Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

Danger dey run, you come dey run follow am, na wa for you ooo, you can't force her to keep the pregnancy if she wants to terminate it, just go with her to a reputable hospital, get the test done make sure you see the result, then allow her to proceed with the termination, make sure you are there to witness it to avoid stories that touch, after that you get the hell far out of her life. If this your story is true, you just saved your life please, please run for your life.

What kept you so long with her?Bro,carry your cross, tell her to keep the baby.

125k to remove a bastard that isn't even yours if truly shes pregnant? If that thing pass 40k make I bend.

Am sure the idiot isn't pregnant but just wanted to milk you of the #125k. It's left to you to take a stand since you still have affection for her someone who will show you and your family enough pepper if you mistakenly marry her eventually. Congrats in advance guy.

Young man, emphasis on the "Youngman"
Many men wished they saw these signs she is giving you on platter of gold before getting married but you are seeing it clearly like the sun brightens the day and you still feign confusion.
Young man, emphasis on the "Youngman" once again, if you know what's good for you, your future, your sanity, your finance, your relationship with your family, your well being, your health, your composure, your pride, your ego, your self respect and more Flee from her and flee like you are being chased by a wild beast.

Youngman, emphasis on the "Youngman" once again, you have a great future ahead of, a bright one so do not let a mistake of today mar and tarnish what lies ahead of you.
I wouldn't be surprised if she isn't pregnant.
You never mentioned her relationship with her Dad, as well as the relationship her mum has with her dad (use this variable as a factor because if you make the mistake of wifeing her, there is a probability that's how you would be treated).

She doesn't respect your Mum, even under your Father's roof, she doesn't respect you even under your roof, she doesn't see the need to apologize even when she is wrong, she talks down on you at every slight provocation, all these coming from someone that doesn't input progressive contributions to your life other than say sexual pleasure and probably cooking of food (which as you claim she holds hostage when she isn't at peace with you).
Yet you say you are still in love, the Lord has shown you these signs through her outright exhibitions.

Use your head and do what is right.

Alesa3341:
Hello
Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

virginchaser:
I don't need to complete your epistle before i tell you to halt the marriage procedure. Please don't compromise. She may not change.

Update after i completed the epistle.
I felt a little emotional about the pregnancy. On a second thought, pregnancy process sometimes re-tune girls attitude but the traits will always be there. You may once a while wake her up or call her in the middle of the night and talk to her, backing your words with some bible passages if she is a christian.

Your own level of mumu pass the op own.

I stopped reading after the 3rd paragraph. If you like, no get sense. Just dey play.

Run o. I say run o. She dey try fleece you. Belle noe dey dere.

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

Pls stay away from her, she’ll ruin you more if you keep up with her. Mine was almost 8 years been gullible loosing almost everything have suffered for. This kind of woman are not willing to add nothing to your growth, they’re subtractions all wise. Let her keep the baby and if she’s won’t give her half the cash to abort and for life let nothing binds you guys in whatsoever way. If you feel lonely, give it time, pray and study, there’ll be better

If at all this story is real, I would advise you to ask her to refund you the money you gave her previously to abort the baby. After that you ignore her calls. Say no to abortion.

Rastafryrice:
We sincerely apologize to the general public for this very act of nuisance. The poster is one of our psychiatric patients who escaped last night. We urge the public to go about with your various businesses as everything is under control.
Thanks for your understanding

I swear the poster is a big fuul

This your ex fiancee na real ticking time bomb

Once you can successfully get her to keep the baby, pray freverently that the child doesn't take her character at all o

Mumu op

1. He said he loved her so much. That means he's blind.

2. The dude is inexperienced, even @ 27. He needs to suffer from this girl to reset his empty brain

3. The op will never heed to any the advice given because he's not in charge of his mind. His fiance is.

4. The op seems to be the only male child of his parents and such, a spoilt brat.

My point? He doesn't deserve my advice.

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

Don't marry that witch. Pay for the abortion and make sure to never set eyes on her again

The reason she is so desperate to remove the pregnancy is because it is not yours, and she wants you to take charge of the abortion so the guilt of abortion would rest on your shoulders.

She carried out the test and never saw the need to let you know yet the words dropped from her mouth in the midst of an altercation. Wow

Insist on carrying a test, and I bet you this would cause a fracas from her.
Two things are involved, either she isn't pregnant or she is but the pregnancy isn't yours.
From what you have written, she only sees you as a meal ticket but her heart isn't with you.

In our local parlance, she just de use you!!!

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

Flee

the red flag is shining and you’re still entering it. you want to raise a kid with an abusive mother. na wa o

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

Omor give the girl the money to abort the pregnancy and move on with your life. That the issues you guys are having is already involving your family members is enough reason to move on.

That girl is not pregnant. If she is, she won't have told you in the first place. She would have sorted out herself without involving you. Do you know she feels ashamed being tied to you because of a baby, especially in front of your mother. Women beef is deep. She won't admit to pregnancy so that your mum won't say you married her out of obligation. So i think she wants to fleece you of money.

Also, test results can be faked. Did you conduct the test in a government hospital yourself? Some girls even get urine of their girlfriends and submit to the doctor. So don't be too sure.

