coogar:

no. . . .according to the females on here. . . .men don't suffer domestic abuse at all.
it's the odd exception - only 2% men suffer the abuse in contrast to 98% women.

Sisi_Kill:

Stop being deliberately obtuse jo, it doesn't suit you. . . who said men don't suffer domestic violence but to say the woman on man violence is anywhere close to the man on woman violence is asinie

Sisi_Kill:

Stop being deliberately obtuse jo, it doesn't suit you. . . who said men don't suffer domestic violence but to say the woman on man violence is anywhere close to the man on woman violence is asinie

chaircover:

I am not burying my head in the sand and  know that there are husband beaters; many of them too, but this partcular thread is focused on violence against wife's and what to do to assist these women

davidylan:

Gbam! I've always said, a man who would abuse you shows his hand earlier in the relationship but most women choose to ignore it.

I cant count the number of women who say stuff like wanting a man who can "put me in my place when i'm being cocky" (i'm serious!). I just spoke to a friend this evening who is willing to turn down a perfect gentleman doctor because she feels he has no "swag" i.e. he is too soft, too nice, caters to her every need and is too sensitive to her needs. I couldnt believe my ears!

Rather she wants a man who has "ego", can push her around the place and slap her down when she needs it!   no kidding!

coogar:

domestic violence is a 2-way thing.

one type of abuse precedes the other.
a woman with a caustic tongue gets slapped by her husband . . .she grabs her phone and call chaircover, and chaircover generally assumes men are monsters. . .

i believe the logical thing is to dissect what led to the slap. verbal abuse is a domestic abuse as well and it's wrong. . . .but most women especially those semi-illiterate nigerian women think only punches and kicks constitute a domestic abuse. like i said earlier, there's no smoke without fire.
the issue is not gender-related. . . .men and women can be domestically violent!

dayokanu:

[size=18pt]I support every human treating the next person with respect both male and female should respect one another and never resort to violence or verbal abuse.

Gender is no excuse for irresponsible behavior[/size]

cotton101:

I can only laugh, so my broken wrist was because I used my mouth to reduce the AC, and the beating I received for talking to a neighbour was cos of my mouth right, KMT in disgust - u men make me laugh so you will tell your daughter that its ok for her husband to beat her if she is rude to him.

I don't even want to continue - please explain to me how beating a pregnant woman can ever be justified.

cotton101:

I can only laugh, so my broken wrist was because I used my mouth to reduce the AC, and the beating I received for talking to a neighbour was cos of my mouth right, KMT in disgust - u men make me laugh so you will tell your daughter that its ok for her husband to beat her if she is rude to him.

I don't even want to continue - please explain to me how beating a pregnant woman can ever be justified.

dayokanu:

Ok Let me get it.

The AC wasnt working and next thing your husband beat you for it .

You said Hello to the neighbour and next thing your husband beat you?

coogar:

i will not train my daughter to be rude to her husband. . . .this is where most of you don't get it. . .
i will treat her to respect her husband always and give him the same respect she would give me(her dad). . .

it's very simple. . . .
about your broken wrist and the beatings, please confess to us - what have you been doing to this man to warrant these abuses?
confess and the truth shall set you free. . . . . .no man would suddenly turn his own wife into a punching bag without reasons.

if you bring your husband here, he will have a story to tell.
reminds me of that woman who came here to report her husband about this n that.
when the husband decided to post his own version - we heard the woman once infected him with chlamydia or one dirty std like that. . . .

cotton101:

KMT - the fact your asking makes me come to the conclusion that you have no idea that THE VICTIM IS NEVER TO BLAME. The only story my ex will tell is I got angry when he decided to chase anything without a joystick.

Look I'm not even going to start trying to explain anything here - the fact that a grown Bottom man can[b] slap me about cos I spoke to a neighbour - (reason he didn't want me interacting with anyone apart from him - yes isolating you from people is one of the tactics[/b] used by animals (sorry my bad men who beat up women) where is the story.

the only thing u can even use is that he lost his job and decided to take out his frustrations on me. if you feel he has a different story then u seek him out, but please tell me what justification you will try and give here for beating a pregnant woman.

by the way not all victims are rude and even if they are and so - if your boss insults you do you slap him about as well, one only has to see the stress that Olisa guy from Beat FM got for beating a male colleague - people condemed it i'm sure if it was his wife u would say that she deserved it abi? KMT

cotton101:

KMT - the fact your asking makes me come to the conclusion that you have no idea that THE VICTIM IS NEVER TO BLAME. The only story my ex will tell is I got angry when he decided to chase anything without a joystick.

