Hello House,

Please, I need advise on how to console and encourage a friend of mine here in naija that heard the news of the death of her newly wedded husband who returned to the US after the wedding ceremony.

The husband lived in the US for so many years, he had a good woman/wife with two children. I don’t know if they were legally married or he settled with the lady and had kids with her for papers during his early years in the US.

Now, after years of being divorced or separated from the lady, I think a calabar US based woman according to him, he then met my friend at an occasion while he came to naija. He pick interest in her and proposed marriage, after like one or two years of communication over the phone. They got wedded seven months ago, and he flew back to the states. Communication continued via phone, until there was a break in communication, my friend here in naija tried to reach him but to no avail, until she called one of his US friend who went and confirmed that her husband was about entering his car packed on a hilly road, he forgot the handbrake wasn’t activated, and the car rolled with him to a tree…he had some fractures and rushed to the hospital. At a point, he was recuperating, although couldn’t speak to my friend on phone.Due to his extreme condition, I think the first wife came but shut every communication. So literally my friend was left in the dark until she heard that he had passed away.

His burial will be in the states, and his family here told my friend that they will come for discussion after the burial, probably for his properties which was gotten in both his name and wife’s name(my friend). Before his demise, he had told her how terrible most of his clans are, and how she should try to avoid them and keep things secret from them

How do I encourage her at this time and also the impending battle with her late husband’s family

Tell her sorry, make she find another greencard holder.

This is a complex issue, she's truly entitled to some of his property if she was legally married to him.


But she shouldn't get into dirty fight with the first wife and the husband family if things turn ugly

This matter is complicated.
I don't know if the Nigerian marriage will hold up because the man wasn't divorced from his wife in the US before he married another woman.
Bigamy is an offense in the US.

To be honest, I don't think there is any headway for the new wife to get any property. There's also the issue of will.

The new wife's chances are slim in my opinion. Very very slim.

RIP to the dead. May God comfort both families.

Sorry about your lost.
Just 7 months, and her name is in the documents already, kinda of early.
Advice youd friend not to fight for property o.
Even if its a conjugal property Im sure she didn't work for it, besides the man has kids. So she should let go.
Some kinsmen can be mean when it comes to property.

God1000:
This is a complex issue, she's truly entitled to some of his property if she was legally married to him.


But she shouldn't get into dirty fight with the first wife and the husband family if things turn ugly

I don't think the first wife will care about anything in naija. She is based in the US and have been separated for quite a long time. In-fact, I don't think she knows where he lives. Probably met both of themselves in the states during his early period. There is no much communication from the first wife, so literally my friend don't even know anything consigning him in the US. He was planning on moving my friend to the US by mid this year after completion of his project here in naija, which my friend supervise. So, it is his siblings and relatives that will come for the discussion here not his US based estrange wife

WhisperedNoise:
This matter is complicated.
I don't know if the Nigerian marriage will hold up because the man wasn't divorced from his wife in the US before he married another woman.
Bigamy is an offense in the US.

To be honest, I don't think there is any headway for the new wife to get any property. There's also the issue of will.

The new wife's chances are slim in my opinion. Very very slim.

RIP to the dead. May God comfort both families.

The house they bought in naija was in both his name and his newly wedded wife's name.......I don't think she cares about his US properties because she does not even know any.

And also, the first wife and her kids are all based in the US, i dont think the kids have ever been to naija...as such i think the naija property talk will be between my friend and his clans here

Tumbuleke:


The house they bought in naija was in both his name and his newly wedded wife's name.......I don't think she cares about his US properties because she does not even know any.

And also, the first wife and her kids are all based in the US, i dont think the kids have ever been to naija...as such i think the naija property talk will be between my friend and his clans here

The matter is complicated. It's a legal matter and as such, it's beyond my purview.

The lady should first settle the ownership before involving the extended family of the man who are in Nigeria. These things can get very messy if it's not written in black and white.

Give her a shouldick to lean on. Because it's a woman you want to die in her personal issues. Will you do that same for a fellow guy?

Terrible incident indeed. If she was legally married, then she shouldn't have much to fear, especially if your claim that the properties were in their names.

As for consolation, there is no special way than for her to take heart, get to terns with the reality and allow time to heal her.

This your friend does not care that the man has died, all she has her eyes on are his properties.
Will she die if she moves on, she doesn't have a child yet for him, so why is she so interested in the mans property ?
Better tell her to go and look for work to do and stop fighting over property, if she had a child now, then it would make sense that the child would need to get a part of the mans assets .

oldienavie:
This your friend does not care that the man has died, all she has her eyes on are his properties.
Will she die if she moves on, she doesn't have a child yet for him, so why is she so interested in the mans property ?
Better tell her to go and look for work to do and stop fighting over property, if she had a child now, then it would make sense that the child would need to get a part of the mans assets .

This man has lived over 20yrs in US, although he comes to Nigeria Occasionally but never built even a room for himself. According to him whenever he send money for a project, the relative squander and steal it, thinking he has lots of money in the US. That’s the reason he had disagreements with most of his relatives, they are not even in talking terms with some. That’s what he told my friend, his wife.

He only managed to buy a bungalow when she came into his life, and that was partly her contribution as well, though majority of the fund came from him. What makes you think a man will write his name and wife’s name on the property if she has no input?.

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This one tough oo

You sure say no be coco burst?

Anyway, she's still young, make she find another man and leave the dead man's properties alone.

Too bad

Bros, tell her to move on and continue her olosho work. Luck might happen to her again with another maga!

Sad situation.

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Please let's support his excellency Mr Peter obi for the president of federal Republic of Nigeria, we are tired of those thief's now,

Without a tribalism and nepotism any sane Nigerian know it's only someone like Peter obi that can now rescue Nigeria from total collapsing, but seriously some ethnic bigot people will just still prefer to hav their own man at the affairs of the country either he is capable or not than to go for what could have been the best solution to all nigerian's current problems, #ObiDatti2023 is certain

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ANOTHER TRASH THREAD !!!


What has happened to this forum?

When devil follow toy

Tell your friend to leave another man’s property alone and go and work for her own money.
From the story, no be the man’s death dey pain am, na the green card and property she dey mourn.
May we not enter into the hands of a selfish spouse

It is always about properties dammit

Please vote for PETER OBI

It is well with you

Tumbuleke:


This man has lived over 20yrs in US, although he comes to Nigeria Occasionally but never built even a room for himself. According to him whenever he send money for a project, the relative squander and steal it, thinking he has lots of money in the US. That’s the reason he had disagreements with most of his relatives, they are not even in talking terms with some. That’s what he told my friend, his wife.

He only managed to buy a bungalow when she came into his life, and that was partly her contribution as well, though majority of the fund came from him. What makes you think a man will write his name and wife’s name on the property if she has no input?.

This is a lie from the pit of hell.

I can bet my two balls that your friend ( which is you) didn’t contribute nada to the said property.


From your narrative the man was financially buoyant and he had been sending money home before he met your friend( which is you ) but his family according to you was “eating the money” I know this is a false narrative to gather sympathy .

You and your friend na thief , she didn’t have any kid with him , and I’m sure during his short time with her, she enjoined part of his money too. She should move on .
Honestly speaking , it means that his demise is not painful to your friend self ( which is you ), y’all about his properties.


Who even know if na from your body e carry trouble




This is a reminder to guys out there,
Women no Dey love without benefit attached…

I'm sorry but Your friend (his wife) has a spiritual husband that got jealous and killed the us based man. She should go for deliverance from a strong man of God.

Only time will heal her wounds. Just keep close contact with her.