Now to the big picture, if she is truly pregnant, how sure are you that you are responsible for it. A girl that showed you so much disrespect and to your family has a 2nd option by the side. She never wanted to to marry you in the first place, just using you to cash out. So, I would have said you wait till birth to do DNA, but being tied to a woman that bad because of a baby will ruin your future family. Its a tie you will live to regret, and it gets worse (surprisingly) if the child is good natured. You are hooked for life unto saving the child from her wicked mother.

Allow the werey in her head to work in your favour. For once in your life, allow her to do what she wants. You can't save her.

Is this guy mad or what? ��‍♂️

When you marry her, she will turn you against your family and probably call your mother a witch.

But let me tell you category that she is NOT pregnant. Even if she is, she may be carrying someone else's child.

Don't give her any money again. Report her to the police.

Wait oh...It seems this lady can beat shiit out of you. You seem to be afraid of her!

SilverOrLead:


Run for your life.

Just let her know you don't support her doing an abortion and tell her you are free from infanticide and murder.

If she goes ahead, its not your sin.

If she keeps it and have the baby, 5ys from now go and collect your child

Simple.

I don't think it's that simple, she will be in his life forever if she gives birth to the child, she will drag and curse him and he will not have a happy marriage because she will interfere by the time she marry other men and find out she let go of a gold in the person of this op she will want to come back. I think if the pregnancy is less than 3 month it can still be terminated without much harm. At least islam says you can terminate a pregnancy before the soul enters it before a certain period like before three month.

Anuofia

I will advise you when you are broke and shattered and ready to reason cos theres where you headed

Na that love go kee you last last... u think marriage na boy and girl friendship.

make the puna dey sweet you dey go... I know say the girl bum thick na why sense ran far away from you.

Ineedhustle247:
I have a similar girl as baby mama
And I regret it everyday
Access to pikin sef I don't have

You marry she will frustrae you
Baby mama and you will be forever miserable

Allow her to have her way
End things and move on
By May this year you won't even remember her like that

Any girl that treats you this way does not love you and will never

Don't be miserable like me
I don advise my own
Tor

God bears me witness that I have not lied
My boy is turning 5 next month
I'm not sure his exact birthday
I don't have any form relationship with him come she has refused and I pay for upkeep every month

Nigeria is stressful already
Avoid more stress especially lifetime own
Tor

...STOP Paying the monthly upkeep!

You aren't obligated to ...Moreso when you aren't allowed to have any relationship with the child

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long.

MODIFIED

I won't insult you and call you foolish and stupid as much as i want to, because i know how subjective emotions can make us.

1. A girl you want to marry should be desperate to get your parents approval, not you in front of them.
2. If a girl i ever want to marry comes to me and says anything bad about my mom who has always been there for me all my life, God knows where that girl would find herself.
3.You have given her too much freedom to do what she wants and insult you. You are a prize girls would kill for, don't let someone disrespect you because you want to marry her
4.Call her to meet and establish your authority, don't let her talk back when you're talking to her if possible slam the wall so hard she wets herself but DON'T HIT HER. Tell her if she dares remove the child that your relationship with her is over and she must knee down and apologize to you and go knew down and apologize to your family. If she refuses then she isn't ready, don't give her the opportunity to say she's leaving, Tell her "You fvcking get out of my house right now and never delete every contact you have off me, you and i are done" while forcefully pointing at the door.

NB: make sure to screenshots or record all your conversations because someone like her can call the cops on you and claim you rape and impregnated her. Be careful mate oh and removing a pregnancy is not 125k

Cypress042:
Fiancee that doesn't respect the fiance parents

Is that one a fiancee

There's no " redder" flag than that

Your case is like that of Nigeria, you have been suffering for year and now you have a Messiah but you want to go back to Egypt to your land of slavery.

My advice is not for you cos you’ve seen all the red flags but yeye emotions dey cover your sound mind from letting her long time ago.

Anyone who is into a lady, don’t let emotion beclouded your judgement because first we are human and if one cannot reciprocate love with love and kindness then let the person go. You Dey bad character like flat tire but you choose to manage drive the car. If you like no use sense this 2023 na you go still bring your matter here looking for advice.

Meanwhile always pray for God directions in all your relationships. Is Jesus in your life ? If no invite him if yes walk with him. Peace

Ineedhustle247:
I have a similar girl as baby mama
And I regret it everyday
Access to pikin sef I don't have

You marry she will frustrae you
Baby mama and you will be forever miserable

Allow her to have her way
End things and move on
By May this year you won't even remember her like that

Any girl that treats you this way does not love you and will never

Don't be miserable like me
I don advise my own
Tor

God bears me witness that I have not lied
My boy is turning 5 next month
I'm not sure his exact birthday
I don't have any form relationship with him come she has refused and I pay for upkeep every month

Nigeria is stressful already
Avoid more stress especially lifetime own
Tor

wait ooo. so you mean you cant see your child yet you are paying monthly upkeep . you and the op no difference . you should stop paying the monthly upkeep . tell her you wont pay until you see your son.. i dont even understand the kind of foolish men we have nowadays