No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

Don't come and start begging for husband to marry you like that woman in Paris looking for husband to marry her and pay after your youthfulness has passed and you're aging.

Go and work and get your own money too to contribute to your family. We're not more in the generation of full time house wives waiting for their husbands to come back from work to put food on the table. Women should be up and doing like the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31.

Only lazy men without vision and plans can be poor.
Lazy women are the ones who marry lazy men.

DaddyFreeze2020:
Don't come and start begging for husband to marry you like that woman in Paris looking for husband to marry her and pay after your youthfulness has passed and you're aging.

Go and work and get your own money too to contribute to your family..only lazy men without vision and plans can be poor.

Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

EriMma1:


Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

Lazy women are the ones who marry lazy men .
No woman with vision will wait for a man who can't meet her needs to settle down with. Only lazy women wait for a man to meet their needs.

A hardworking woman working can never wait for a man to give her something. Only Shawarma, iphone and icecream girls

What are you doing with a woman that can't meet your need

TossTos:
What are you doing with a woman that can't meet your need

Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

Another potential evening newspaper

Are you an orphan or you simply don't understand that adulthood is simply about looking out for yourself

When he meets your needs what do you bring to the table ?

Anoda one with a parasitic mindset spotted,,,,, nogo find work do.... Ur own is to b having needs dat u cant meet on ur own

EriMma1:
■ Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground?
■ That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

1. Shouldn't a woman first make certain she is able to meet her own needs as a capable individual should before she goes seeking a man of equal or greater financial status?

2. A man's duty? No be the same vagina una both take enter this world? No be one brain, one body we all get so? Who made it someone's else's duty to take care of another equally capable adult such as himself?

EriMma1:


Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

That's what you people say when you're young, in no time you will want pastor or herbalist to do miracle

Dohn:
Anoda one with a parasitic mindset spotted,,,,, nogo find work do.... Ur own is to b having needs dat u cant meet on ur own

You mean the imbeciles who enable such parasitic living aren't also to blame for the foolishness they helped create and continue to enable?,

Autobot05:
Another potential evening newspaper

Are you an orphan or you simply don't understand that adulthood is simply about looking out for yourself

When he meets your needs what do you bring to the table ?

You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to the ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

DaddyFreeze2020:
Don't come and start begging for husband to marry you like that woman in Paris looking for husband to marry her and pay after your youthfulness has passed and you're aging. Go and work and get your own money too to contribute to your family. We're not more in the generation of full time house wives waiting for their husbands to come back from work to put food on the table. Women should be up and doing like the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. Only lazy men without vision and plans can be poor. Lazy women are the ones who marry lazy men.

Stop dicking around and start using your brain.

Are you insinuating then that it makes sense when you submit your brains to hypogamy when the women is not of age?

We are not more in the generation you say yet so many of your boys continue to marry for themselves wives as dependents in even this very 2023 wey we dey live. You sure say you don catch up with reality so?

Kobojunkie:
1. Shouldn't a woman first make certain she is able to meet her own needs as a capable individual should before she goes seeking a man of equal or greater financial status?

2. A man's duty? No be the same vagina una both take enter this world? No be one brain, one body we all get so? Who made it someone's else's duty to take care of another equally capable adult such as himself?

Go and read your bible oga. God placed that responsibility on the man.

So far, women have been getting empowered financially and meeting their needs by themselves since the men are beginning to fall short in their responsibilities and original position. So no biggies but that does not erase the fact that a man should cater for her needs.

EriMma1:
■ Go and read your bible oga. God placed that responsibility on the man.
■ So far, women have been getting empowered financially and meeting their needs by themselves since the men are beginning to fall short of their responsibilities original position. So no biggies but does not erase the fact that a man should be cater for their needs.

1. Leave God and His mention out of the mess that is your existence abeg!

You folks only mention His name when it suits , particularly to cover up one of your many ridiculous lies. And nothing you even do is of Him.

2. Where does this mandate you continue to claim come from? Your arse or where?

To my own best of knowledge, as far as human being is concerns, we are all live for betterment of our generation.

As a lady if you're not a vision and ambition pursue-er, I doubt what you need a man in your life for in the first place.

