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Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:35pm On May 18, 2023 |
IamAsiri: ok lets say he wasnt trained well to address issues, but what do we say about the mother in law? wasnt she also trained well too, everyday visit i wouldnt like them too The way i see, the fact she is now a mother in law, age and mature wise she should know better. The only reason i would accept for mother in law doing regular visits is when the son in law is loaded and she is coming to enjoy the life style |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by 234GT(m): 10:45pm On May 18, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: MrsBrownJay, I dont understand you at all. If you can't entrust your daughter to any man, then please marry your daughter by yourself. If you are giving her out in marriage to another man different from yourself, you have to trust the man and leave the young couple. What will their home look like if the man's mum keeps coming there too everyday?? 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by PROPEACE: 10:49pm On May 18, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1:My mother lives close to my sister's matrimonial home, she seldom ever goes there! And they are quite close. They chat on phone and my sister visits them, most times with her husband! It is a sign of shamelessness for a parent to be frequently found in their daughter's matrimonial home, only irresponsible mother's do that and if they are lucky enough to have bold men like OP as sons-in-law, they will certainly hear the truth! And in answer to your last question about my age, I am old enough to knock common sense into your impervious brain! 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by 234GT(m): 10:50pm On May 18, 2023 |
RhodaNelly: A rich mother inlaw won't visit her married daughter everyday. Only poor MILs do that. Poverty is a bastard. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:06pm On May 18, 2023 |
PROPEACE: most people are being biased simply becoz of attachment to parents and fear of telling parents the truth. Except for those who live with their fathers and mothers, the rest how often does your maternal grandmother visits your mother? is it everyday ? most would say not everyday The one of the reason why grandmother doesbt visit your mum everyday, is letting her live het own life while granny live hers while regular visit are there NOT everyday visits 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by 4FACEADELEKE(m): 11:08pm On May 18, 2023 |
thesilentman:I am a red piller but bro you are a fool.You see that action can destroy your marriage.Do you know the influence mothers have over their children whether male or female,most especially the ones that took good care of their children? Op just pray that woman is one of the few angels on earth that have a forgiving heart,if she has the heart of an average woman,better prepare for the end of your marriage or your marriage entering a tumultuous long long ride.As a man my wife can't even say that to my mother,I will act like nothing happen but I will punish her indirectly in a way she will never forget.Lastly pray life never put's you in a situation that will make you either need assistance or help from that woman,if it happens,this life will look like hell to you. 6 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:10pm On May 18, 2023 |
Ingocof: lets not assume anything and instead stick to FACTS.... A) mama lives very close by.... expecting her NOT to come over (especially if daughter is home alone all day) is ABSURD!!!! B) just because you allow a man to marry your daughter DOES NOT automatically make him a good man/husband/father. is it?!? his actions in that marriage will do his bidding. you dont need to tell me anything, because if you are a good man i will see it. i dont need to hear yeye fairytales while my daughter comes back home with a black eye. AGAIN: it certainly aint written on men's forehead that they are wife abuser/killers or what not PROPEACE: so because thats what your mother/sister does, this should be the universal norm, abi?! so you now want to bring shamelessness to this issuees, BWAAAAAAAAHH!HH! NEWSFLASH: there is no such thing as shame between parents and their children (that they may visit) |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by 4FACEADELEKE(m): 11:20pm On May 18, 2023 |
King2305:You are a million times accurate 2 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by sharone21(f): 12:25am On May 19, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: Op may not be helping wifey with house chores and Mama wants to lessen her baby girl's work load, so her frequent visits which Op may not understand. If they want to make out in the day time, they can still shift it to night time naw when Mama is in her own house or even go into their room for it and lock the door, with time Mama will understand the handwriting on the wall. Wisdom is profitable. 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:33am On May 19, 2023 |
sharone21: lets not put scenarios that were not given like load work etc look at this her everyday visit suggest that this couple is newly weds, there sex wise they want to experiement eg during the day not at night with lights off for me i can not be forced to change the times i want sex by a third person, the frustration can be too much eg wait until mums go back to her house |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 2:33am On May 19, 2023 |
thesilentman: You did the right thing by setting the boundaries in your home. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 2:35am On May 19, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: What kind of mumu question be that, if they are so attached, why don't they marry each other and spare the poor guy. My MIL cannot pass the night in my house and my wife knows that. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 2:45am On May 19, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: A lot of the shit my MIl tried in my house, my own mum could not have tried that because she knows me. Always set boundaries in your home as early as possible. You are married to her daughter not MIL. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 2:50am On May 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: i agree with you mate 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Tregmas: 2:54am On May 19, 2023 |
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Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 3:01am On May 19, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: Did she raise, clothe and shelter the man too. That house belongs to both the husband and the wife. I will never live in close proximity with mu in-laws to encourage regular visit. Na tojubole most of em be. The dude did nothing wrong by setting boundaries in his home. The man must have been showing signs of discomfort about the mil's vists which the wife overlooked. If the wife had observed the mood around the home and cautioned the MIL in the first place, situations wouldn't have escalated. Imagine my mil wants to sit and talk with my wife for more than 6 hours non stop after the talk, we would go to bed and she would still come knock bedroom door around 11pm. She will never have access to my home again. 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 3:11am On May 19, 2023 |
