just saw this- lets lay aside the word duties and replace with 'responsibilities as a parent'
i dont feel as if these responsibilities are sex specific, there are single mother and fathers everywhere playing the role so its obvious your sex doesnt determine what you must do in the house.

I believe my responsibilities together with my husband are to take care of OUR children pls note the key words here

This will involve providing for them financially, giving them love care, providing an education and blah blah blah. This will be shared between me n my husband and we will take on whatever is convinient. Compromise maybe, sacrifice likely so- queensmith sitting in a kitchen cooking a meal everyday HELL NO!

sexkillz:

First of all, i asked you your responsibilities as a wife. You are yet to answer that. Before single parents became parents, were they not single bachelors/spinsters? We arent talking single here, we are talking married. In a married home, who owns the kitchen? Who chooses the equipment in the kitchen? Who arranges and sees to the kitchen's tidiness? By default! Of course the sex doesnt determine what is to be done, but whose responsibility is it, in nature?
Good! Whose responsibility is it to be a mother? What is the meaning of a mother? Whose responsibility is it to carry the baby? Who feeds the baby? You mentioned cooking a meal, who is supposed to cook the meal, assuming you are newly married, and the kids are yet to come?

queensmith:

so her primary responsibility is to cook?

ok- lets agree to disagree and leave it at that,

just saw this- lets lay aside the word duties and replace with 'responsibilities as a parent'
i dont feel as if these responsibilities are sex specific, there are single mother and fathers everywhere playing the role so its obvious your sex doesnt determine what you must do in the house.

I believe my responsibilities together with my husband are to take care of OUR children pls note the key words here

This will involve providing for them financially, giving them love care, providing an education and blah blah blah. This will be shared between me n my husband and we will take on whatever is convinient. Compromise maybe, sacrifice likely so- queensmith sitting in a kitchen cooking a meal everyday HELL NO!

lastpage:

[size=14pt] It is my own responsibility to put money down for food,[/size] mow the lawn, repair broken things in the house and she can help out if she wants but l would not begrudge her if she does not, its my duty!

I'll be utterly flabbergasted, if a "21st century woman" doesnt run into this thread, screaming "I'm Independent, i can pay for my own stuff!". . . LOL!

Wow last page! Love it! [size=14pt]Your wife is incredibly lucky![/size] Are u nigerian?

Mrs, Chima:

Sexkillz, come and [size=14pt]help me[/size] pound these yams!  

You see the key word? "Help me"! But if you say it with that face,( ) My reply will be:
But when you say it with ( ), My reply would be: I'll be right there!


Spot the difference!

sexkillz:

You see the key word? "Help me"! But if you say it with that face,( ) My reply will be:
But when you say it with ( ), My reply would be: I'll be right there!


Spot the difference!

Mrs, Chima:

Get your arse in the kitchen!

If you and your partner have agreed she will sit at home and care for the kids while you work then thats your agreement. Doesnt mean every woman must sit at home while her husband works.

in the 21st century and as a 21st century individual, i dont believe my husband MUST pay all bills because i also do not believe i was created to be domesticated, im not a household pet and have no intentions of sitting at home and doing anything. i will take no ownership over any kitchen or its utensils unless its a wine bar or a beer kitchen and neither will i leave all the bills on the table awaiting his payment.

We will do all things and make all decisions TOGETHER, imho if most nigerian women adopted this rule they will not find themselves in the hell they call marriages! they shouldnt even deny it most of the marriages i have observed esp in yoruba households are bloody hell!

queensmith:

Ive already found my husband lol.

so yes they do exist

Dont worry, continue to live in your fools paradise, we all know that "Oyinbo man" will marry at least three-to-five times in a life time so you could just be number one!

Falls into maltina bottle!

Flashaldrin:

Hahahahaha, did someone get banned?? Nawa o.

Nobody got banned! Sexkillz Was banned, but the user controlling sexkillz wasnt banned! You can only stop me if you can stop a bullet with your forehead,! Now, stiffen your middle finger, and sit on it!

fame12k:

@ queensmith, re u sayin cookin 1 man (ur husband) food on a daily basis is a problem for u, all in d name of being a 21st century lady? 4ur mind, u re proving to b civilized abi, Hw old re u

Flashaldrin:

Heheheehe, next time try not to meddle with my affairs

MsDarkSkin:

Why not?!   (men cook better than women anyway  )

I love it when Mr.Darkskin cooks with and for me.