Dogalmighty17:


I think you need to apply for thunder to fire you.

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.

abbey621:
I have no issue with the wife, it is the in-laws that get problem. Man can get angry but as long as he is not physically abusive, the situation can still be resolved. Responsible in-laws find a way to resolve things not make it harder. The man has a right to fight for his son, it would be irresponsible for him to not do so.

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
.

Houseofglam7:
Some people deserve to be single.
@Op, you are one of such.

Mrkindness:
your own is a different case brother, this very guy was abusive to his wife.

breakthrough22:


Oh u didn't follow and u started judging abi

caesymore:



Na too much Nollywood dey cause all this nonsense. She think say they go write 10 years later and then everywhere go turn stew

abbey621:


I'm not here for the sentiments, go pull the data and check for yourself, grandfather was a judge and I also have two family members that are lawyers, please don't argue without doing adequate research!

TheGoodAmerican:
You told her you don't want to see her anymore simply because she couldn't pick up the phone the first few times you called her. This is a woman you're married to and the mother of your child, and you're talking to her anyhow. From your post, this was probably not the first time you're telling her such words. You also mention nagging. You cannot be verbally abusive towards your wife repeatedly and be difficult to live with and expect her to not get fed up one day.

Burgerlomo:


Somebody wey suppose to dey flex (enjoying) his life instead of giving himself unnecessary high BP over minor issues

breakthrough22:



So your wife is not supposed to say sorry if u called her for 6 hours without picking her calls?

And your wife changes your name from SWEETHEART to your son NAME on her contact that particular hours u are calling her ?

Do you mean I don't deserve explanation for all these ?

WhoDeyHause:
Just forget about her. She has found someone new.

chris51:
My dear young man you have problems : anger and insecurity. You were treating your wife with disrespect because she was depending on you financially. If you lose your wife because of your stupidity and ego, you will forever regret it.

There are many women outside there but how many have marriage qualities? Please swallow your pride, respect your in-laws and go for your wife and son. Your telling your wife that you don't want her back because she overstayed in her father's house is a disrespect to her father.

You are definitely not a good son in-law. Please learn manners and change your attitude.

Don't forget, your son's future is also at stake. Do you want him to be raised by a step father in future? I hope not.
It's not easy to build a family, "PLEASE DO NOT"
lose yours for a flimsy excuse. I'm praying for you.

Good luck.

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

Baddosqqi:


Abusive Hmm.. a woman can turn you to anything once they feel you're useless.

IamMobisola:
I hope women have learnt to be financially independent of their husbands so they won’t be listening to threats like “pack your things and go back to your father’s house” like the national anthem, something like “because of you things have gone bad for me” Or things like “You are the worst mistake of my life”
Very toxic human being and even has the audacity to come and post such online.
Mumu

Dididrumz:


You guys rush to give stupid advice here too much.
Why are You concluding that she has found someone else. Did You not read every thing the OP said He did? Or did You not reach the chats? Is that not enough to push or woman (or any other person) to the wall?

albanikeh001:
Oh chimo! Marriage wahala everywhere. God abeg o. I am not asking for much. Just a homely woman that will be a wife, friend and supporter. That's all I am asking for. Dear God, take away from me all these woke, highlife feminists girls with touch of ashawo vibez.

Kobojunkie:
1. Is the phone meant to be some sort of leash on her? Phone etiquette is that if you try to reach someone and the person is unavailable, you allow the person to call you back when the person is able to. According to your story, she explained that there was a power outage, and she couldn't charge the phone. So what exactly what she supposed to apologize to you for?

2. Is the name she saves your number on her phone part of your marriage agreement or something? Why does it matter if she saves your number under "Douchbag"?

3. You need to get yourself to a professional anger management class first. This new year, please endeavor to get a book on logical/critical reasoning/thinking so you can grow your mind and as such become able to logically analyze your decisions, and the world around you, including your relationships for yourself. I recommend the book Being Logical. However, any other text that sufficiently teaches you how to critically reason day-to-day issues out will work too. the key is to put into regular(continuous) practice what you learn so you become a more logical being than you are today.

breakthrough22:


If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .

Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them