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My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 12:01pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
I don't know how i can help this situation gaskiya. My sis has been troubled ever since she went through her husband's WhatsApp chat with one particular woman. She told me she has been suspecting her husband who is always with his phone 247 for like 4 months now. She said he is always pressing his phone even till past 12am. When she noticed this she talked to him about it but he told her "it is his phone not hers, everyone should do whatever they like with their phone" she said she even denies him s3x sometimes because of this and also she's nonchalant about cooking and house chores all so that he can change and stop. But he doesn't seem bothered. And they have 2 kids. So one particular night he slept off and the phone fell off his hand so she took it b4 it locks and went through his chats. She discovers he has been having emotional affairs with a divorced woman. It seems to her the woman was his ex. He is planning on marring her as his 2nd wife. And the woman also has two kids. She said he hasn't defaulted in his responsibilities to the family. Me personally, i don't know what to do to console her to accept reality. Since our religion permits polygamy. Nairalanders please what can you say about this situation now. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Nwodosis(m): 12:02pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Women are more caring in a relationship than when they are being married, for them to pick up thier caring attitudes which are dormant in marriage, they need a rivalry, either as a side chick or a second wife. 26 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 12:03pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Nwodosis: What's ur advice here 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Ireportlive: 12:05pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Go and get a forger to forge a General Hospital letter header and fake HIV AIDs positive result in your Brother in Laws name, Snap it and send it to the divorced woman with an annonymous number . 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Romanoff(f): 12:07pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Instead of having a serious conversation with him about his nonchalant attitude, she decided to deny him sex and avoid cooking for him and some chores she usually use to do. That's a big unwise mistake that a lot of women make. She should first look for a counsellor to talk to talk to before confronting her husband, she should have a screenshot of the evidence before talking to him. She can start by appreciating him for what he is doing well in the marriage and then asking him if there's any way she is failing as a wife. She should listen to what he has to say about her effort as a wife. If he has nothing wrong to say about her, she should show him the evidence and ask where she went wrong. If nothing positive comes out of the conversation, then it's time to call the families together. I hope she is gainfully employed or has a business of her own? Cause this could go any way. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by rickpat(m): 12:09pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
once a man has made up his mind to go astray, there's nothing that can be done.. except he falls terribly ill or goes horribly broke.... your sister denying him sex and refusing to do chores is only making him happier because he is seeing more reasons to marry the second woman conclusion,that man will regret it in years to come.. polygamy not always the best...good luck to him...as for your sister,either she leaves or stay and have a co wife 10 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 12:11pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Ireportlive: Do you think this will work? Can't the potential 2nd wife ask him to come and do the test life to confirm? |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 12:13pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Romanoff: She isn't employed. He is the one sponsoring her education at the moment. Hmmm did she have mouth to call any family meeting? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 12:15pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
rickpat: Ok thanks for your input. |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Ireportlive: 12:17pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
fyzaila: When two adult are resolved in taking a decision nothing can stop them, except you manipulate them |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 12:18pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Ireportlive: Lol... I told her to pray and accept her fate since polygamy is permitted in their religion and culture. |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Romanoff(f): 12:25pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
fyzaila: She has to tell her family what is going on and his own family members but she should do that after speaking with him about it first. A Nigerian woman marrying without a source of income is setting herself up for being put out on the street at the slightest reason. It's a recipe for disaster. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Nyascobar1414: 12:28pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Nwodosis: wise words! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Nyascobar1414: 12:33pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Your Inlaw is a redpiller, a man that knows his worth,hahahaa... A woman denying a man that has many option or pussy s£x? 11 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by pansophist(m): 12:37pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Romanoff: Accountability is so forking attractive in people, especially women. I like your advice, infact I love am. Denying a man sex won't make him comply to your demands, it only pushes him further away. Men by nature are fighters, and woman trying to fight with a man will lose. Unless he is not a masculine man. A woman can literally get anything she wants from a man by being soft, lots of men can't even stand a woman's tears, that's how powerful women can be in how they influence men. If a woman denies a man sex, all she foolishly does is push him into the arms of another woman, destroying her sexual monopoly and make herself irritating as times goes by. 25 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Romanoff(f): 12:38pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
