I was seated, facing my business when I saw your DM that you'd love to see me after a long time of just chatting online.

I examined my schedule closely and dished you a much more convenient time and day for me.

You accepted. You agreed.

You even chose the venue, (the newly established) Sammies along Agip Road.

“It's fine by me,” I said.

On the said date, a little “something” came up at my workplace which would interfere with our “date,” but because I didn't want to disappoint you and not keep to my word, I showed up against all odds.

We got to the venue, and I quite liked what I saw.

You weren't looking bad after all; your dress sense was simply elegant and you looked gorgeous.

You ordered for a plate of Fried Rice and Turkey with Chivita, while I just ordered for chicken pie and a bottle of Fanta, because I had already gulped in a plate of Beans and nibbles bread that morning.

1hr:40mins later we were done!

We had a fantastic time getting to know ourselves.

It was an interesting conversation as well and we really looked forward to seeing again.

We both walked up to the cashier to settle the bills.

I asked for the bill details and I was told mine amounted to ₦950, while yours was ₦3,650, bringing it to a total of ₦4,600.

You stood unmoved, clinging tightly to your bag as if you had no intentions of making any financial move.

I reached for my pocket and brought out my debit card while you kept staring at me sheepishly.

I handed my card over to the cashier, and you moved your eyes swiftly away from me to the TV with full concentration.

“I'm paying for mine, ₦950,” I told the cashier.

“What about the other one?” the cashier asked.

“She will pay,” I said pointing to you like a wizard.

“Oh sorry,” you said with hidden anger yet so obvious, as you reached for your bag, grabbed your card and handed over to the cashier.

We stepped out of the restaurant with some attitude you began showing to me.

You responded to my questions with mono-syllabic answers and barely looked at my face.

I wasn't bothered a bit, because at some point in my life, I had read the book titled, “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck.” by Mark Manson.

We bade each other farewell and parted ways.

While in a bolt ride heading home, I received a message from you, “Benny, you are very stingy!.”

I couldn't help but laugh as I archived your chats on WhatsApp and Messenger.

Now listen up, Whoever's idea it was to go out on a date should pay the bill.

You decided to see me, not the other way round.

I cannot remember initiating a date and allowing the other party be concerned with the bill. I'd cover it all up, even if you insist for a split.

You cannot pull me out of my house to see you and expect I cover every expenses when I'm not Kwame.

Because I was very polite, I decided to settle mine and leave yours for you and your ancestors dear.

Don't invite someone to a burden and expect them to carry the same burden.

That's Witchcraft.

While in a bolt ride heading home, I received a message from you, “Benny, you are very stingy!.”

As a man, if no Nigerian girl has ever called you "stingy", you're not destined for greatness.

To a Nigerian girl, a stingy man is a man that failed to be manipulated.

When they hoodwinked you into their manipulation game, you're generous, good and a gentleman.

Don't be a gentleman in the eyes of a Nigerian woman.

The novel make sense Shaa..what's the title?...

First of...
If you invite someone on a date, it is expected that you're treating the fellow and thus you should pay for their expenses ...

If you have intentions of going dutch, please inform the person prior to that ...

Secondly...
If you're invited on a date, abeg try eat before you comot for house, don't come and disgrace your village people by acting like an orphan ...

But a certain gender have the deluded ideology that it doesn't matter who takes who out, they will come with their entire age grade to a date and expect the other gender to pay ...

So pathetic! ...

Ever8090:
The novel make sense Shaa..what's the title?...

Once again, girls are leeches

i enjoyed this

Zonefree:

As a man, if no Nigerian girl has ever called you "stingy", you're not destined for greatness.

To a Nigerian girl, a stingy man is a man that failed to be manipulated.

When they hoodwinked you into their manipulation game, you're a generous, good and gentleman.

Don't be a gentleman in the eyes of a Nigerian woman.

You didnt add "childish" and "immature"

Once the mordern Nigerian babe and her crew add "very caring" to adjective they use in deacribing you ...
just do comprehensive audit of ur account in the last 2-6 months.... baba.. u go shock say u don badly cheat the mama wey born

That's hattrick bro She hoodwinked you but seriously you have the right to decline the payment.

A lady invited me out in Bauchi, a special secluded place to eat isiewu and pepper soup. I washed it down with baba dudu. Waiter brought bill to me but insisted she would pay.

Lol... That was how one of my hot neighbors came to me and requested I follow her to the beach. Well she had a bottle of Hennessy in one hand tho. I got dressed for it and we both zoomed off. Getting there we ordered loud from those boys and some coke so she could mix with the drink. After the smoking session we ordered food no she ordered food and I felt hungry after they brought hers so I followed suit. After the whole show babe still told me she would pay for the loud sounded fair to me. I took care of the food,coke and water before we headed back home. That's how it's supposed to be. Not inviting me to come and spend on u. As what na?

If this is true .. then you're a real man
Poor girls everywhere that cant even pay their bills yet they go about calling guys " broke "

A simple trick you can use to determine if she is paying is to ask playfully that she has hammer, since she has decided to take you out. If her response is in the affirmative, then go and chop.

If not, them decide if she is worth bearing the expense. When dealing with women generally, always make sure that your responsibility comes with authority.

Don't ever carry any responsibility, while she enjoys both authority and privilege. You're not a slave. I'll give an example.

So if you ask a girl out, then it means you're spending. Thats the norm. Since you have the responsibility to spend, then you should have the authority to pick where you can afford.

Now imagine if she has the authority to pick a place you can't afford, or bring friends along, leaving all the financial responsibility on you, then you're no different from a slave.

If you watch classic movies, it's always the man that go pick the girl, and he chooses the place they go to, and he pays. The idea that a woman choose a place, invited you, and you paid is very wrong. Never accept such.

And that power imbalance from the start will haunt you, since you can't negotiate from a place of weakness. Accepting responsibilities without authority is how lots of men ended up being a simp, without knowing.

Wetin concern me with shying, before you start ordering, I will tell you straight how much I can afford.

It's actually wrong for a guy to have a date with a lady without having extra to accommodate both. Excessive can be frown at

Wow! I love this man. Thanks. You just explained the concept of responsibility and authority in a way I've never know.
Most times, when I initiate dates with ladies I still give them the privilege of choosing where she'd like to go. If I realize it's a place I can't afford, I simply change the location. But if its a place I know I won't spend more, I tell her it's fine.

But from henceforth, the responsibility, authority and privilege will be mine. Thanks boss. God bless you real good

pansophist:
A simple trick you can use to determine if she is paying is to ask playfully that she has hammer, since she has decided to take you out. If her response is in the affirmative, then go and chop.

If not, them decide if she is worth bearing the expense. When dealing with women generally, always make sure that your responsibility comes with authority.

Don't ever carry any responsibility, while she enjoys both authority and privilege. You're not a slave. I'll give an example.

So if you ask a girl out, then it means you're spending. Thats the norm. Since you have the responsibility to spend, then you should have the authority to pick where you can afford.

Now imagine if she has the authority to pick a place you can't afford, or bring friends along, leaving all the financial responsibility on you, then you're no different from a slave.

If you watch classic movies, it's always the man that go pick the girl, and he chooses the place they go to, and he pays. The idea that a woman choose a place, invited you, and you paid is very wrong. Never accept such.

And that power imbalance from the start will haunt you, since you can't negotiate from a place of weakness. Accepting responsibilities without authority is how lots of men ended up being a simp, without knowing.

Absolutely apt...!! You did well