Look I'm not even going to start trying to explain anything here - the fact that a grown Bottom man can slap me about cos I spoke to a neighbour - (reason he didn't want me interacting with anyone apart from him - yes isolating you from people is one of the tactics used by animals (sorry my bad men who beat up women) where is the story.

the only thing u can even use is that he lost his job and decided to take out his frustrations on me. if you feel he has a different story then u seek him out, but please tell me what justification you will try and give here for beating a pregnant woman.

by the way not all victims are rude and even if they are and so - if your boss insults you do you slap him about as well, one only has to see the stress that Olisa guy from Beat FM got for beating a male colleague - people condemed it i'm sure if it was his wife u would say that she deserved it abi? KMT

cotton101:

KMT - the fact your asking makes me come to the conclusion that you have no idea that THE VICTIM IS NEVER TO BLAME. The only story my ex will tell is I got angry when he decided to chase anything without a joystick.

Look I'm not even going to start trying to explain anything here - the fact that a grown Bottom man can slap me about cos I spoke to a neighbour - (reason he didn't want me interacting with anyone apart from him - yes isolating you from people is one of the tactics used by animals (sorry my bad men who beat up women) where is the story.

the only thing u can even use is that he lost his job and decided to take out his frustrations on me. if you feel he has a different story then u seek him out, but please tell me what justification you will try and give here for beating a pregnant woman.

by the way not all victims are rude and even if they are and so - if your boss insults you do you slap him about as well, one only has to see the stress that Olisa guy from Beat FM got for beating a male colleague - people condemed it i'm sure if it was his wife u would say that she deserved it abi? KMT

I just have to ask . . . where do you folks find these animals like this to marry?

1. how does a loving and a respectable wife husband suddenly beats his wife in one day? Did you marry a psychopath?

2. What if it was an act of defense. seriously, we have some wicked women, still does not excuse the fact that she beat his wife.

Quote from: Sisi_Kill on Today at 08:24:30 PM
cotton, I believe in a situation like that, the better question would be. . .Why of all the men in the world, you chose to marry a RABID DOG?

dayokanu:

I would refer you to the comments of some ppl on this thread for soccour

cotton101:
@coogar
hmmmmmmm  beat up his girlfriend - I have a lot my class than that abeg. My issue was with my husband and not some random fool outside - did she make vows to me? this aint nollywood.

anyway I can see that this topic has now become something else. I just thank God I left nigeria - gosh even a pastor had the gut to tell me that I should endure. I told him that I cannot endure until i'm 6 feet under cos I will not have people drinking malt and star and eating jollof, fried rice and chicken at my burial prematurely. Nonsense I have not been to New York yet and someone wants to kill me b4 I see the statue of liberty - arrant nonsense and ingredients.

divalishis:

@cotton101
I thank God for your life. At least you're alive to tell the story and now, you're safe too. I understand all you've been trying to say. God bless you and keep such people far away from your generations and mine! Amen!!

armyofone:

na so ooo, i love attending Vag.ina Monologue, woman don suffer tire for this life and pple like coogar and Jonnadone appreciate we being disciplined, oh well.
me i no take my life play, no man born of a woman will ever put his hands on me.

ThiefOfHearts:


army woman like you. Only a fool would dare

dayokanu:

Ok Let me get it.

The AC wasnt working and next thing your husband beat you for it .

You said Hello to the neighbour and next thing your husband beat you?

I would tell my daughter one thing as an adult always talk, act and address people in a way you want to be addressed especially in a way that wont insult your education and home training.

Never resort to verbal or physical violence under whatever circumstance, It reduces you as a person

armyofone:

apart from that, the law protect women here. i just want things to be different for women in nigeria.
how are you doing Karma?