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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Nobody: 7:33am On May 28, 2023
Eunoiaa:


If I didn't know, too, I could have easily mistook you for one sha. grin

I can understand why they'll think you're a man.
Review time.

Please tell me why they will think I'm a man. The truth only, perhaps I have to change some things embarassed lipsrsealed
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by folake4u(f): 7:43am On May 28, 2023
Persephone1:
Done.

Make I rest. cheesy

You need that rest, mai dear. grin
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Tboymessiah(m): 7:45am On May 28, 2023
Franklydes:
Its cause priorities changes after schooling era. And mind you most people see dating or relationships as gold, others as a means of survival and some a game. So choose your pick then you know why its hard

NasoLifeBe!!!

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by mikool007(m): 7:57am On May 28, 2023
zyphr:
I might just be my experience, my dating life after the university has been more difficult than while I was in the university. In the university, there were a large pool of members of the opposite sex within my age group with shared experiences but this outside world is wild.

Guys, Do you all experience the same? Ladies, is dating also more difficult for you after school? Compared to while you were in school, do you notice a significant drop in the number of men who approach or develop interest in you?
in school you were all going through the same stage in life together, the synchronicity of it makes it easier to associate with everyone else and potentially increase chances of a relationship, plus a level of familiarity is built from seeing someone almost everyday.

after school however you’re all using entirely different timetables in life, some want marriage, some money and work, others want to further (not me tho, the shege is better in small doses lol)

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by PrettyIfy7: 8:38am On May 28, 2023
YOUTUBE9ja:
I pray this administration favors everyone . My advice for Nigerians is to start a YouTube channel on football and make money so you don’t cry during economic recession. Let me teach you how is been done , mention me if interested, hold your 1k o

I'm interested.
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by YOUTUBE9ja(m): 9:03am On May 28, 2023
PrettyIfy7:


I'm interested.


See my bio for WhatsApp
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by okerekingsley90: 9:21am On May 28, 2023
Brownshoe:
This remind of R Kelly song" if I could turn back the hands of time"



Tope that use to cook for me I look her as not classy now she is married with kids,


Here I am still single, I wish there's something that could carry you back to Uni days, oh Lord! When?


Kai Am so addicted to Nairaland due to comments like this. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Dshocker(m): 9:57am On May 28, 2023
YOUTUBE9ja:
I pray this administration favors everyone . My advice for Nigerians is to start a YouTube channel on football and make money so you don’t cry during economic recession. Let me teach you how is been done , mention me if interested, hold your 1k o

🤣🤣🤣

If it is that profitable, you won't be looking for 1k

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by YOUTUBE9ja(m): 10:02am On May 28, 2023
Dshocker:


🤣🤣🤣

If it is that profitable, you won't be looking for 1k


Ok sir
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Eunoiaa(f): 10:17am On May 28, 2023
Persephone1:
Review time.

Please tell me why they will think I'm a man. The truth only, perhaps I have to change some things embarassed lipsrsealed

Okay, I just tried to assess* your account without everything else I know about you, and I was left with just a feeling. grin

Yes, a feeling that you come across as a man. It's like vibes. Energy. It's not something you can do anything about. You know when your feeling doesn't just agree with someone even though you've not interacted with them before? Yes. That kind of hunch.

Also, from someone seeing your comments for the first time, they'll appear to be devoid of gender sentiments. Especially in a very biased way. And even for comments where you're defending women, you're just reasonably leaning in a sense. And you don't give anything away by referencing your personal experiences. And most people will assume a neutral person to always be a man because "women are always impassioned", no matter what they're talking about.

Persephone also is not all that feminine sounding, so, there lol.

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Truvelisback(m): 10:38am On May 28, 2023
zyphr:
I might just be my experience, my dating life after the university has been more difficult than while I was in the university. In the university, there were a large pool of members of the opposite sex within my age group with shared experiences but this outside world is wild.

Guys, Do you all experience the same? Ladies, is dating also more difficult for you after school? Compared to while you were in school, do you notice a significant drop in the number of men who approach or develop interest in you?
🤔
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by pansophist(m): 10:53am On May 28, 2023
Just as a man is looking for a partner, women are actively searching for theirs. If you're in the calibre of men women generally want, then the fun party continues after university.

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by 360command: 11:05am On May 28, 2023
stevestifler:


I was unemployed for more than a year after MSc but I was doubledating even then.. Till got a job, switched jobs and got married.
Now I'm retired and focusing only on my wife.
what do you mean by doubledating?
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Sixfeetbelle: 11:59am On May 28, 2023
Persephone1:
Arghhhhhhh

I'm not a bro angry

I've calmly accepted my "bro" status in my social media accounts. You'll get used to it in due time too 🤭
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Sixfeetbelle: 12:01pm On May 28, 2023
Eunoiaa:


If I didn't know, too, I could have easily mistook you for one sha. grin

I can understand why they'll think you're a man.

I don't see it. Persephone was clearly a lady. Her moniker screams female, so where are they seeing "bro"?
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Sixfeetbelle: 12:02pm On May 28, 2023
Persephone1:
Done.

Make I rest. cheesy

Happy Sunday, bro 😏😏
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Nobody: 3:46pm On May 28, 2023
Sixfeetbelle:


Happy Sunday, bro 😏😏
Happy Sunday to you too bro grin

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Nobody: 3:52pm On May 28, 2023
Eunoiaa:


Okay, I just tried to access your account without everything else I know about you, and I was left with just a feeling. grin

Yes, a feeling that you come across as a man. It's like vibes. Energy. It's not something you can do anything about. You know when your feeling doesn't just agree with someone even though you've not interacted with them before? Yes. That kind of hunch.

