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Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Caseless: 6:59am On May 16, 2023 |
Jennyclay:you're no more an "un-apologetic feminist" anymore? 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by godofuck231: 7:00am On May 16, 2023 |
When village rat reach London see cheese factory , em no need steal from kitchen anymore, most wives are thieves , retired prlrostituttes and con women , the real wives are safe and secured |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Dshocker(m): 7:29am On May 16, 2023 |
madridguy: What you just wrote shows that you are ignorant of the situation. You go talk am well 🤣🤣🤣, how well can you talk about it? My guy oyibo law gives women absolute power over men, do anyhow, you go see anyhow. The way you treat your wife here in Nigeria won't be the same way you treat her over there, if you make pim, you will lose your house and half of the money in your account. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by LordAdam16: 8:26am On May 16, 2023 |
haybhi1: Appreciate the kind words, chair. 🤝🤝 -Lord 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Adgraced: 9:54am On May 16, 2023 |
The reason is this: A lot of people especially women just endure this thing called Marriage probably out of economic reasons, societal pressures, for the sake of children ETC. But once out of the country where there is so much freedom, where the system is more in favor of women, where no body sends you, where everyone is hustling by themselves and for themselves. You will find that that endurance becomes a burden, it becomes un-needed. With the new-found independence, self-reliance and freedom, people will naturally want to go their separate ways instead of enduring what is meant to be enjoyed. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Legendre2(m): 10:33am On May 16, 2023 |
tppzzy01: Lol I thought Hakimi found a way around this. 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by edoairways: 10:35am On May 16, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:False teachers are subtle in their approach. Some of them are not after money as many of you think rather their goal is to drag people to hell. One of them died few years back, he was celebrated as one of the humble prophet of our time. He wasn't crazy over money |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by delishpot: 12:04pm On May 16, 2023 |
erico2k2: They are doing just that but the men are still lamenting. Let's sail ship as a team NO, Oya now, Let me run my own ship NO! 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by delishpot: 12:25pm On May 16, 2023 |
bukatyne: Did you cum after writing this trash? Must you people turn women to a level above animals before you agree that women can breathe? If see all the ignorant shit you typed there as if you know jack shit about the workings of Muslim homes. If you guys are not pitching for tribal divide you will pitch for religious one Go marry Muslim saints na. 2 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 1:23pm On May 16, 2023 |
edoairways:They are subtle? No wonder they have managed to easily fool over 4 billion — all those of the religions of Christianity, Judaism, Catholicism, and Islam combined —on the planet with their shenanigans on open display where all who are not blind can easily see them. Jesus Christ warned of the antichrists who would use His name to deceive many and you somehow concluded all by yourself that they would be subtle about it. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by JC2021: 8:52pm On May 16, 2023 |
Hydroxide: So who is stopping Nigerian women from making money as much as men? Are money-making opportunities opened to only the men? Please explain 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Backpedal: 4:37am On May 17, 2023 |
Smile4mee01:You have a point 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by YoshihideSuga: 9:09am On May 17, 2023 |
Hydroxide: I have stated the same on TwitterNG. Should Nigeria become prosperous, many women in the country won't marry. Even me sef, if I was a woman living in Nigeria, I won't marry. 4 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Hydroxide(m): 9:37am On May 17, 2023 |
YoshihideSuga:Bro if Naija married woman start to see money on their own without the help of their husbands, many marriages go Echo, I mean many marriages go crash. 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by tppzzy01(m): 10:05am On May 17, 2023 |
Legendre2:Yeah. But how many trust there mum for that? 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by tppzzy01(m): 10:06am On May 17, 2023 |
cococandy:Hmmm. Okay. Time will tell 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by keepingmum: 4:02pm On May 17, 2023 |
Mindlog: Please encourage her to publish it if she can. It will make for an educational piece to the men who think otherwise. I for one, support her thesis though i only know off the summary u shared |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by XAUBulls: 1:44am On May 18, 2023 |
EBMedia:Lol... Japagerians. SMH. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by 9jaRealist: 3:46am On May 18, 2023 |
EBMedia: GOOD! Folks go abroad and see how CIVILIZED people live… That husbands do NOT ‘own’ their wives, and NOBODY (male or female) should remain stuck in a bad marriage. > |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by franberry: 6:16am On May 18, 2023 |
So you acknowledge the someone is USED. well one of the things that appreciate in value when being used is WISDOM. Wisdom to decipher what one wants in life. t2luv1: 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by edoairways: 10:51am On May 18, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Jesus Christ warned of the anti Christ, same Jesus Christ said if care is not taken, the elect may be deceived. This means many Christians leaders who knowledgeable about the bible and some of the fruit of the Holy spirit may be deceived since some false teachers and prophets may guise their ways |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 11:00am On May 18, 2023 |
edoairways:1. All 144,000 of the elects were successfully deployed from Jerusalem almost 2000 years ago, even as the antichrist was taking on form. Yes, even Peter in his epistle revealed the antichrists were already in full swing even back almost 2000 years ago. 2. Your so-called Christians leaders are some of the antichrists you were warned against, I am afraid. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by edoairways: 11:03am On May 18, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:They aren't even the elect Jesus Christ was talking about |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 11:06am On May 18, 2023 |
