It takes the blessed to bless.
It takes the rich to make rich.
It takes the loved to love.
It takes the knowledgeable to impart knowledge.
It takes the happily married to impart the reality of marital bliss.

The sick cannot take sickness out of the sick.
Even a sick doctor cannot care for the sick because he is sick himself.
Two poor people cannot help each other out of poverty.
The best they can offer each other is sympathy and a deeper level of poverty.

Two childless women will never tell the story of ever delivering a baby as long as they are together.
Two people in the pit have no power to pull each other out of it.
Two sorrowful people have nothing to offer each other than a plateau of sorrow.
Two angry people cannot teach each other patience.

Two O’ level students who have both failed WASSCE three times cannot teach each other how to pass the exam in one sitting.


You cannot give what you don’t have.
No one will ever offer you what he doesn’t have.
You cannot ask for a three piece Suit in a food stuff market – Wrong Place.
No one on that level where you are can get you out of there into a higher level.
If they don’t have it, they can never give it.


You can never break out of that level you are right now except someone already on the level you are anticipating brings you out.
Your mess will only be turned into a message if you have someone with a message.
If the people you are hanging out with right now don’t have the message; you know what?
It’s about time you change your circle of friends.

That circle is limiting you – break out of it.


Why are you enjoying the company of the impoverished, hopeless, failures, pessimists, unhappy, childless, unhappily married, helpless, promiscuous, adulterers, e.t.c. If that is what you are enjoying, I think you are enjoying the wrong company! – That’s sweet and slow poison. You don’t need sympathy, you don’t need a replay of what you have always heard all your life – you need to hear what you have never heard before.

Nigeria is corrupt.
Oh, yes we have heard that before. Life is difficult. That’s not new.
This sickness is incurable, that’s already crystal clear. You will fail that exam again, that’s not the first time.
Your husband will never change for better, you hear that all your married life.
This child will never change for better, everyone already knows that.

Now, you need to hear things like; Nigeria has a future.
Life is wonderful. You are coming out of that sickness.
You will not be poor again another day in your life.
You are making progress and moving forward.
You might have failed five times, but, you are passing that exam right now.
Your husband will change for good like a dream of the night. Your child will turn a new leaf e.t.c.


To get out of the rut, you need to reach out to somebody on top of it.
Reach out to Break out.
Reach out to Come out.
Reach out to Stand out.
Reach out to Step out.
It’s Your Turn, BREAK OUT!

© Adewwunmi Oladele