Also, from someone seeing your comments for the first time, they'll appear to be devoid of gender sentiments. Especially in a very biased way. And even for comments where you're defending women, you're just reasonably leaning in a sense. And you don't give anything away by referencing your personal experiences. And most people will assume a neutral person to always be a man because "women are always impassioned", no matter what they're talking about.

Persephone also is not all that feminine sounding, so, there lol.
Drinks water cheesy

Ermmm Maggie I'm speechless. You are right about not sharing personal experiences. I really suck at writing about myself grin . I find it weird when people go "I do this , I do that. My this,my that" lol . I dunno it just comes off to me when you fit yourself into every narration. I'm a very private person, offline it's same. grin

About Energy... Lol no comment.

You are right too, I can't change it. Make nairalanders manage am like that.

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Karlifate: 5:42pm On May 28, 2023
Rayban25:


Why are you putting words in his mouth and arguing against what he didn't say?



Solipsism on grand display. cheesy

Very typical from her kind.
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Sofistcatdmoron: 5:50pm On May 28, 2023
zyphr:
I might just be my experience, my dating life after the university has been more difficult than while I was in the university. In the university, there were a large pool of members of the opposite sex within my age group with shared experiences but this outside world is wild.

Guys, Do you all experience the same? Ladies, is dating also more difficult for you after school? Compared to while you were in school, do you notice a significant drop in the number of men who approach or develop interest in you?
It's not difficult,, it gets easier self but expecially if u are in ur 30+, because many girls are looking for husband, so u can date 4 at a time,,
Check urself bro
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Banbanna(m): 7:33pm On May 28, 2023
Tboymessiah:

I don even tied, last last na to find one surrogate mother to give me two children.
🤓🤣 Funny you! You mean say you fit nurse those babies by yourself or you go pay her for the whole thing?
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Eunoiaa(f): 8:56pm On May 28, 2023
Sixfeetbelle:
I don't see it. Persephone was clearly a lady. Her moniker screams female, so where are they seeing "bro"?

You may be seeing her that way because you knew her already lol.

And for some people, they might just be coming across her comment for the first time. And would never her seen other posts where she's coming from a lady's perspective.
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Sixfeetbelle: 10:40pm On May 28, 2023
Eunoiaa:


You may be seeing her that way because you knew her already lol.

And for some people, they might just be coming across her comment for the first time. And would never her seen other posts where she's coming from a lady's perspective.

Unless that.

But for me, I look at your moniker before I try to imagine your gender. On rare occasions, however, I've seen names that sound feminine but are actually males.
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by ednut1(m): 3:05am On May 29, 2023
Its hard if you dont have a job or are seen as husband material. Which is normal. Those babes you had sex with or dated for free in university are looking for husband now

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Smartguyboy(m): 4:53am On May 29, 2023
Jodha:


He insinuated it..and yhu know....

Some men just think a woman's life and destiny is tied to marriage....
95% Nigerian women think after school next Is marriage.
I went to NYSC POP last week at Port Harcourt a Guy proposed to his girlfriend there after shouting and snapping when the girls returned back to their seat I was shocked almost all of them saying “make I do go find my own husband “
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Smartguyboy(m): 5:01am On May 29, 2023
folake4u:


Be like say you go activate the (F) sign to your monicker cos they gon' keep calling you Bro. 😂
There’s nothing bad calling someone you don’t know and have no sex or gender bro 😎
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by udeh3(m): 7:07am On May 29, 2023
Persephone1:
You meet lot of people in the Uni. You can easy chat people up, woo your classmates, and ask a friend to talk to a lady for you but outside unless you are completely shameless you can't just walk up to people on the street.
There is availability and proximity in University.

In the University, you don't have much to focus on. Your parents finance you but outside with bills piling up, the last thing you will think of is relationship.

In the Uni needs aren't much Feelings is enough, outside eyes don tear love is not enough grin grin

Well said... Outside school is full of responsibility and almost independent
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by stevestifler(m): 12:35pm On May 31, 2023
360command:
what do you mean by doubledating?


I had multiple girlfriends despite the fact that i was broke nd unemployed. Being broke will force you to use other gifts you have (eg Confidence) to win a girl over, else konji will kill you cheesy

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by 360command: 10:11pm On May 31, 2023
stevestifler:



I had multiple girlfriends despite the fact that i was broke nd unemployed. Being broke will force you to use other gifts you have (eg Confidence) to win a girl over, else konji will kill you cheesy
that definition of doubledating is actually wrong.. many Nigerians use that term "double dating" wrongfully. It actually means having your friend, colleague come with their date as well as you with your date to go out. Double dating isn't having multiple partners.

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Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Alexxien: 11:48am On Jun 01, 2023
Persephone1:
Arghhhhhhh

I'm not a bro angry
Your philosophical ways of seeing and explaining things are uncanny for a woman.
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Nobody: 2:48pm On Jun 01, 2023
zyphr:
I might just be my experience, my dating life after the university has been more difficult than while I was in the university. In the university, there were a large pool of members of the opposite sex within my age group with shared experiences but this outside world is wild.

Guys, Do you all experience the same? Ladies, is dating also more difficult for you after school? Compared to while you were in school, do you notice a significant drop in the number of men who approach or develop interest in you?
because many nigerian ladies in the university nowadays are very fickle and materialistic
Re: Why Is Dating More Difficult After The University? by Nobody: 2:50pm On Jun 01, 2023
stevestifler:



I had multiple girlfriends despite the fact that i was broke nd unemployed. Being broke will force you to use other gifts you have (eg Confidence) to win a girl over, else konji will kill you cheesy
in nigeria today, it's virtually impossible to date more than 3 ladies without lying to all of them

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