edoairways:There is only one group of elects.. and they are the special people God said He would put His seal on and then send out into the world to gather back the rest of Israel to Himself --- Isaiah 66 vs 18 - 22. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by edoairways: 11:08am On May 18, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Ignorance is a disease 😕😕😕 |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 11:08am On May 18, 2023 |
edoairways:Isaiah was ignorant? |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by vickydevoka(m): 4:27am On May 19, 2023 |
pocohantas:50/50 has never happened anywhere aside westerners. They westerners share everything 50/50 including chores |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by ZIMDRILL(m): 5:50am On May 19, 2023 |
vickydevoka: i dont know were most african get this infor that people in the west do 50/50 if both 50/50 where does the other 50 go to ? The western world is designed this way If two people are married and want mortagage and want finish it early, it advised to put you salaries together to reduce the number of years you would spend on mortgage, the two salaries give you that opportunity to finish early So basically you are all putting 100% each not 50/50 how they calculate is the two salaries are taken as house hold income minus all your expenses So two salaries are better than one Then on chores, that depends on each family dynamics and its not 50/50, women still do most of the work becoz most families still have those traditional roles in their families. There are certain dynamics that most africa based people will never understand untill they move here and see for themselves eg most nurse hours are 12 hour shifts so 7am -7pm so imagine hubby does a 9-5 job while wife does 7am -7pm so hubby will get home before wife, if hubby want proper african food, it mean wife will have to stand for another average 2 hrs on top of the 12 hr shift if they have kids, kids needs bathing, home work etc on top of that hubby wants sex remember this western world, even the middleclass cant afford a maid, with this dynamic step up, if hubby doesnt step in helping it will affect their marriage either one has to cut working hours as way to maintain traditional roles aka wife doing traditional house chores and hubby doing his Even when both are doing 9-5, when you have kids, they need to be dropped and picked from skol, meaning you have to fork out money for breakfast club and after skol care all these needs transparent in terms of salaries in the home Whereas in africa half of our women are housewives period and we can afford cheap labour of maid, there woman in africa has no clue how tiring is a 12hr shift, ahe thinks the western lady is just being lazy 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by vickydevoka(m): 8:37am On May 19, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL:Life is suppose to be easy but two people that misunderstands each other will see marriage life difficult. Most white men cook more than their wives. African this, African that.If you are in Rome do like Romans |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by beyondbasicsng: 8:52am On May 19, 2023 |
can't believe we still live in an era where women are still viewed as a property. Throughout history they were subjected to oppressive treatment and inequality within marriage. Their status and treatment varied across cultures, regions and even time periods. In ancient Egypt and Greece women were considered the property of their husbands and had few legal rights. Their legal duty was domestic chores and bearing childing. In the middle ages, women's identity was subsumed to her husbands upon marriage and again considered the property of her husband. 20th century saw movements towards women advocating for their rights to be recognised as human right! Indeed we can't ignore the fact that there are periods and societies that have extremely oppressed and subjugated women within marriages it is important to note that there has been progress over times in terms of improving women's right and social standing. Having said that, today the treatment of women within marriages varies across different countries and cultures - take ours for instance. Someone mentioned the role of in- laws and we've seen examples where a woman married into this family where the boys' mother faced constant abuse from her husband. Incessant beating up to striping her naked in the marketplace. The woman was sent parking from the house yet when her son married - the DIL was told she told never to report her son to anyone but her! What does that mean? She doesn't want family settlement like someone mentioned earlier - because we tend to call family meeting and if this girl can't tell her own family please how do they resolve issues assuming they want family to butt in. How about the role families play in training their kids to adulthood? Most people who grew up say with parents who were born in the 40s/50s will at least have witnessed their parents abuse and would have grown up with suppressed trauma. Monsters are then raised both women and men - some women see their dad beat their mum and think it's the right thing - I can't be with a man who will not beat me up! Some men grow up and repeat the same abuse towards their own spouse - you see the circle! It needs to be broken. I've seen men/women come abroad and blow up their marriages because (and I say this without prejudice) apparently Nigerians compete against each other when here (my jaw hit the floor when I heard this one) as such everyone is looking to one up the other, mix with crowds that start telling them things - how to leave your husband/wife and be free of them so you can do whatever you like - sleep around, go to parties like no tomorrow. People coming without having proper education about the culture etc. Big egos still coming here with idea - I own you and will control you and there's nothing anyone can do about it. We have people with narcissistic behaviour who cry wolf after they've been caught out in their ways and they are no longer able to control you then they BURN everything to the ground! Care should be taken not to destroy our kids lives whilst trying to destroy a wife or husband we once thought was our forever! 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by sniperr007(m): 9:46am On May 19, 2023 |
madridguy: Not freedom. Many marriage survive in Nigeria because the men earn more. But when you the financial superiority of men is broken. Most marriages cracks are exposed and many woman are loyal to men because of financial dependency and the only value many men can add is money so once they can't do that. The women see them from the trash they are. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 3:34am On May 20, 2023 |
sniperr007:You just succeeded in describing the majority of Nigerian marriages both abroad and in Nigeria. And this isn't merely an indictment against Nigerian men but against society— families included — churning out such men. |
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