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Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by 15thAccount: 1:16pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
So for a couple of years, there has been a trend of men who are about to get into relationships ask the prospective “girlfriend” “what she has to offer”, or “what she brings to the table”. I see that a lot of women find this very offensive and other times even insulting and I’m curious as to why. If you were to enter a serious relationship with someone, isn’t it worth discussing what both of you are offering the other, thing that you both could bring and build up on? I mean, I believe women could also ask men the question too so everyone is clear about what they bring the table. Everyone knows in relationships, women expect certain things from men, and men expect certain things from women too. Is it wrong to have this discussion with an adult you expect to spend the rest of your life with? Many times, the women might not be earning much, so money wasn’t even much of an expectation, but what of other things? Being a good steward and able to manage a home, Good financial habits. Big on loyalty, so I’d always have your back. Having certain goals and aspirations and taking actionable steps towards them. So many others that I can’t list off the top of my head, that isn’t related to money. If a man meets a 20 something year old girl, he’s not Expecting her to be rich, he does expect her to at least have a plan for her life and maybe a 10year/5 year plan or something mapped out for herself and consistently taking actionable steps towards it. He probably also expects her to bring a stable personality and Financially responsible mindset. Not living in the moment and dreaming of fairy tales. Nigerian women are very ambitious, a lot of women in low end jobs are taking ielts, applying for masters, leaving the country to other countries in search of a better life, some are running legit businesses and earning well while some are doing well for themselves in their careers, lawyers, doctors, bankers, engineers etc . They have their lives in order. I’m wondering if these achieving/hardworking women also get offended by the “what do you bring to the table?” Question or welcome it, or is it only a subset of women that get offended and make it look like it’s all Nigerian women. It’s even an opportunity to express yourself and let the man feel lucky to be with you IMHO, As a man, if I meet a girl I intend to be serious with, I’ll tell you what I plan to do for “us” the things I’d bring to our relationship to build on, the things I’m currently working on etc and I’ll also expect same from you. Career, finances, feeding, different topics we could explore. So my question is, What about the question is inherently offensive? Mods please help a brother, I need answers 1 Like |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by PerfectStranger(m): 1:22pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Nigerian girls left the group chat. That question gives them serious nightmare. |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:26pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
PerfectStranger:Why ll you ask such in Nigeria? I know it's sex you want. But if it's at a professional interview, I ll answer based on job wey I dey look for. But 90% of time it has been asked, it's cos of sex. You men are so selfish! |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:27pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Men could end global food crisis with their wealth if they could just stop simping 1 Like |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:30pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: Why is it only used toto you know how to offer? You don give man money before wey e reject? |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by PerfectStranger(m): 1:31pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum:You see, all your thoughts revolves around sex. It’s high time you females realized real men don’t give af about sex but what you got to offer. No be sex we go chop for marriage. |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:34pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
PerfectStranger:Tah! Your brothers always ask for sex morning, noon n night as if sex is food! We aren't thinking of sex, it's you guys that are sex oriented tat when you see a vulnerable girl, you kobaaa straight! Some of you ll be prosecuted for non consensual sex soon. |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by 15thAccount: 1:38pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: If a man want a serious relationship with you, and you’re having these serious discussions and he’s asks you what you’re bringing to the table, would you be be offended? |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:40pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: I asked you question you ran away...I said you don offer man money before wey he reject? |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:45pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Rayban25:No. I v given money to males several time. Been feeding your fender since secondary school. And I ll still give tomorrow. |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:47pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
15thAccount:I won't. Since he's asking professionally, I ll answer professionally. But if it's cos of sex, that man ll receive a hot slap! |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:48pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: Let's even say you gave...I'm sure the man paid you back and it's not compared to how often men give you money for free ...so why are making noise?....sex is only what you can offer just leave it at that |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:49pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Rayban25:Ah. And na one mother born you this pikin o! Iya e de jiya lori e o! Shey you no know say when a man gives a woman money and he doesn't ask for sex, he's seen as a hero? |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:52pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: That your mother taught you how to exploit men dosent mean you should follow in her footsteps...your dad must have been very foolish to be exploited and it shows in your comments...change your ways |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:53pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Rayban25:My mom taught me well. Not to exploit but to be fair in life. My dad is a very lucky man. He has a good wife n a wonderful daughter. Can you boast about that? |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:54pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: Nairaland men dont agree with you |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 1:56pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Rayban25:Na you be their rep? If so you should be impeached cos you are not nice |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 1:59pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: Lol hero ... I guess we're saving your lots from starving to death .. Men, you heard that.. We're heroes without super powers and capes 1 Like |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Lamasta(m): 2:03pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: What are you bringing to the table is the question asked 1 Like |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 2:05pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Silentgroper:Like say women be vulture wey your dead body saved? See boy, let me tell you what your sisters didn't tell you. Give to females. Give as if you dey close your eyes. Don't ask for favours. Through it, you ll meet your soul mate & earn respect of many of us. We ll be calling you Boda Silentgroper. Wait o, why your name come be like ra**** name like this? Make I japa! |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 2:11pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum:when same thing applies to the females too na ... Give and don't bother men for favours . Through it you'll earn the respect of many us and be able to keep many of us ... Ra what ... Talk Wetin you wan talk na .. no fear 1 Like |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 2:19pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Silentgroper:Your name is scary. Girls dittgive body anyhow |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: See girl, let me tell you what your brothers didn't tell you. Give sex to men. Give as if you dey close your eyes. Don't ask for favours. Through it, you ll meet your soul mate & earn respect of many of us. We ll be calling you sister sweetplum. |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 2:29pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum: There's nothing scary about it . You girls do it the more sef |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by PerfectStranger(m): 2:40pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum:Lol what do you mean by kobaaa? |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 2:48pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Silentgroper:Dundun ni |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 2:58pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 3:03pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Silentgroper:Gbemi trabaye ni |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 3:06pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Nobody: 3:07pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Silentgroper:Fo cup ko, fo plate ni |
Re: Why Is “what Do You Have To Offer” Such An Offensive Question. by Silentgroper(m): 3:11pm On Jan 08, 2023 |
Sweetplum:oya jia Jo lo traboski nigbayen... Mi o where ooo |
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