richmond500:
wow sageb how far?
I have been on a long ban since last year.

richmond500:
Oga forget, the OP said he was a successful man who builds his career.

His family probably didn't see riches, what they saw is a man who is career driven.

SouthSouth1914:


And you think this guy doesn’t have a lady who built his career with him? Haha.. you are a small boy, but hey lemme tell you a secret! There are no single rich guys in Nigeria.

I can tell you, the OP’s family will be served a pretty hot breakfast soon!

rooftops:
Someone who can give another person 200k is definitely averagely ok, your family is just looking for another person to leech on.
Sometimes you just want to see reason with all this red pill boys even though they are mostly wrong.
In anything, safeguard yourself first

Duchessree:
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I wasn't expecting the ending ..

richmond500:
He is nothing but a destiny helper,
if the first guy had use the money wisely and invested in himself, he may have met the second guy who would have taught him how to be successful.
The first guy does not think about the future, it's just to fvck and make babies.
Imagine the second guy even came for marriage.
This is how you know a responsible men from all those Chelsea fans

richmond500:
leech, shebi the OP tell u say him family poor?

UnusualEmissary:
EDITED!

Who is the better man amongst the two of them?

I'm talking on the basis of who your sister should make her husband. Getting married to someone shouldn't be a matter of favour or reward. A person has to be fit, qualified and show enough potential and promise before he can become a husband.

The first guy has contributed to your sister's life, no doubt. And she can always show gratitude towards his efforts and repay him back, maybe not in the same way he helped her but in other ways that can equally benefit him. But not with marriage as there are certain requirements to consider in a man before we can agree that he becomes a husband to a woman

So aside financial capacity, considering all the other qualities necessary for a husband and father to possess, who is the better man between the two?

I don't know everything about both of them but at least, I know this.

The first guy impregnated your sister and they have a child out of wedlock (your sister has her share of blame too). The second guy is taking a more honourable step by declaring his interest in marriage to your sister and seems serious about it.

In this regard, the second scores quite higher as he seems more responsible and upright.

That's definitely not the only thing to consider but it's part of it.

So don't attach emotions to the matter. There are certain criteria and requirements to look into before accepting that a person should play a certain role. So simply consider/assess both men and choose which one is more suitable to become a good husband and father to her children.

If the first man happen not to be the suitable one, considering how much he has contributed into her life, your sister can consider making up for that and everybody moves on.

Wainey:
Success is sexy and can seduce almost everyone.

My story is about my elder sister who is in a relationship with a man whose financial muscle is average by Nigerian standard, he and my sister are not legally married but they have a child.
Sometime in 2020, he supported her with about 200k with which she started a business and due to her entrepreneurial skills and drive, she was able to make some cash and made some cool cash.
Last year she found this other guy who was in the same business with her and does the business in large scale and is very rich.

They started dating and he told her he wants to marry her, he was madly in love with her and spends on her.
Now everyone in my family quickly got attached to him except my father who doesn't even flinch, he doesn't really care who she marries though and the wealth doesn't get into my father like it did to my mother and my two elder sisters.

When I heard about it, I expressed my displeasure about it cos I really felt her first guy has been there for her and what my family is doing is nothing but gold digging , ofcos except my dad

You can skip this paragraph below, it's just me praising myself, nothing else
Don't get me wrong, I like wealth and money but I don't lose my humanity over it, when I left school and got a job which pays just 35k, I was seduced to join my friends in cybercrime (Yahoo Yahoo), but I turned down the offer not because I do not like money, but the process doesn't entice me, there are other circumstances where I have have chosen my humanity over wealth, so u can say I am a proponent of anti-corruption.

So earlier this month, my sister asked me to help her deliver something to the guy, when I got to where he was, he told me he was building a house and that is his third house.
My friends, just by looking at the house, it could easily be worth around N70m to N100m,
Immediately, the hatred I have for him completely disappeared and I was full of admiration for such a young man in his early forties to be this successful and still be calm and cool headed.
Within myself, i began to see reasons why my sister should leave her former boyfriend and marry this new guy ASAP.

Omo ehn, success is attractive, I no go lie

narite:

Sometimes in life great things appears right in front of us, something so great that could forever change the lives of those around us. The sad thing is that Emotions cause us from seeing this great things when they appear. Blessings always come in disguise, mostly in the form of loss. it will happen to every one of us. A time will come in our life when there will be something wicked we have to do to transform our live; only you will know when the time as come and what the wicked thing is, every human will experience this thing probably once in their lifetime. This wickedness will come in different form, I tell you doing it won’t appear as doing something noble at first but down the line years later you will look back and you will be filled with tears, glad that you did because if you had not, your life would be completely different from the one you are currently living. it takes wisdom to sail through this powerful moment. This moment can ruin your life or can profoundly make it beautiful.