Sholaco: And why is he useless and uncultured? Your response come across as uncultured in my humble opinion. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 3:14am On May 19, 2023 |
SeriouslySense: The daughter should never have married so she can continue with the "HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP " with her so called mom. Mil should be sensible enough to know she is overstaying her welcome. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 3:17am On May 19, 2023 |
viodemus: Some MIL no get common sense and tend to overstep their bounds. If the dude mama no overstep her bound, she wont fet talked to. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by IamAsiri: 4:00am On May 19, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: So, you wouldn't mind if your wife talked this way to your mum if she did not "respect" the marriage? 1 Like |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by IamAsiri: 4:12am On May 19, 2023 |
ZIMDRILL: You are obviously not married and definitely still young. I am surprised at these things I am reading on Nairaland. An elderly person is not trained well because she is regularly visiting her daughter? Zimdrill, regular visitation does not indicate training; it only shows one's level of attachment. Being clingy (if at all that's the case here) does not even prove insensitivity. I apologize beforehand but you really need to learn more about wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by IamAsiri: 4:22am On May 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: Yes, I agree with you that the man did no wrong setting boundaries for his home. It is however the way he has chosen to set these boundaries that is a very big issue here. I am at a loss for words at the way he spoke to not just an elderly person but his own MIL. Some of these young men of nowadays just keep getting dumber and dumber in the name of forming alpha male and redpiller, forgetting where their boundaries lie (I pity the young wife though while still hoping that he is faulted in just few areas sha). 2 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 4:35am On May 19, 2023 |
IamAsiri: Read again i mentioned regular as exception not everyday as mentioned in the thread attachment my arse, like i have asked few people does the mother in law's mother visit her everyday because of attachment ? |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 4:41am On May 19, 2023 |
IamAsiri: 1 i wouldnt allow my mother to visit me everyday for what ? if my father is alive she should with him or with own friends 2 why are only focusing only on the guy, the mother in law should know better, unless her own mother in law was like and learnt it from her 3 whats that important that they need to see each other everyday, wife should find a hobby or make friends of her own |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ZIMDRILL(m): 4:54am On May 19, 2023 |
IamAsiri: please lets not be biased becoz it was a parent at wrong who is supposed to be wiser here, its the son in law or the mother in law? i keep repeating myself, unless the mother in law lived far away from general population were you have chance to see other mistakes people do in marriages then i might accept her ignorance of daily visits But however, becoz she is now a mother in law i believe she has liver enough to understand the dynamics couples with their respective in laws So my question is who should be wiser here, the husband who is likely to be the same age as her own daughter or the mother in law ? Who has observed and seen more marriage dynamics the husband or mother in law? Food for thought |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by jaxxy(m): 6:10am On May 19, 2023 |
thesilentman: I have no problem with mother inlaws visiting aslong as the respect themselves and no scheming. I don't like too much company bt I can understand other people need company to function and I won't deny them that if they need it. However it shouldn't be abused. So it depends on the type of mother-in-law u have. if she's no problematic and gets along with everyone pls let her be and if u need privacy u can tell her to reduce it to 1 or 2ce a week. |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 6:18am On May 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: Na you wey get mumu understanding When the mumu Op saw that they are so attached, why didn't he spare his poor self headache by not marrying her? E no see single ladies everywhere? E no get sense to know he cannot cope with their attachment? Was he forced to marry his wife? I talk am say na immature goats dey marry these days, if your MIL eventually spend the night in your house, what will you do? Kill her? But your own mother can spend the night in your house abi? You are a mistake of a man who lacks wisdom and sense, na only your unfortunate wife fit agree to nonsense like that, iranu. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 6:24am On May 19, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: You possibly know nothing about marriage and relationships. The op is now enjoying his home and marriage because he put his feet on the ground in his home and set some basic boundaries while you are here ranting aimlessly. kid! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 6:36am On May 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: You know nothing about marriage, you are a novice who lacks wisdom, a slow one at that, Op knows and is aware of his error that's why he came here to report himself, his heart is troubled. He is not at peace, because he knows of the repercussion of what he did to his MIL, you on the other hand that lacks tact and sense, seems to think aggressively achieving results at the detriment of another person is right, go and learn basic requirements of wisdom, especially wisdom in spoken words, it will help you go far in life, instead of quoting me first, ranting, and yapping spittle about with no aim. 4 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 6:47am On May 19, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: The only thing you are good at is abuse, insults, and nothing else. No logic, reasoning abilities, home training, only abuse, yelling, cursing, and insults, and foaming in the mouth. You must be very proud of yourself. Surprise me and make a meaningful contribution to the thread. Typical! |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by Nobody: 7:56am On May 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: Of course truth is an insult to you, since you came to this thread quoting me and everyone against Op and his bad attitude, not once have you contributed anything meaningful, instead you insulted me first, typed baselessly, and even went as far as degrading your mother in-law saying she can't sleep over in your house because to you that's an achievement and something of worth, Truly there is no difference between you and Op, crass, below par, tactless mistakes of men only able to broaden shoulders when it comes to women, you think you can gaslight me by speaking off point and focusing on my person? Prove your worth as regards this thread let's see if you were home trained on how to talk repectfully to elders, or na your type fit beat person wey fit born you, trash. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Did To My Mother-in-law by ezegenigbonine: 8:02am On May 19, 2023 |
Expect same from your wife to your mother soon. A quick question, what will be your response if same happen to your mom? 1 Like |
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