tosinhtml:


Lol, but the question is very valid nau. It is very normal, men are likely to leave a sick spouse while women are likely to leave their broke spouse.

Most for better for worse usually end up in separation in Nigeria as opposed to divorce, then sometimes they get back together later on.

[s]It is also depressing to stay with a broke spouse, so let's just keep it real.[/s]

qtguru:


It is also depressing to stay with a broke man, so let's just keep it real, because a lot of us guys are dating broke spouses if you think about it.

ItisWell22:
We stay!



They won’t accept.

They want a woman who splits bills and still as submissive as a woman whose husband gives heaven and earth.

Talk about modern day confusion in the name of wokeness…

jayred:
U better change this your mindset before man use you play suwe, where did you see that in the Bible? Yes a man's responsibility is to take care of his family but that doesn't negate the fact that a woman should solely depend on a man for her livelihood, the topic itself shows that a man's finance can dwindle at any time, then what will be left of you in such a scenerio, jump to the next rich man available I guess and keep jumping.. Too bad

Brokeness:


That quote is not always right. If I make it tomorrow, no woman born of a woman can mar me except my mother. Hakimi is an example

jayred:
U better change this your mindset before man use you play suwe, where did you see that in the Bible? Yes a man's responsibility is to take care of his family but that doesn't negate the fact that a woman should solely depend on a man for her livelihood, the topic itself shows that a man's finance can dwindle at any time, then what will be left of you in such a scenerio, jump to the next rich man available I guess and keep jumping.. Too bad

Tallesty1:
You don't need to "endure" if you are not broken yourself. Financial safety/security is just one item in the list of numerous things that men offer. When you get one, assuming you deserve one, you will learn that a man brings some kind of security, just his presence alone does that.

He also brings warmth, support, comfort, companionship, humour/fun so that at least you both can laugh in your brokenness.

Broke men Bleep better too, so yea, you getting drilled properly.

You also need him to do so many dirty/risky jobs around the house.

I wanted to say that you don't need a man to be happy but seeing that you can endure with him if he is good shows that you are also broke and money is the next thing that can give you happiness.

JasonScoolari:
This your question is not for Nigeria girls to answer....

Brokeness:
Maybe due to some financial constraints or some bad economic policy in the country. Would you still stay with him?

policy12:


Bros the op is actually talking about marriage if the lady in your life will leave in case u eventually go broke?

Funny enough a total stranger met me this morning, a grown up man but from the look of things u will know he is going tru some challenges. As i opened my car door and put my feet down he approaches me and find it difficult to utter a words he later pick his words when i encourage to speak no matter what the issue is.

This man lost his job since last year, and since then things has been so difficult for him, according to him he has not taste any meal since ystaday afternoon. He told me how is wife is frustrating him and threatening to pack out of the marriage that has produce two kids.

He was talking and u can see his teary eyes even when he is trying to hold back the tears, the water won't just stay back. After narrating his story i told him how i went tru the same path some few years back and why he shu encourage himself that things will get better.

The answer to the op question is that out of 10 ladies only 2 will stay with their men if things are difficult, the remaining 8 will tell u the story of ur life, and ur mate are making it.

BloomingDale:
Walai, I’m enjoying this thread.

Men look for women that will benefit them the most in marriage, hence the term wife material. There is nothing like love in their vocabulary. That is why a man can substitute the house help for his wife. To him the house help is of more benefit.

Ladies should learn to do the same. If a man ain’t of no benefit to you, just throw him out like thrash or substitute him.

Rushna27:
Am a testimony to this.....yes I can and will boldly say,I can,I have....cos,hubby went broke... I took up a teaching job......d frustration from him(cos he has never experienced such a broke time before)...to the glory of God,I've used d teaching job to stabilize to some extent and we are bouncing back......to be frank,its not easy......I know wot it looks like going hungry.....begging cos u can't watch ur kids go hungry........salary finishes within two days and u left to look around for those u will ask for assistance..... Although still searching for a better job but better than it was......This is my true story(just a summary though).

pacespot:


The truth is that, it is better that some ladies leave you than staying during the time of hardship, because they will rather compound the hardship for you if they stay.

tosinhtml:


Lol, but the question is very valid nau. It is very normal, men are likely to leave a sick spouse while women are likely to leave their broke spouse.