Having a man means you're psychologically and emotionally buoyant to carry whatever it comes with it.

The burden and everything should also go the same way with your partner.

Finding a partner to support and help grow together is what a lady should be seeking for except all this parasite leaching we have nowadays.

Hypothetically, men are meant to support you, not that you should now depend solely on them.

Men do not want liability has a partner I mean responsible men. Know this n know peace.

You now saying you can't date a man who can't meet your needs simply means, you yourself can't fend for your needs technically, yet you're looking for innocent man to depend on, how does it sound to you?

You remind me of one my lecturers in school which normally says "A LAZY WOMAN IS THE ONE THAT WILL BE LOOKING FOR A MAN THAT WILL CARRY HER BURDEN FOR HER."

Ppl are making wave nowadays, we hardly distinguish gender different in labour market.

So adjust your thinking n align your thought to evolve with reality nowadays.

Bless you.

Kobojunkie:
1. Leave God and His mention out of the mess that is your existence abeg!

You folks only mention His name when it suits , particularly to cover up one of your many ridiculous lies. And nothing you even do is of Him.

2. Where does this mandate you continue to claim come from? Your arse or where?

Kobojunkie, make that your mouth bend for using such dirty words on me. Are you ok?
If not for one thing now, i go blast you here, ahu a cha gi.

Mind your mouth.

EriMma1:
■ Kobojunkie, make that your mouth bend for using such dirty words on me. Are you ok?
If not for one thing now, i go blast you here, ahu a cha gi.

Mind your mouth.

Dirty word?

Abeg, no come change channel. You created this thread.

Kobojunkie:
Dirty word?

Abeg, no come change channel. You created this thread.

Oh.. you don't know that arse is a dirty word?
And who's existence are you calling a mess?

It's like you're beginning to lose control of your mouth. You'll be jam-talking anyhow. You better Watch it!

EriMma1:


Kobojunkie, make that your mouth bend for using such dirty words on me. Are you ok?
If not for one thing now, i go blast you here, ahu a cha gi.

Mind your mouth.

What a parasite and a liability you are!

Waiting for a man to provide for you? As in per your father or what? Your father is the only man God created to provide and take care of you until you're married. Stop being entitled parasite. No man is responsible for taking care of you except your father!

EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

Times have changed .. back then women were not allowed to work . They were mostly housewives until y'all started your equality and feminism thingy
You wanted to work and the modern days brought equality which is good. Women are becoming anything they wish to be and they're hitting different landmarks and achievements ...Now you are complaining you want to go back to the days of housewifery ( probably because of laziness)

You skipped my question what do you bring to the table?

StrongAlphMale:


What a parasite and a liability you are!

Waiting for a man to provide for you? As in per your father or what? Your father is the only man God created to provide and take care of you until you're married. Stop being entitled parasite. No man is responsible for taking care of you except your father!

See them. Na Dem 😂🤣😂🤣

EriMma1:
■Oh.. you don't know that arse is a dirty word?
■ And who's existence are you calling a mess?
■ It's like you're beginning to lose control of your mouth. You'll be jam-talking anyhow. You better Watch it!

1. You are kidding, right? Thing behind you is not an arse?

2. Look, for a fully functional adult to insist that dependence status, a life as a liability to others, is her lot, clearly such a being has no confidence in her existence as is. If you cannot even see that, then what a mess it really is.

EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

Go and look for a man that will bankroll all ur bills and needs.....its fine if thats what u want.

leave ancient land marks and men that dont mind some help keeping it real in their relationship, marriage and this difficult world, there are women who dont mind supporting their man... there are women who dont mind the give and take system....

Its weird coming here telling grown ups they have no right to date ....its an awful and toxic behavior to tell ur fwellow humans they have no rights to have feelings because their bank balance is not in plenty figures....

Autobot05:
■ Times have changed .. back then women were not allowed to work . They were mostly housewives until y'all started your equality and feminism thingy
You wanted to work and the modern days brought equality which is good. Women are becoming anything they wish to be and they're hitting different landmarks and achievements ...Now you are complaining you want to go back to the days of housewifery ( probably because of laziness)

You skipped my question what do you bring to the table?

