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How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Buskynwa: 7:01pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Good day guys,please i need advice on this disturbing my mind for quite sometime now I'm the only son of my father,although my mum remarried after he died when i was still a toddler so i had a father figure althrough my childhood Now, i want to continue my father's lineage and dont want to disappoint him wherever he is now by not extending his lineage. I'm in my late 20's and i feel like something might happen to me (you cant rule out death as a reality) so i want to get married and have children on-time, im not that buoyant though but i'm comfy enough to afford some basic things in life. I need advice on how to go about such situation and can i possibly get married and still scale up the financial ladder? insults are welcome though as per nairaland tradition CC: Caveadullam Ubunja Justkatty et all. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Lurdd: 7:08pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
If you have checked yourself well and Know that you are buoyant enough to keep a family. Then ride on with your decision.. You have come of age so take the responsibility and make your dad proud. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Buskynwa: 7:15pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Lurdd: No one knows the kind of bills that could come with marriage so im scared i might be going down instead of going up |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by dawnomike(m): 7:24pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Buskynwa:If you have an understanding lady by your side who is willing to grow with you _ Yes you can. The only problem here is that I feel your motive for wanting to get married now is not right. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Nobody: 7:34pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
What do you mean by "don't want to disappoint him wherever he is now by not extending his lineage". What if something happens to you and your sons in the future and the lineage you're talking about is wiped off completely? I mean, you have a reason for being curious about this and wanting to do it. To me, it's just kap, straight up. Idk about no lineage or anything when I can't predict what'll happen tomorrow. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by kenedyx: 7:45pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Baby mama. QED. |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by hopeforcharles(m): 8:26pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Get an understanding woman, who you can build your life around. I have come to realize something, when u have a family your spending is channeled towards them and a lot of unnecessary spending will reduce. If you can take care of them please do and do father more children that u can't handle. Cheers. |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Lurdd: 9:27pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Buskynwa:That simply means that you need more time to establish yourself, marriage is not just something you jump into, you need to be prepared both financially, and you need a woman who share the same dream with you |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Justkatty(f): 9:36pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Death is inevitable that I know, but that shouldn't be a yardstick for you to keep having such negative thought. Back to your question, getting married now because of such a reason, isn't proper atall, atleast you should have a very good reason (reasons) why you want to settle down. I'll advise you to go back again and have a rethink, if you are fully ready to embark on marriage journey both mentally physically spiritually and otherwise. Marriage isn't something you just jump in and when you're tired you jump out. NO Lastly you can get into a relationship but be careful and also be watchful. God help you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Laird(m): 10:53pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Only Son no dey bills Talking of death. Is there money as investments left around to take care of alive children in cas of emergencies Be financially stable first. Ideas about ego and furthering your lineage would not pay the bills |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Nobody: 11:01pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Buskynwa:Your only advise is to make money before you marry. Marry without means of taking care of yourself n the family and extend the suffering from yourself to your wife and kids. |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by RZArecta(m): 11:41pm On Jan 07, 2023 |
Get married early even if it's just traditional rights. You won't know the joy of raising kids when young until you see you have the energy to run around with them when playing. Don't allow anyone deceive you |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by 1Sharon(f): 1:53am On Jan 08, 2023 |
As a man, you've still got time. |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Kobojunkie: 4:18am On Jan 08, 2023 |
Buskynwa:Reading through your tale here, I am reminded of the story, some threads over, of a man who went on a trip with his family this past holiday. They all tragically met their end in a car accident. I am talking father and all his kids and wife. Just me thinking out loud is all! 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Zeal0000007(m): 7:27am On Jan 08, 2023 |
Buskynwa:bro i understand ur point, since you can take care of basic needs according to u that means u have a steady source of income , then start a family what are u waiting for. But u need an understanding lady but they are not very easy to come by. U can't see them easily especially among this our so called modern day gals, wey be say all they want is already made men with flashy car and good apartment to marry them. But don't forget to pray to God about it for direction, God could guide your heart to a reasonable and understanding gal. You might be favored with the one that has something doing already, or the one that loves business that wants to do something to assist the family, you are favored. |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Nyascobar1414: 7:33am On Jan 08, 2023 |
Get a babymama..
Marriage and poverty be like 5and6. |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by frozen70(f): 9:26am On Jan 08, 2023 |
Buskynwa: I think you need to trace the route if uoir biological father is let them know about you and you have to establish a relationship with them and if truly you want to continue the lineage of your father Then the issue of marriage is, when you get a woman you want to marry, let her know the situation on ground and both of you can work towards a successful family building |
Re: How Can I Go About This Disturbing Me As An Only Son by Nicepoker(m): 10:10am On Jan 08, 2023 |
Ask your mom why your dad died early. who knows you are about making that same mistake. 2 Likes |
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