otunba 9ja:



i am pretty sure that this guy remains your plan B, God forbids, shud anything hapin to your
bobo, i trust u can trust any other love than the one u ve seen wit your korokoro eyes.


Four, my tips 4 u to adopt if truly u re not intrested is, one, arrange the guy 2 meet your
BF and introduce your BF 2 him and let your BF know him as your toaster. Two, show him a dummy
pregnancy , that u re now pregnant 4 your BF and that the wedding is being fastracked.

Abi My fellow comrades wetin una think, me OTUNBA has spoken my yown.

proO1:

I don't get it. Is that how scarce kitties have become in naija, that guys would be wasting time & resources chasing ONE (because that is really the ONLY thing that a guy can 'gain' from a girl). Na all these kain weak guys dey make ordinary girls overprice themselves come dey feel like superstar. One can undestand a chasing worthy things like money, jobs, contracts, salvation, power, etc. But chasing a kitty for years? Really? Where have all the real men gone?

to me 1 month is too much to chase one girl(thats if you are very RICH and drive a RANGE ROVER SPORT )

@OP, dnt flatter your self the guy must be a madman CHIKINA!!!

Miss_cherrybaby:

He is really a nice person. I dont mind having him as a friend. But thats d word he doesnt want to hear. So i've decided 2 back off. Since i cant give him wat he wnts. It's beta he goes.

Miss_cherrybaby:


I've involved my bf in d whole thing now.

Miss_cherrybaby:

Please for those of you saying i may be interested in him, i'm definately not. When a guy has been around for that long, it kind of evolves into a sort of friendship. After telling him off initially, i thot ok we'd be jst friends. I didnt hv anything in mind. He played it cool for a while then it's like something snapped and he came back full force. Being in d same profession, something always brings us together. I admit, i probably didnt handle things well. I thot we were jst friends, so i used 2 ask for assistance wit some tough courses esp wen i was at d law school. I think d fact i needed him made him think there was more to it.

He is really a nice person. I dont mind having him as a friend. But thats d word he doesnt want to hear. So i've decided 2 back off. Since i cant give him wat he wnts. It's beta he goes.

And pls d kiss took me unawares. I said dt earlier. I've involved my bf in d whole thing now.

LesbianBoy:

I wonder!

Its only a poor guy or a jobless guy that can chase a girl that much

pendo89:

get a tracking device installed in you right away. I dont trust that dude at all.

Miss_cherrybaby:

Guys approach me all d time, everywhere. It's something i'm used to and have learnt hw to handle. Yes this guy has been chasing me for dt long. He may be a MADMAN like someone said, but hey, i read law nt psychology.

Miss_cherrybaby:

@psalmizt
far from it. Just your average plain jane. I think all girls hv a point in their lives wen d men come rushing. I cant help men coming after me, but i can help what i do about it. Right?

Cuddlemii:

@op

No sane naija man would chase a babe for 6 years when the babe is even in a relationship. Hope its not similar to that old naija movie brown powder that a mad man was obssessed with a lady that mistakenly applied jazz powder on the mad guy instead of her hubby.

I think babes read meaning to stuffs a lot. Men can flirt and act attached as a joke or to see if they can score but they would have their chick. 6 years ke in Naija & his family didnt try to break the spell & his friends didn't talk sense into him. Its only abroad dt they have stalkers but for celebs with cash & not mere mortals. Na babe scarce like that in this day and age. 1 or 2yrs is ok but 5 to 6yrs is so unrealistic except you are referring to a mad man.

If its true then he is a mad man or he has been told his success lies with you that you are his luck without u he won't get an organization of his own. u beta start fasting & praying.

Me sef sabi write scripts for naija movie.

bamosagie:

sorry after six years you are still taking of boy friend, honestly I think you need to get rid of your stalker and your boy friend. start a marriage oriented relationship before you start making elaborated plan of becoming a second wife on the altar of christ embassy. just an advice!

proO1:

I don't get it. Is that how scarce kitties have become in naija, that guys would be wasting time & resources chasing ONE (because that is really the ONLY thing that a guy can 'gain' from a girl). Na all these kain weak guys dey make ordinary girls overprice themselves come dey feel like superstar. One can understand a man chasing worthwhile things like money, jobs, contracts, salvation, power, etc. But chasing a kitty for years? Really? Where have all the real men gone?

markovnikoff001:

The mind of a girl is so, so discombobulated: they want a kind of relationship with a guy (who is not their boyfriend) that is not completely romantic and at the same time not absolutely platonic, infact they love it.

Silly you for leading him on for so long, I guess you were enjoying all the attention he was giving you and you didn't really do anything concrete about it until your boyfriend found out. You have always known how serious the whole situation was but you kept him for this long because it gives you something to "fall back on emotionally" whenever you have issues with your boyfriend. You may think you feel nothing for him but look just a bit deeper in your heart and you will find out you miss him if he doesn't call or try to contact you.

And then you used his feelings for you against him: by asking him for help "all through law school" cause you knew he was never going to refuse you. During one (or more than a few) of those tutorial sessions tell me, didn't the talk veer off into romantic conversations in which you actively participated? And now you blame him. I think you are to blame as much as he is. Infact I wouldn't blame him that much, he was just following the illusory signals you were sending him.

A girl and guy can only get so close without sparks flying off. You will run into situations like this all your life, but the crutch comes with how well you handle them. Always, I mean A-L-W-A-Y-S tell your boyfriend about situations such as this soon as they start. Count yourself as lucky for the kind of boyfriend you've got; he could have left you, you know. And I don't think you want that happen.