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Thanks for the mention.
Goodnight.

All these issues and Baggages join why I cannot marry someone with a child from previous relationship.

Blackblint3:
I got married to a single dad,due to some things my step child came to stay with us, now I normally wash her things, she is 10 years each time I ask her to bring her clothes she would bring some and fold the remaining ones in her cloth bag making it to smell and spoil the other clothes in the bag... even at home this child behaves stiff, extremely quiet and would just be looking at a particular spot...I cautioned her immediately and have asked her to stop behaving like this cos I don't like it,it doesn't make me happy...

Now my husband doesn't stay with us regularly,and during the time he isn't with is he doesn't give enough money for feeding at home, even with the these I try my best to meet up with our feeding...and these child has never rejected my food, even for once in her life,I have noticed it that each time her father is around the way and manner this child behaves will change... immediately he came after some few hours I started by narrating what was happening at home during his absence, that she steals and lies to me a lot,and the worst part is that she would be stiff at home and doesn't express herself,I felt she wasn't behaving like a child, she's has a dark heart imagine a girl at her age going to classmates houses after school even changing from house clothes to uniform in the classmates house to decieve me.. .

OP, the problem is not the 10-year-old child but the adults in her life, and you are one of them.

She is too young to be struggling as she is. Please, calm yourself down and try to be a better parent to her. Think of her as your own flesh and blood. Go online and find resources on how to be a good step-parent to this child. Her own flesh and blood seem to have left her to you. At least be the one person who is different from them, as in better. She needs a grownup who is on her side— cares for her, listens to her, helps her learn, and trains her so she grows into a responsible adult without judgment. Please, look past yourself and consider this child as you would have loved to have been considered when you were her age.

If you both need to go see a therapist together, then do so if you think that will help her open up to you or something but do not make this child's situation much worse than it already seems to be abeg!

Blackblint3:
I'm a long time user of this platform for years now I don't want to use my account in order not to be dragged, which might ruin my account that's why I'm typing with my alternate account... before I came online mind you I have gone to more than 3 people,who have tried helping me but I haven't seen any positive results,and it's really giving me serious pains.

I got married to a single dad,due to some things my step child came to stay with us, now I normally wash her things, she is 10 years each time I ask her to bring her clothes she would bring some and fold the remaining ones in her cloth bag making it to smell and spoil the other clothes in the bag... even at home this child behaves stiff, extremely quiet and would just be looking at a particular spot...I cautioned her immediately and have asked her to stop behaving like this cos I don't like it,it doesn't make me happy...

Now my husband doesn't stay with us regularly,and during the time he isn't with is he doesn't give enough money for feeding at home, even with the these I try my best to meet up with our feeding...and these child has never rejected my food, even for once in her life,I have noticed it that each time her father is around the way and manner this child behaves will change... immediately he came after some few hours I started by narrating what was happening at home during his absence, that she steals and lies to me a lot,and the worst part is that she would be stiff at home and doesn't express herself,I felt she wasn't behaving like a child, she's has a dark heart imagine a girl at her age going to classmates houses after school even changing from house clothes to uniform in the classmates house to decieve me.. .

After telling him everything he spoke to her and asked her few questions, after everything we settled, the next thing this child started to starve herself, making her father to start insulting me and all that I don't cook good food...but he ate everything, it's just cos she refused to eat, the next thing she started acting sick, like she couldn't walk properly again...he started by telling me she's sick but I told him she is pretending to make it look like I am not taking care of her, this is someone I use my salary money to buy clothes for but she doesn't appreciate...once my husband and I were in the bedroom the next thing was these girl moving inside and we were like when did you pass this place cos we didn't see her leave the room... Now I have dreamt about her slot,I know that people uses other people face during dreams but it's happened more than once, she has since continued to act sick when her Dad is around...and boom when he leaves she's fyn and starts jumping around...I can't say everything online, she hasn't been eating my food for the past 4 days her dad arrived,my husband started calling me wicked,a killer and the rest I made sure to speak out to defend myself...we eat food together oh me and this girl,so why all these now, naturally I am extremely cool with children even at church I handle the children department... Her dad was saying she's is a child and all nairalanders this girl will be 11 years soon isn't that enough reason for me to talk about her attitude,if I don't talk now when would I talk some 11 years are already seeing menses oh... okay did I do bad by informing him about her pretentious nature,I told him to help me beg her to change,guess what he said do whatever she asks you to but don't do the wicked things she wants you to do...today he said I don't feed his daughter,and that I am a killer, with the bitterness in my heart I cursed her that it would never be well with her till she begs for forgiveness...I have never treated you badly,you are always doing things that would ruin my appliances and the things at home,yet I am not allowed to talk,yet I am called wicked,if I was wicked to this girl won't I be giving her extra love now that the dad is around, be acting all nice and all... but I am still myself just cos I spoke about her acting like a saint when she is not...if she spoil, my own is learning from her too now, right now like this I plan to involve my family members in the issue...I will leave with my child the toxicity is too much for me,he's even questioning my upbringing,I won't die cos I can't satisfy what can't be satisfied, since he has decided to start having children outside imagine the type of talk from a father, just cos you don't want to reprimand a child, she would never change cos he's always supporting the child... I know what I want from God,I have asked him to help me leave...If I suffered in the hands of man before and treated her badly let me suffer it all,May God bless this day...I just wanted to let it all out here, the rest are telling me to be patient, look where my patience and tolerance has brought me,it has now made me a killer oh God, she would feel my pains, everything...