pansophist: This is true. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Tokskob2008: 12:39pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
She doesn't cook for him anymore nor let him have access to his bed rights yet don't want him to have a second wife Your sis needs her brain checked instead of trying to stop him from having a second wife and I'm pretty sure those were the bad attitudes in her the husband saw before seeking a second wife... She can't eat her cake and have it at the same time. 9 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Gerrard59(m): 12:46pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
fyzaila: So, why is she bothered especially as she has starved him of sex? It is like me being married to a Muslim lady and getting worried she would wear the hijab. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by pansophist(m): 12:49pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Polygamy has always been a way of making women seat up. If a woman is not living up to her matrimonial duty, the introduction of a second wife will break her monopoly. One thing humans fears the most is competition, especially a competent competitor. Since the introduction of Uber for example, other taxi company improved their services and prices, since they have no monopoly anymore. For a wife, a younger, attractive bride is her worse nightmare, since without conflict, it renders her redundant. Since men carries the burden of relationship, it's unfair to him for a woman not to live up to her own duties. Imagine providing for her 100%, and she won't cook or fork you, but still enjoys the man's provision and protection. How is that fair? The man is even nice. He didn't throw her out, but decided to add one wife more. If it's men that are born mad but kept it tamed, they would have thrown her out since, but again, such men won't end up with a woman who denies them sex in the first place. They are smart to pick right. 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by SenecaTheYonger: 12:51pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Now she go dey give am toto wella. But it’s too late. Keep playing mind games with your husband. |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Theboy21: 1:20pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by dabonny(m): 1:38pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Instead of having a serious conversation with him about his nonchalant attitude, she decided to deny him sex and avoid cooking for him and some chores she usually use to do. That's a big unwise mistake that a lot of women make. She should first look for a counsellor to talk to talk to before confronting her husband, she should have a screenshot of the evidence before talking to him. She can start by appreciating him for what he is doing well in the marriage and then asking him if there's any way she is failing as a wife. She should listen to what he has to say about her effort as a wife. If he has nothing wrong to say about her, she should show him the evidence and ask where she went wrong. If nothing positive comes out of the conversation, then it's time to call the families together. I hope she is gainfully employed or has a business of her own? Cause this could go any way. You really said my mind. God will bless you. You spoke very well without being bias or sentimental. You sound like a marriage counsellor though. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Goodlady(f): 1:51pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Nwodosis:Ok. I guess men too need rivals. You don't treat people that do well to you badly. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 1:57pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Gerrard59: She doesn't want to share him with another woman. |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 2:00pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Tokskob2008: The truth is that even as her sis i don't support her in her actions. How can you have a submissive husband who assist in house chores and children care like bathing and all that, and sti take him 4 granted. Now that reality is settling in, she's is running helter-skelter. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by faceLAGOS: 2:09pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Some women can be irritating, especially Nigerian women. Imagine denying him sex & being nonchalant. Tell that your sister that it’s too late to cry. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by fyzaila: 2:16pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
pansophist: In this case, the woman he is intending to bring in is not so young like that i think. She said from her findings she is just 2yrs older than her and she has 2 kids already. Just that my sis is alot fatter than her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Kipaji: 2:24pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
I see no problem here. Just a responsible man who wants to add a new woman to the team. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Nwodosis(m): 2:45pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Goodlady:That will be acceptable when women start paying the groom price. Equality in marriage should start from who is paying the pride price or the groom price. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by AKWATGOLD1(m): 3:09pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
Is your sister's fault. She knows her husband weakness, she should work on it to regain her husband back. fyzaila: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Planning On Taking In A Second Wife...please Help by Kabalmark(m): 3:28pm On Jan 20, 2023 |
fyzaila:nothing concern me for two adults wey don see their own nekedness |
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