deols:

yh she is. I hope she can share with us from her fountain of wisdom.

she's a grandma mind yu.

Waoh, that's lovely. I'll like to learn from her.

@Toba, I am now ready to interview you. If you are ready, add me on yahoo messenger (maclatunji)and let's get it done!

You guys got me ROTFLMAO. Where do you get your facts (or fictions) from?

Anyway, it’s a good projection to call me a grandma. I look forward to becoming one, insha Allah. But for your info @deols, I’m still in my 20s but surely taken.

^
i thought you were in your 50s

mukina2:

^
i thought you were in your 50s

Am I that old-fashioned with my posts?

Maybe I shouldn't have revealed the truth then, so that you all will be calling me 'aunty'.

ehyaaa! dr used to b a grandma here. thought u'r d one.no vex pls.

^^ Vex ke? I'm swollen headed lol.

I think the person you refer to is @Fayezik. She's been absent for some time.

and by the way, you must call me 'aunty' henceforth.

zayhal:



Am I that old-fashioned with my posts?

Maybe I shouldn't have revealed the truth then, so that you all will be calling me 'aunty'.

yes oh
i even thought you were older that aunty fayezik .
i once read your post where you said television was not for you

mukina2:

yes oh
i even thought you were older that aunty fayezik .
i once read your post where you said television was not for you

'aunty' zayhal, what are the qualities you see in him?

'auntie' zayhal don marry naw

Muki, you be her attorney. she never marry

Thank you, thank you my children.

Well, I used to pray for a pious partner as top of my list. Other qualities I wanted are:

*Tall (I'm tall myself)
*Dark
*Goodlooking
*hardworking
*should be in the science field (so it'll be a good blend for the kids, me being in humanities)
*very romantic (yeah, alfas too can/should be romantic)
*down to earth
*Firm (should be a man in every sense of the word, taking decisions, saying things and meaning them etc).
*Social but not extremely so.

These are the ones I can remember at the moment.

Did I get all of these? Nearly but definitely not all. The truth is that there is more to an individual than the list we all put up to look for in our ideal man/woman. Even when we get most of these things on first glance, as time goes on, we discover traits and characters we may or may not like but which we have to put up with anyway.

In my opinion, two things are essential to make a relationship work to the end: piety in both parties and deep, mutual love. Every other requirement fall under these two.

@Zayhal, I knew you were not a Grandma.

zayhal:

Thank you, thank you my children.

Well, I used to pray for a pious partner as top of my list. Other qualities I wanted are:

*Tall (I'm tall myself)
*Dark
*Goodlooking
*hardworking
*should be in the science field (so it'll be a good blend for the kids, me being in humanities)
*very romantic (yeah, alfas too can/should be romantic)
*down to earth
*Firm (should be a man in every sense of the word, taking decisions, saying things and meaning them etc).
*Social but not extremely so.

These are the ones I can remember at the moment.

Did I get all of these? Nearly but definitely not all. The truth is that there is more to an individual than the list we all put up to look for in our ideal man/woman. Even when we get most of these things on first glance, as time goes on, we discover traits and characters we may or may not like but which we have to put up with anyway.

In my opinion, two things are essential to make a relationship work to the end: piety in both parties and deep, mutual love. Every other requirement fall under these two.

The bolded points are classic and should be noted by all.

tall girls plenty for hia, short guys needs love too jor

mukina2:

yes oh
i even thought you were older that aunty fayezik .
i once read your post where you said television was not for you

and she once said she wldnt take someone wearing shorts seriously and the type of car wldnt matter to her and I thought 'dats grand ma talking'

zayhal:

Thank you, thank you my children.

Well, I used to pray for a pious partner as top of my list. Other qualities I wanted are:

*Tall (I'm tall myself)
*Dark
*Goodlooking
*hardworking
*should be in the science field (so it'll be a good blend for the kids, me being in humanities)
*very romantic (yeah, alfas too can/should be romantic)
*down to earth
*Firm (should be a man in every sense of the word, taking decisions, saying things and meaning them etc).
*Social but not extremely so.

These are the ones I can remember at the moment.

Did I get all of these? Nearly but definitely not all. The truth is that there is more to an individual than the list we all put up to look for in our ideal man/woman. Even when we get most of these things on first glance, as time goes on, we discover traits and characters we may or may not like but which we have to put up with anyway.

In my opinion, two things are essential to make a relationship work to the end: piety in both parties and deep, mutual love. Every other requirement fall under these two.

me like evrythn on da list.

and i agree wv d bolded. Some compromises would be made eventually.

mukina2:

tall girls plenty for hia, short guys needs love too jor

short girls shld subscribe plssssss! lol.

i am just 5 ft 2

deols:

and she once said she wldnt take someone wearing shorts seriously and the type of car wldnt matter to her and I thought 'dats grand ma talking'

For which I was quite unimpressed and we almost got into a fight. You know, being online is quite something. I wonder if I would ever converse with other people here talkless of being friends with them in the real world (male or female). However, this place allows you to share mutual ideologies and that breaks down barriers more than anything else I think.

That's awesome!

mukina2:

i am just 5 ft 2

not too short, shortie LOl

be nice to shorties

I hear

but shorties like tall guys too oo. abi u'r a different one

Seems we know what many people want in their spouses,

Now ladies, if u find a guy with the Qualities you want, would you ask him out?? if not, why wouldnt you

and

Guys, to what extent would you go to make that lady yours?? and how best do you think that should be done

so, i went into one of my old lecture notes nd found ds( God bless my teachers!)

manners of approach-

*someone speaks wv d woman on behalf of the man (dats like d alarina style of the Yorubas )- ds happened when the prophet Married Zaynab. It is said that Zaid conveyed the message to her.

*Man goes to the lady himself - Fatima bint Khais's case was the reference. .She went to the prophet to tell him of three pple who had asked for her hand and asked the prophet to help her choose after which he told her to marry Usama bin Zaid for Ma'wiyya was poor nd Abu Jam was fond of beating.

*Lady approaches the man - Khadija bint Khuwaylid asked for the prophet's hand. Also, a woman came to the prophet and said O Allah's apostle, I have come to give you myself in marriage. . .(vol.7, book 62, number24.)

and also

*Man asks the girl's waliyy(but of course! marries her only wv her consent) - the prophet asked Abubakr for Aisha's hand in marriage.(sahih Bukhari vol.7, book 62, Number 18)

I think lady can send someone to the man too. . .

_not every of us would like these although Islamic!

On a serious note, How long should it take a lady before she say yes to a proposal.

olawalebab:

On a serious note, How long should it take a lady before she say yes to a proposal.

It would have to depend on the individual, I guess.

They could also ask: How long does/should it take a man to know that he wants a particular lady for a wife?

olawalebab:

On a serious note, How long should it take a lady before she say yes to a proposal.

that is relative. dat would depend on d individual. experts opinion needed

maclatunji:

It would have to depend on the individual, I guess.

They could also ask: How long does/should it take a man to know that he wants a particular lady for a wife?

I think that is relative too

olawalebab:

On a serious note, How long should it take a lady before she say yes to a proposal.

i think its more or less a personal thing, some people go days, weeks, months even years before accepting a proposal.

Don't you think the longer the time, the lesser the interest will be