The people insulting you have let their emotions over taken their logical reasons, they are talking from an angle of sympathy they have for the first guy, it could have happen to them to, they are angry and felt exploited. If only humans could get rid of their emotions, having no deep attachment towards anything and doing things just for the sake of doing it and not because they feel there is something waiting for them, they will avoid going through some needlessly suffering in life. @op The situation your sister as found herself could be, no no. Not “could be” but a blessing for her, the first lover and the new man. I hope she does not fall to the den of emotions and make a right decision.

richmond500:
So much for someone calling me a small boy.

narite:

Sometimes in life great things appears right in front of us,

dnawah:
may be your sister fit be the next source of money.make una look well papa don see waiting una never see.

SouthSouth1914:


Your comments sold you away. Don’t take it personal.

SouthSouth1914:


Your comments sold you away. Don’t take it personal.

richmond500:
Oga forget my comment.
As a man, the best thing you could do for ur woman is to give her an enviable home.

If the first man had dreams and is working towards it, she probably wouldn't want to leave him, but he was busy simping.
Now she found a man who has built a successful career and could probably teach her a thing or two about the road to success.

Kingcalls:
Avoid women from poor homes like op ... they can sell ur loyalty for crumbs cos they are peasants

richmond500:
Oga forget my comment.
As a man, the best thing you could do for ur woman is to give her an enviable home.

If the first man had dreams and is working towards it, she probably wouldn't want to leave him, but he was busy simping.
Now she found a man who has built a successful career and could probably teach her a thing or two about the road to success.

Wainey:
Success is sexy and can seduce almost everyone.

My story is about my elder sister who is in a relationship with a man whose financial muscle is average by Nigerian standard, he and my sister are not legally married but they have a child.
Sometime in 2020, he supported her with about 200k with which she started a business and due to her entrepreneurial skills and drive, she was able to make some cash and made some cool cash.
Last year she found this other guy who was in the same business with her and does the business in large scale and is very rich.

They started dating and he told her he wants to marry her, he was madly in love with her and spends on her.
Now everyone in my family quickly got attached to him except my father who doesn't even flinch, he doesn't really care who she marries though and the wealth doesn't get into my father like it did to my mother and my two elder sisters.

When I heard about it, I expressed my displeasure about it cos I really felt her first guy has been there for her and what my family is doing is nothing but gold digging , ofcos except my dad

You can skip this paragraph below, it's just me praising myself, nothing else
Don't get me wrong, I like wealth and money but I don't lose my humanity over it, when I left school and got a job which pays just 35k, I was seduced to join my friends in cybercrime (Yahoo Yahoo), but I turned down the offer not because I do not like money, but the process doesn't entice me, there are other circumstances where I have have chosen my humanity over wealth, so u can say I am a proponent of anti-corruption.

So earlier this month, my sister asked me to help her deliver something to the guy, when I got to where he was, he told me he was building a house and that is his third house.
My friends, just by looking at the house, it could easily be worth around N70m to N100m,
Immediately, the hatred I have for him completely disappeared and I was full of admiration for such a young man in his early forties to be this successful and still be calm and cool headed.
Within myself, i began to see reasons why my sister should leave her former boyfriend and marry this new guy ASAP.

Omo ehn, success is attractive, I no go lie

Wainey:
Success is sexy and can seduce almost everyone.

My story is about my elder sister who is in a relationship with a man whose financial muscle is average by Nigerian standard, he and my sister are not legally married but they have a child.
Sometime in 2020, he supported her with about 200k with which she started a business and due to her entrepreneurial skills and drive, she was able to make some cash and made some cool cash.
Last year she found this other guy who was in the same business with her and does the business in large scale and is very rich.

They started dating and he told her he wants to marry her, he was madly in love with her and spends on her.
Now everyone in my family quickly got attached to him except my father who doesn't even flinch, he doesn't really care who she marries though and the wealth doesn't get into my father like it did to my mother and my two elder sisters.

When I heard about it, I expressed my displeasure about it cos I really felt her first guy has been there for her and what my family is doing is nothing but gold digging , ofcos except my dad

You can skip this paragraph below, it's just me praising myself, nothing else
Don't get me wrong, I like wealth and money but I don't lose my humanity over it, when I left school and got a job which pays just 35k, I was seduced to join my friends in cybercrime (Yahoo Yahoo), but I turned down the offer not because I do not like money, but the process doesn't entice me, there are other circumstances where I have have chosen my humanity over wealth, so u can say I am a proponent of anti-corruption.

So earlier this month, my sister asked me to help her deliver something to the guy, when I got to where he was, he told me he was building a house and that is his third house.
My friends, just by looking at the house, it could easily be worth around N70m to N100m,
Immediately, the hatred I have for him completely disappeared and I was full of admiration for such a young man in his early forties to be this successful and still be calm and cool headed.
Within myself, i began to see reasons why my sister should leave her former boyfriend and marry this new guy ASAP.

Omo ehn, success is attractive, I no go lie