1. Times have changed yet the vast majority of Nigerian men out there continue to submit to hypogamy en mass? You sure say you even still dey connected with reality as e dey on ground so?

By the way, a man opening a store for his wife does not change her status much because in a majority of such cases, said women continue to live as dependents.

Autobot05:


Times have changed .. back then women were not allowed to work . They were mostly housewives until y'all started your equality and feminism thingy
You wanted to work and the modern days brought equality which is good. Women are becoming anything they wish to be and they're hitting different landmarks and achievements ...Now you are complaining you want to go back to the days of housewifery ( probably because of laziness)

You skipped my question what do you bring to the table?

Leave that feminist bullshit! That's what you men are using as excuse to dodge responsibilities these days.

By the way, feminism is widely misunderstood. It doesn't mean equality with men in the area of financial responsibilities but equality of rights to work, earn and occupy certain office and political positions. You are just being ridiculous to think feminism is all about sharing financial responsibilities equally. No!

To your question, a womans duty is to make sure the home is in order and the children and husband are well fed and cared for. Manages the husbands finance very well. Proper Home and financial management are what we bring to the table.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are kidding, right? Thing behind you is not an arse?

2. Look, for a fully functional adult to insist that dependence status, a life as a liability to others, is her lot, clearly such a being has no confidence in her existence as is. If you cannot even see that, then what a mess it really is.

Abeg shift!

advanceDNA:


Go and look for a man that will bankroll all ur bills and needs.....its fine if thats what u want.

Sure, I'll get me one soonest.

EriMma1:


Leave that feminine bullshit! That's what you men are using as excuse to dodge responsibilities these days.

By the way, feminism is widely misunderstood. It doesn't mean equality with men in the area of financial responsibilities but equality of rights to work, earn and occupy certain office and political positions. You are just being ridiculous to think feminism is all about sharing responsibilities equally. No!

To your question, a womans duty is to make sure the home is in order and the children and husband are well fed and cared for. Manages the husbands finance very well. Proper Home and financial management is what we bring to the table.

Ehen e reach Bills .. feminism turn to bullshit . So In your opinion feminism is about having equal right as a man but not having equal responsibilities as a man ba ??

Well a responsible man can manage his home and finance alone and do it properly .. it's all about frugality

Women are becoming increasingly accepted in all areas and sections in the workforce . And that was what y'all have always wanted. So go get a job ma'am.

No sensible man wants a woman that cannot bring anything reasonable to the table this days.

Autobot05:


Ehen e reach Bills .. feminism turn to bullshit . So In your opinion feminism is about having equal right as a man but not having equal responsibilities as a man ba ??

Well a responsible man can manage his home and finance alone and do it properly .. it's all about frugality

Women are becoming increasingly accepted in all areas and sections in the workforce . And that was what y'all have always wanted. So go get a job ma'am.

No sensible man wants a woman that cannot bring anything reasonable to the table this days.

That was why I said you have no business being with a woman if you can't cater for her needs. Period!

Kobojunkie:
1. Times have changed yet the vast majority of Nigerian men out there continue to submit to hypogamy en mass? You sure say you even still dey connected with reality as e dey on ground so?

By the way, a man opening a store for his wife does not change her status much because in a majority of such cases, said women continue to live as dependents.

Lmao how many rich women look for financially lower guys?? Men practice hypogamy for security purposes
Once a woman is richer than her man you see her misbehaving . Btw how many of you starting from yourself will marry a guy she's richer than ?? Y'all will feel like he came to eat your money

I disagree. The woman continue to live as dependent while saving her own money ba . Most women rise from there and start seeing the mass as a low class

They'll now start seeking for an upgrade

EriMma1:


That was why I said you have no business being with a woman if you can't cater for her needs. Period!

And her need must have to do with finance ba ?
Learn to cater for yourself ... then the man will respect you not begging for sub , money for hair , wigs and clothes etc everytime

An average Nigerian girl can't even transport herself to go see her boyfriend or pay for a meal when they both go out . Is it the same way in Europe and the west . Hungry girls everywhere. No wonder una nor dey see husbands sef.