Most for better for worse usually end up in separation in Nigeria as opposed to divorce, then sometimes they get back together later on.

It is also depressing to stay with a broke spouse, so let's just keep it real.

tosinhtml:


Yep but it's not the same you know, the family & society doesn't require the same from us.

Newsneako:

I mean imagine o they expect you to split bill. You go to work from morning till evening, they will come home excepting hot goof food, house clean, the wife taking care of the dishes,if she has a baby she'll still take care of the child let imagine she's on her period she'll go to work from morning to night come home to work again while the man will just come home sit eat food and still want to have sex with the wife after all the stress. Just kill the woman nah, kill her. Male of nowadays shaa 🤦

olabrinks:
The mental exhaustion of carrying the home will depress me. If he can take care of the kids and home whilst I work and provide, there might be balance. If I’m expected to do everything, it won’t work, as I’m not a machine. So my answer is no.

sharone21:
Yes I will stay..... However, as a man u must not just fold your hands and lament over and over about the situation but get to work and praying to God for direction, divine helpers and favor.

The devil is happy when u as a man is broke and down: He uses it to weaken the family system and make children wayward....


If the ONLY major role u are to play as a man ( unlike a woman's that is multifaceted eg being pregnant x3, pushing out x3, house chores, cooking/ breastfeeding/ doing home work for junior etc apart from going out to look for money in order for men/ society to tag her a truly virtuous woman) you FAIL, u have indeed failed unless maybe u are incapacitated physically ie being physically challenged.... U need to pity that woman in your life who is doing so much and maybe taken somewhat for granted by u.

It is easier being a man than an a woman especially when not doing things illicitly.

MadarasBlade:
you shouldn't marry, so as to not do chores, push out babies 3x and have a wonderful life.

Won't it be foolish to know that life is easier being single and enter into marriage? Who does that

sharone21:


I will marry REASONABLE men like my dad who wouldn't take women/ me for granted.

MadarasBlade:


You're so unreasonable, here you are saying that men have it easier than women in marriage, wouldn't the logical step to take is to avoid marriage by all means? You know the solution to your happiness and still wouldn't take it. I don't know what to say to you

Brokeness:


Your gender raised them that way.

sharone21:


Your ONLY main role as a man is to LOOK FOR MONEY NOT carry pregnancy or push out babies apart from breastfeeding/ cooking/ doing homework ALL at once as a woman..... If you FAIL in this one role, you have indeed failed and I won't mince my words.... This brings out your manliness: just do it legally and prayerfully.... Na ONLY one main task u get naw

Men/ society aren't easy on women so why should u have it easy as an ABLE BODIED man, unless u are lazy.

Try to READ and comprehend then work on yourself instead of attacking because no woman will be able to live with u even if she EARNS more than you ... Just advice though.

MadarasBlade:


That's the same thing we're saying na, just avoid marriage so that you don't stress yourself. Abi who sees stress and where they are short changed and jump inside? You should be totally agaisnt marriage, it doesn't favor women.

sharone21:


I no go marry man like u naw na by force?Men are in stages, life is in phases.... How my decision take affect u?

Go WORK first, then we can have discussions..... What I wrote ONLY real men understand it and won't argue..... Abi what else do u want to use your body for unlike women?

PrimadonnaO:


No, there's no keeping it real.

This is the very mindset that's making a sham of marriage these days.

Everyone is getting married, ready-in-advance to walk away at the slightest challenge.

That's not what marriage is about.

Asking a question as the one OP created only opens the floor for wrong mindsets to seem okay.

Because some people will surely say nonsense.

It's not easy dealing with financial difficulties, but that's life.

Everyone in life would experience one itch or the other in their lifetime...and that's supposed to be the beauty of marriage. That through those difficulties, you've got someone who'd ride it out with you till the end.

MadarasBlade:


While this is okay, should a man chase away a barren wife knowing the fault isn't his?
Do you support this?

olabrinks:
the two are incomparable. Infertility is a health problem, can a woman/man control their reproductive system? You can’t buy your health but money can always be made. That should answer your question.

castro316:
Thumbs up. May God bless your hustle and keep staying true to your husband