise.
If you just don't have money to give them, then stop calling them.
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I'm in Nigeria here. I have a cousin in UK there. But we call each other and talk all the time without me begging him for money.
This is only possible because I too lived in the UK at a time and suffered everything he is suffering.
So I know 1000% that he doesn't have money. We can talk normally about any other topic except money, and his mind is at rest.
But for his own siblings that have not yet travelled and don't understand, he has to blocked their contact as they were not allowing him sleep.
Begging for money 24/7.
Exactly, folks here think it is all rosey for those in UK for example. In reality, you have Nigerians doing well in their business or profession, but the bulk of Nigerians are hustling. Most times while in the UK, when you call people that you are in town, they first hide, because they don't want to to see their level or wonder your objective, if you want to seek favors form them eg accommodation. Infact it is when you convince them to show and they see you are OK, before they get relaxed.
My recent trip, the night security at the hotel was obviously a nigerian, as strolled in late at night niggar started asking me stupid questions if I was naija and if my name was one omo Ibo name, that he meet one fellow earlier that was looking for another person. Some crappy story like that, I just looked at him, shook my head and walka pass to the elevator. Obviously he could not believe a naija person will Lodge there and for so long. Bottomline, is that the kind of person someone in naija will be phoning to send him money? Someone that is hustling when others are sleeping.
Things are hard for most folks over there jare.

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Ologundudu2020: 11:00am On Dec 02, 2022
[quote author=1Sharon post=118842393][/quote]
Nice try
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by drololaaof: 11:01am On Dec 02, 2022
Bvlgari:
Why i dont like calling my friends & family in Nigeria - UK based lady


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnyI70bH5QU

She said it's because of bills, each time she calls, they will bill her with their financial problems.
It is age real problem ,not limited to you alone ,some people thought you abroad people are sweeping or plucking money not knowing that your sweat and blood are running before you can earn any dime . But that did not prevent you from communicating with some of them oh .
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by romunu(m): 11:02am On Dec 02, 2022
Cos you’ve got poor families and friends, that’s.why, if I call Davido or Burna Boy, them no de ask me for money.
Bvlgari:
Why i dont like calling my friends & family in Nigeria - UK based lady


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnyI70bH5QU

She said it's because of bills, each time she calls, they will bill her with their financial problems.
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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Nhemzie17: 11:04am On Dec 02, 2022
Candidlady:




Since you got enough money kindly help your comrades
Angelfrost Uzomacharles Buddha3
Internet sha....talaka yana kiran mai kudi talaka

And how tf are they my comrades?
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by sharpwriter(m): 11:06am On Dec 02, 2022
Antimarraige:
Aunty rest, just say your family members, which one be Nigerians. My Uncle Bayo still dey UK now dey wonder why I no send am since all these years like others wey dey lick hin ass, baba no know say I don blow and I no get time.

Na vacation I wan go dey do for UK and other overseas countries,no be to go dey hustle like slave
Baba help me blow too abeg cry
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by WowSweetGuy(m): 11:06am On Dec 02, 2022
Poverty in the land. What do you expect

Help the ones you can help that's if you even get work sef and leave d rest for God

This one no be talk na normal thing. Even families/friends within Nigeria dey beg those in the family they perceive to be doing well

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by bonnyhope: 11:08am On Dec 02, 2022
ValCon888:
They'll manage to get to yankee or jand, and start to act like they're in heaven.

God punish these bad leaders for making this place a shithole, including the ignorant masses that continue to vote them into power to impoverish the people.

I see no reason why one would leave the comforts and familiarity of their motherland to japa to the hostile environments of an unknown land if not for wicked and selfish leaders.

Cost of living is cheaper here. The only thing we need is visionary leadership to improve the quality of living.

You have said it all

Our country can even be better if only if we have honest and visionary leaders
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by BennyDGreat: 11:12am On Dec 02, 2022
uuzba:
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My company in Nigeria here, is the goodest company in the world. Now, some of my bosses went and put their profile on LinkedIn. As per, advertise yourself Na Abi?
That's how LIRS (Lagos State tax revenue) saw the profile and came to attack our office, Pay-pay-pay tax. Shebi you said you are MD of so and so company, Oya you must be earning millions and your tax must be so-so amount. And it's not so. But Lagos State tax will not believe. Our accountant has to be battling with them every single month, to show the receipts and invoices of EVERYTHING that comes into that office (even if you buy chewing gum sef)...But each time they will find fault and ask for settlement and brown envelope.
Tomorrow, they will say that that have not done any tax clearance at all, that we should start again. We have done 2015 tax clearance 5 times. But they will never close the case.

All this is for our company that decided to the doing goody-goody.