Blessedmercy8.
Ahnie
Ilegend.

all dis fake stories just to garner views and to grace front page.

Hmmm. OP deleted her thread.

CEwog91:
all dis fake stories just to garner views and to grace front page.

Why would I come here to start lying what would I gain, really! If not that the solution wasn't coming offline, do you think I would come online before... wetin i wan do again now?

TheGoodAmerican:
Your reaction to her being extremely quiet, such as you telling her it doesn't making you happy, makes you seem rather ignorant. She likely has a quiet, introverted personality. You should know that not all of us were born with the same personality. Even twins don't have the same personality. Stop complaining about her quietness as if she has a problem when she doesn't. You're the one with the problem if you can't see that this is likely her nature. What you (or her father) need to do is find out what her talents are and help her nature them. Secondly, you're supposed to make her happy, not the other way around. She's 10, for goodness sake.

She is not introverted I know cos I am one myself,I hardly communicate and all...but at least I am still myself, she is just doing all that to look good before me... I left home once and left her at home, someone who is always behaving all quiet,I didn't even meet her at home,I came back around to 7 I was even hearing her voice outside I was so shocked,see pesin wey I dey even beg to dey free, imagine and my door was left unlocked...so now you tell me behaving quiet at home,and saying things that a child isn't supposed to say outside to the extent that she is being reported at home, won't you be shocked...en wetin you want make I talk now en, how would you feel if your child collected money from a someone to buy school supply ,yet everyday she is asked to say something about what she is facing in school, she won't say anything for 2 weeks...haba the child she collected the money from came to me, she was even shocked that she didn't tell me self... She told my neighbor child that she would wait till her dad comes back... this girl get her own mind no matter how I convert her so things can be easy for me,i will I do this if she acts like this... you're not in my shoes and will never be... thanks for your input though.

Richy4:
I believe Psychologically, you see her as a competitor in that house seeking for the same man's attention...

The very day you will see her as your own by ignoring her stiffness and other stuffs u mentioned that mothers do ignore when the child happens to be their own and correct when necessary, things will change...

Her constant attention seeking from her dad is getting at U and she knows it.... People reading this can see it clearly but u writing it can't... Just see it as a 10yr old being a ten year old....The very moment u change and she discovered that u don't care about that, u will see transformation...

If she folds her clothes with the dirty ones, and u don't like it, as a mother u buy camphor and instructs her to put it in her bag... And also tell her the reasons behind it because that age is also a curiosity stage.... She's just 10...
By the way her lying skills has not began yet.. wait till she becomes a teenager..

This life is really easy sometimes u know? That is if u know how to let somethings go for your sanity..

Thanks for your input I really appreciate everything,I won't continue anymore though I have tried my best...let him continue from where I stopped cos I have tried my best and I can't kill myself...and besides that the attention isn't getting to me no it's not... What would she profit by not eating food anymore,I should keep waiting for acceptance from her right...

Return her to her mum.

Blackblint3:
Thanks for your input I really appreciate everything,I won't continue anymore though I have tried my best...let him continue from where I stopped cos I have tried my best and I can't kill myself...and besides that the attention isn't getting to me no it's not... What would she profit by not eating food anymore,I should keep waiting for acceptance from her right...

You are really and truly new into kid matters..