A VERY CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE. She's overdue and desperate for marriage, and she used to be unlucky when it comes to finding the right partner. She just met a guy that is of age but single, this guy is not financially bouyant but she is(self employed). Both of them are desperate to get married that within a month of their meeting this guy had introduced her to most of his family if not all. This my friend is ready to give him money for business of his choice or bring him into her business so they can both be doing it together, ready to get new apartment for both of them that in short , she's going to be the breadwinner of the family if they later end up together. Now, HER FEAR... What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of?

NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family

Your advice are needed pls...

She should get a scale.
Put her desperation on one side of the scale.
Put her fears on the other side of the scale.
Weigh them.

Whichever outweighs will give her a choice.

Bluezy13:
She should get a scale.
Put her desperation on one side of the scale.
Put her fears on the other side of the scale.
Weigh them.

Whichever outweighs will give her a choice.

This sounds logical...

Nooo....... how can she marry a man thats earning a small decent living...how will he take care of all her expense??

She should not be desperate because she has passed her prime and looking for any husband... her own rich single man will come that will come and marry her and take care of her ...
.that is the ideal thing.... that man does not deserve her until he becomes rich first.. she should wait small for her rich man

truthhurts2:
■What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of? NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family. Your advice are needed pls...

Tell your friend to come to submit her own story by herself here on nairaland in order to get feedback live.

Kobojunkie:
Tell your friend to come to submit her own story by herself here on nairaland in order to get feedback live.

she's doesn't even aware of nairaland

Kobojunkie:
Tell your friend to come to submit her own story by herself here on nairaland in order to get feedback live.

she called to seek my opinion, and the matter come get k-leg for me

truthhurts2:
she's doesn't even aware of nairaland

She has you to inform her of it. A place where she can hide behind a moniker and obtain as much possible advice as she can.

truthhurts2:
she called to seek my opinion, and the matter come get k-leg for me

Ask her to come online to seek advice. E get why!

truthhurts2:
This sounds logical...

Shey all those stories of women that spent on men and their men ended up marrying another women na joke? We'll read urs soon. Dey mumu dey go. Chaii...

Shalommy:
Shey all those stories of women that spent on men and their men ended up marrying another women na joke? We'll read urs soon. Dey mumu dey go. Chaii...

So you will not spend on me.

Me that will never leave you

I will not call you my sexy lizard again

Kobojunkie:
Ask her to come online to seek advice. E get why!

give your own opinion... lobatan

I don't mean to be sarcastic.
But the age her family didn't want her to reach without getting married, she's there already,so why the pressure again?
Sometimes I laugh at scenarios like this.
She should just be careful Sha, even relationships that we are confident it will walk out,some never does at a point, talk more of the one you have your reservations.

QQIA:

So you will not spend on me.

Me that will never leave you

I will not call you my sexy lizard again

I dey find way to use u make money and u dey talk nonsense. Chaii..

Medianna:
I don't mean to be sarcastic.
But the age her family didn't want her to reach without getting married, she's there already,so why the pressure again?
Sometimes I laugh at scenarios like this.
She should just be careful Sha, even relationships that we are confident it will walk out,some never does at a point, talk more of the one you have your reservations.

I think it's a normal thing for parents to starts asking questions when they see that the time has overlong due. We can't blame them

Shalommy:
I dey find way to use u make money and u dey talk nonsense. Chaii..

I understand, it costs you a lot when you are on your period.

But why e be say na Everytime wey you dey on your period your data ma the finish?

truthhurts2:
A VERY CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE. She's overdue and desperate for marriage, and she used to be unlucky when it comes to finding the right partner. She just met a guy that is of age but single, this guy is not financially bouyant but she is(self employed). Both of them are desperate to get married that within a month of their meeting this guy had introduced her to most of his family if not all. This my friend is ready to give him money for business of his choice or bring him into her business so they can both be doing it together, ready to get new apartment for both of them that in short , she's going to be the breadwinner of the family if they later end up together. Now, HER FEAR... What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of?

NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family

Your advice are needed pls...

Too many redflags. I know a lady exactly like this. She was self employed And doing well for herself,but was almost 40 and desperate. She met a guy and within 3 months they were married. Just two years into the marriage the man ram down her business, ran away in the guise of going to look for business opportunities,he came home for their first child's naming ceremony and got arrested for fraud. Till today,the once thriving lady has gone back to ground zero, her husband is in jail, her only gain in the marriage is the child she had.
The lady in question has to be extremely careful. We don't want to be hearing takes of woe later.

QQIA:

I understand, it costs you a lot when you are on your period.

But why e be say na Everytime wey you dey on your period your data ma the finish?

IDIOT

Blunttruth:
■Too many redflags. I know a lady exactly like this. She was self employed And doing well for herself,but was almost 40 and desperate. She met a guy and within 3 months they were married. Just two years into the marriage the man ram down her business, ran away in the guise of going to look for business opportunities,he came home for their first child's naming ceremony and got arrested for fraud. Till today,the once thriving lady has gone back to ground zero, her husband is in jail, her only gain in the marriage is the child she had. The lady in question has to be extremely careful. We don't want to be hearing takes of woe later.

1. Gain ke? She had a child for a man who ruined her business and life, how can that be a gain? She has to take care of her responsibility anyways.

Blunttruth:


Too many redflags. I know a lady exactly like this. She was self employed And doing well for herself,but was almost 40 and desperate. She met a guy and within 3 months they were married. Just two years into the marriage the man ram down her business, ran away in the guise of going to look for business opportunities,he came home for their first child's naming ceremony and got arrested for fraud. Till today,the once thriving lady has gone back to ground zero, her husband is in jail, her only gain in the marriage is the child she had.
The lady in question has to be extremely careful. We don't want to be hearing takes of woe later.

you mean wife got her husband arrested? What will she tell their child?

Shalommy:
IDIOT

I am always alone and lonely throughout those times...

May your next period not come quick in Jesus name

truthhurts2:
you mean wife got her husband arrested? What will she tell their child?

No, the man duped people, and disappeared. They waited till he came around for naming ceremony and had him arrested. The wife had no idea he was involved in fraud

Kobojunkie:
1. Gain ke? She had a child for a man who ruined her business and life, how can that be a gain? She has to take care of her responsibility anyways.

A child is always a blessing.

Blunttruth:


No, the man duped people, and disappeared. They waited till he came around for naming ceremony and had him arrested. The wife had no idea he was involved in fraud

oh! He got what he deserves then

Blunttruth:
■ A child is always a blessing.

1. Not according to reality, they ain't. Have you seen how many Nigerians raise their kids at all?

truthhurts2:
A VERY CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE. She's overdue and desperate for marriage, and she used to be unlucky when it comes to finding the right partner. She just met a guy that is of age but single, this guy is not financially bouyant but she is(self employed). Both of them are desperate to get married that within a month of their meeting this guy had introduced her to most of his family if not all. This my friend is ready to give him money for business of his choice or bring him into her business so they can both be doing it together, ready to get new apartment for both of them that in short , she's going to be the breadwinner of the family if they later end up together. Now, HER FEAR... What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of?

NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family

Your advice are needed pls...

Your kindly advise is needed ejoor

Trouble dey sleep, your friend want wake am

Uniquetani1:
Trouble dey sleep, your friend want wake am

Pls explain more

Let
Love
Lead

truthhurts2:
I think it's a normal thing for parents to starts asking questions when they see that the time has overlong due. We can't blame them

Pressure and showing concern are two different things.
At that point the family even be more careful with certain questions.

Ehinjuola:
Let
Love
Lead

By love, you mean brain chemicals?

Likely going to end up in tears. How old is she