Tell me why any other Nigerian business will ever want too follow straight way again.

If Nigerians can get free money from you in UK, they will instead gladly disturb you to get that free money instead of all this Nigerian stress.

Nigerian business climate needs some thorough cleansing
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by descarado: 11:13am On Dec 02, 2022
Lexusgs430:
Never be a God abroad.............

The day you overwork yourself(and kick a bucket), that same family troubling you for money, would still survive..........
Nigerians generally love free money. That's what kept us where we are today.
It's in our dna. If not, why will a politician, civil servant steal billions of naira?

The mentality sucks. Nigerias problem is psychological. We need psychologists to come and review this kwantry

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Ekpekus(m): 11:14am On Dec 02, 2022
DissTroy:
I agree with her. A lot of people are entitled pests, regardless of where you reside. They always feel some sort of need to partake of your largesse, real or assumed.

If you have contacts staying abroad or are highly connected, offer value.
For example as a web and brand developer, you can ask to leverage on your friends' and family's diverse contact reach to grow your business through referrals.

That's what I do. I don't ask for money. I just ask for referrals by leveraging on contacts. As long as you have good interpersonal skills and you are very skilled in your chosen area, over time you'd make something of it.

I can't even meet the President today and ask for a kobo. I'd offer valuable tech services to him which would be highly beneficial for all involved. In fact, I have tech pitches ready in my Google Drive just for such opportunities. He'd never hesistate when he sees my calls 'cause I'm not calling to leech.

That's how it should be.
You are wise. May your wisdom increase continually.

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Bluntemperor: 11:20am On Dec 02, 2022
headbasher96:
Abi u the hide the kind of life u the live how will one forget fam nd frnds

We have plenty of them with such attitude!
They become Lost Generation!
My appeal to Nigerians is - Focus on yourself and determined to succeed in the midst of what goes around you!
It is Well!
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by RALPHOW(m): 11:33am On Dec 02, 2022
Thank God that you have a job that pays your bills otherwise you will know that it's more difficult to beg than to give.
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by unbiased2021: 11:38am On Dec 02, 2022
dnawah:
eat alone and die alone.one day kwa we go come there and we go do like say we no know you. tongue tongue tongue


Yes it’s her money, she owes no one no dime

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by unbiased2021: 11:39am On Dec 02, 2022
Realist5:
Na God do am for you to be on UK.

Same God can still return you back to base

You sound like you beg for a living.

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by NOETHNICITY(m): 11:44am On Dec 02, 2022
I thought I was the only person facing this challenge
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by NOETHNICITY(m): 11:47am On Dec 02, 2022
dnawah:
eat alone and die alone.one day kwa we go come there and we go do like say we no know you. tongue tongue tongue
Lazy man go hustle your money
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by headbasher96(m): 11:50am On Dec 02, 2022
spartachico:
abeg fear those Nollywood girls oo , e get one girl wey i dey follow for instagram ,if u see her backside and she dey for Nollywood ,my brother i never see any of her film for africa magic but she dey use ride now

na our politicians chop na the dino melaye them
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by higgs: 11:55am On Dec 02, 2022
Is she richer than all her friends and family in Nigeria?
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by kay29000(m): 11:55am On Dec 02, 2022
Dialpad:
Nigerians love this give me give me mentality.

Even if you try help them set up a business, they will ruin it because they prefer the free money you send to them on a regular basis.

Many of you guys need a change of mindset.

This is very true. Most Nigerians think this way. I won't lie, I was guilty of this in my younger years.
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by babaowambe: 12:00pm On Dec 02, 2022
Realist5:
Na God do am for you to be on UK.

Same God can still return you back to base
don't use God's name in vain to emotionally blackmail,she worked for her money she deserves to do as she see fit

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Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by onomeabuja: 12:01pm On Dec 02, 2022
nairanaira12:


Did she ask you to call? Did she stop you from traveling abroad too? Why place your problems on other people? Are they responsible for your misfortune in life, Mr Entitled Bastardd?
See this mumu oo cheesy
Come carry ur frustration comot here jare angry
Na me say make ur papers expire
Omo things don red for u oo
White man go use u clean shit tire grin
Goat!!!

Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by Nobody: 12:06pm On Dec 02, 2022
Lie lie woman, you cant pick their calls because you re not doing well, you are ashamed to admit to them that they sacrifices they made to send you to UK was in vain.

You re not studying the course you got scholarship for, you re not even doing a decent job.

Dont blame you, after all which daughter wants to admit to their parents that they re permanent tenants of some brothel in the UK.
Re: Why I Dont Like Calling My Friends & Family In Nigeria - UK Based Lady (pic/vid) by lomprico(m): 12:17pm On Dec 02, 2022
It's because you are stingy!

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