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Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by bedia01: 10:34pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
~Bluetooth:This issue of fight fight is not only perculiar with poor families, but a family where couples are not ready to learn from each other. This may happen as aresult of wrong choice made by either the husband or the wife. It is EASY to make a mistake, but difficult to correct it. I call it a mistake in the sense that if a man decides to marry a woman he had not studied, but with the intention of learning from each other in the name of love, subsequently, after the wedding, the woman will not be ready to learn, will not accord respect to the husband, before her husband says a word she has already spoken five,she is not ready for any corrections, she does not welcome her mother inlaw/father inlaw and her husband,s relations, unless her relations. Inaddition, there can only be peace only if any money belonging to the husband will be in her possession and spends it at will without negotiation or consultation with the husband. Any attempt to correct this always result to fight and nagging. Consequent upon all these, there is always regret and lack of peace which one may be tempted to think that marriage is not worth it. But in the circumstance where both wife and husband are ready to learn from each other, have misunderstandings and resolve them amicablly, then, it worth it. It is better to stay on top of a roof than to stay with a wicked and nagging woman. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by fateavon4u(f): 10:41pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
Marriage is totally worth it but its d attitude we ladies have towards marriage that SERIOUSLY has to change. Advice for d ladies:- 1.stop making ridulously demands.have some self respect nd dnt just dump all ur wahala on ur man's head. 2.marriage isnt just d end of it ,there is life after d whole wedding wahala and usually we ladies blive that We Can nw rest nd you can start growin excessive adipose tissue in all d wrong place, lol, Let change ths atitude pls |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by emmatok(m): 10:45pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
davidylan: Wishing what? That i go through all those stress and inconvenience myself just to please somebody? And funny thing, most people cannot predict were their marriage is heading to. The-same people who start their marriage happy and loving, end up separating in bitter way. Who do you blame for that. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 10:46pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
stillwater: Send that sister to me ASAP. Her life will never be the same again and she will forever thank you for it. How's single life different from married life? for one you start saying yes sir to another man for life. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 10:52pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
davidylan: Lol, doesn't bother me. Been doing that to my dad since time immemorial without talking back. I'm a veteran in that, lol. It's even better now at least the man would be my friend. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 10:56pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
stillwater: ok then you be opening your legs on command from now on. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 11:00pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
*Pukes*. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 11:03pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
stillwater: you better start learning. Most men dont joke with that thing, i sure dont. I make that very clear from the begining. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 11:06pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
davidylan: Well the bible commands I do that as long as I am married. Every woman does it, why should my own be different? Abeggii. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 11:10pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
stillwater: ori e pe. very good girl. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by oohunt: 11:12pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
I think people have their different ideas of what marriage is all about. Some are right and some are wrong. This misconception has made Oyibo people take marriage as a fairy tale. If it is not all fussy and sweet like we see in the movies then it is not right. We Nija, like we commonly do, have adopted this mentality. I believe that people are not well informed about marriage and it's expectations, that is why it is even more challenging than it is supposed to be. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by dempeople(m): 11:43pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
Post from Dayokanu
Dayo, you saved me the energy of having to type cos, 99% of what I thought about marriage were summarized in your post above. I fear marriage seriously but it will happen. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by adconline(m): 11:47pm On Sep 09, 2011 |
If marriage is going to be a subtraction instead of a great addition from your life, then it's not worth it. Come to think of it, you can do well or bad by your only self. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by chivalry2: 12:00am On Sep 10, 2011 |
@SWIFT SMS, Can we meet? I really like the way your mind works and I would like to know the real you! Please let me have your response via my e-mail: oige11@yahoo.com. Thanks. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Tgirl4real(f): 12:07am On Sep 10, 2011 |
I'm loving the thread. . . @ Dayokanu n others of like minds, Love is sacrificial. It takes a lot of sacrifice, patience and perseverance. Marriage is for matured people. Though it doesn't mean it won't have its challenges. The thread is meant to be an interactive one. It's also to help those that are having challenges. Letz take it to another angle. For those that says it worth it, How long should one persevere when the marriage is not working (not referring to physical assault)? To what length should one sacrifice? @ Chilvary, Ride on jare |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by dayokanu(m): 12:14am On Sep 10, 2011 |
Tgirl4real: So what questions for those saying its not worth it. Cos if you are in a marriage where one spouse still have gf/bf outside, In an abusive relationship etc I would believe its better to be single |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 12:17am On Sep 10, 2011 |
Tgirl4real: Your vows say "till death do us part" . . . well you need to persevere until one or the other is dead. That's why no one should enter marriage before serious prayer and eye shining. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Tgirl4real(f): 12:32am On Sep 10, 2011 |
you are right D. But i would go with temporary seperation when physical/psychological abuse comes in |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Princek12(m): 12:33am On Sep 10, 2011 |
Yes, as long as both parties married for the right reasons, not because the guy lives in Lekki, drives a Range-Rover, and can afford to buy his babe a Blackberry phone and recharge cards. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by iwonbaoko1: 12:38am On Sep 10, 2011 |
a point comes when everytin is predictable and boring. hellish |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by iwonbaoko1: 12:44am On Sep 10, 2011 |
i have a theory all the guys who suffer the hell of marriage want to make sure other men don't escape so they weave this web of guilt until you comply and join their ranks. if you live in the west find one or more oyinbos impregnate them and pay your bills. live with them if necessary but marry no it is an unpleasant load. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 1:06am On Sep 10, 2011 |
Is uju married? |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 1:07am On Sep 10, 2011 |
jennykadry: all na by faith. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Lax75(m): 1:24am On Sep 10, 2011 |
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Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Donmichaelz(m): 3:16am On Sep 10, 2011 |
MARRIAGE IS SCARING ME OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO because MOST LADIES GET MARRIED 4 D FOLLOWING REASons 1, SUM1 DEY CAN PUT ALL THEIR BURDEN ON 2, sum1 2 make dem happy u knw wat most guys dont want 2 get married because most girls only want marriage because of how it will benefit DEMMMMMM |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by FX(m): 5:52am On Sep 10, 2011 |
Prisoners of Marriage. Freedom is priceless. I don't set my goals based on what d society or d world at large deems important. Nobody can limit me in any form in this world. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Tjluv: 6:58am On Sep 10, 2011 |
@Topic, I'm yet to understand the concept of marriage,so i'm not exactly sure if it's worth it. However,i'll love to get married, so i can have kids. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 9:43am On Sep 10, 2011 |
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Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by mekussays: 10:06am On Sep 10, 2011 |
Nice Post as this topic is very interesting My opinion is about this topic is: i am a single man but i have a lot of married friends. Everyday all my married friends do is complain about their marriage. They are not actually happy and the reason they are still together is the kids. Also they are always after single girls to cheat. So i have i ask the question why r they married? My conclusion is that nigerian rush into marriage and find out they are not happy but they will not want to divorce cuz of the so called stigma attached to it. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by Nobody: 10:21am On Sep 10, 2011 |
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Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by ifyalways(f): 10:40am On Sep 10, 2011 |
jennykadry:Uju as in Ujujoan?O gwaghi gi?O gbago akwukwo a few months ago. |
Re: Marriage: Is It Worth It? by willarrie(m): 11:05am On Sep 10, 2011 |
MARRIAGE-An institution where in,a man looses his Bachelors Degree and on the other hand,d womans gains her masters Degree, |
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