Well I started dating this girl last year after I had some financial issues and I came back home, she appeared reasonable and rational because at that time I started working on my self and my mindset to get back up on my feet and be a better man so these silly childish attitudes of just dating random chicks isn't there again and although I'm a sexually active person sex wasn't always on my mind but I did gave sex occasionally with few girls I paid. I met this girl at my friend's street, she's abit boyish but very pretty and I didn't even like her at first because I wasn't impressed with her voice and how loud she was plus the excessive pidgin she used as a girl but I liked her sister regardless I didn't see the need to get a girlfriend because it'll be a distraction so I let things be (was focused) eventually I started to get to know this girl, at the times with my friends and his friends I used to talk about the amount of money I had and the enjoyment before I lost them all to some issues and she would be there most times. When I took her contact we started talking and damn she seemed so ambitious and focused on her modelling I thought she was pretty cool and I thought wrong of her,she appeared nice, calm, rational, content, mature both emotionally and mentally (I started to get interested) but still I didn't intend on getting a girlfriend, she broke up with her boyfriend and I didn't even care to ask when because she said it hurt her due to the fact he cheated on her with her close friend so I just consoled her and let it be because truly I didn't really give a damn.


Eventually one afternoon after 4 weeks or 3 weeks of talking she said she liked me and I was wanting to clear her upfront about how I didn't need a girlfriend yet but my bro and his friend adviced that I dare her and all that so I just did. Eventually the girl started demanding more of my time it wasn't bad but I started feeling that she knew I work at 11pm at the time till 5am but she just ignored that fact and asked for attention regardless I really didn't mind it was cute to me, I'm a carefree person and 90% of the time I don't give a shit about anybody and anything asides from money. She called almost everyday because my sim was blocked and I couldn't call then eventually she started demanding that I don't come out everyday because my friend wasn't around anymore, I don't giver her time, I don't do this and that so I gave it some thought and asked her what she wanted but you know girls she said nothing that she's no longer angry. Fast forward to when we had the first fight I took seriously was when she called and she had an issue with her sister and she blocked her. I told her it's not right to always quarell with your sister but yet you're in better terms with your friends outside and you can't even quarell with your friends as much as you do with your sister it's not good, you don't regard outside people more than family then she got angry and cut the call and that shit pissed me off because asides from money what pisses me off is when you pass your boundaries with me by disrespecting me. So I left her be for 2 days no texts at all because felt she needed time to realize what she did was abit unnecessary to cut the call then she started complaining to a girl that was both our friends, even my guy too so they messaged me, I was pissed that even and I made a voice note and sent to them both, the dumbass female friend sent the voice note to the girl regardless of the fact that it's a very aggressive voice note then my girl heard it and came to my dm like I'm wicked, she didn't know this is how I was and in my mind I was like so she didn't realize what she did was wrong but it's cool I apologized for losing my temper and being dumb enough to send a girl that kind of voice note about her friend but my girl is the kind of girl that does the victim play, she always wants to be the victim and not take responsibility for her actions so she started acting like she's broken and sad, I had to apologize all through even though the only bad thing I said in that voice note was that I could go for days without talking to her because of the unreasonable thing she did but the problem is ever since that night she started changing little by little no doubt she was still asking for more attention and calling but it kept reducing little by little.


She bleeps up most times but i don't vex and I let go but when I do something wrong she notes that down in her brain and shirts further it's like she doesn't forgive or isn't mature enough to understand that quarells doesn't mean I'm taking you for granted or I'm not interested. I'm a busy person with family responsibilities and my own dreams and goals, I have to make money daily, my dad's has no job, my mom isn't doing business anymore so I literally carry a home of 5 people and still very much a teenager but I didn't tell her though because I don't tell people my problems. She never asks about my work but I didn't mind, it was always about what in not doing for her and stuffs like that. Then i started making out time for her but when that happened she started giving me attitude after a time I got pissed and shouted for her because she of something she did. The attitude lasted for , 2 months I didn't even mind because I myself I'm a hard person to understand based in the fact in always busy and I'm not the lover boy.


Initially I wanted to hold on before sleeping with her because she told she never wanted to sleep with her ex and he forced her shouting for her and the second time he made her smoke weed so she could get high before taking advantage so you get why I hesitated sleeping with her but at the third month of the attitude we had an issue so I asked her let's meet but she said she was going somewhere and didn't tell me where then I saw on her friends post that she followed him and her ex to a show because the ex is a musician and I was shocked and angry but I didn't confront her I wanted to know what was going on because I couldn't conclude, some days after I was walking with my guy and she and her sister were passing and heard her talking on the phone saying give her friend the phone but she didn't know I knew her friend was in the ex place so I shouted at her and asked her who she was talking to then she said her ex and her friend and was fucking annoyed. After we settled the attitude got so bad that in new year she didn't wish me happy new year, when we see she kept pushing me back from kissing her, I wanted to touch her she'll move away or take my hand out and just naturally acting like I wanted to rape her and she wasn't comfortable (I have a rule as a high value male, I don't beg for sex) so I made up my mind I won't sleep with her because it'll just dull my performance and piss me off if anyone acts like I need to beg them to sleep with me or I need to shout for her to do it, I believe sex it mutual and I shouldn't beg or stress for it. Eventually I found out the ex has been calling her and she has be picking and talking and I was shocked because I thought she was more principled than that and since then we've been having issues and I know very well if I wasn't insecure we won't be having issues for very silly things regardless the attitude is still up but I feel like she's not satisfied because I don't beg for her attention and I'm okay being alone so she keeps crossing boundaries to get my attention by shouting for her, in my eyes she just pisses me off and there was a time I called to fix things but she fooled me on the line by just saying 'hmm' and 'nawa oo' and 'i dont have anything to say' same thing I got pissed and shouted at her and cut the call I think that was the only time I reacted to her attitude and she must have felt good (entitled girl) but the fact that she didn't want to fix things just left me in awe like lol what does this girl want, is she only still here to break me so I start begging for love from her? because I've talked and talked rationally to her... why the attitude though? If I'm doing something or I did something you don't like then come so we'll settle like adults and move on, if there's something you can forget or you're not clear about then let's tackle that feeling.


I didn't even think about my own feelings but I still feel so pissed about the ex thing and till today she never said sorry straight up but that doesn't mean anything to me what actually means something to me is when people make effort to change and that covers the sorry but she's not even making efforts to change at all or do better. Now we didn't speak for 20 days because she left me waiting for an hour when from where I was to where her house is was just 7 mins walk (thank God I I knew she would do it so 15 mins in I already went home 😂) but I still acted like you I was pissed to give her that satisfaction that she wants through her attitude, all the times she's done shit to me I knew the game but I had to let it slide because she's a woman so maybe she needs that thrill to satisfy what every craving she has making her give me attitude so she can get back to the normal girl I actually had chemistry with that I liked but damn she's going insane to me still though I've never slept with her because I know she'll play that game of not wanting to have sex and I'd have to beg or shout for her which I said I won't do until she starts acting emotional mature before I make a sex move on her and she'll love it, I can tell she doesn't know much about sex as I do (I got alot of experience points in that aspect 😄) well fast forward to now recently what actually really bleeped my mood up was when she posted a video of herself in a hotel room and that got me pissed, the funny part is she's scared when I shout for her but she still does things by passing her boundaries so I'll shout for her it's like she's a pervert for chaos, I can see the excitement in her when I called her out to shout for her (I don't scream when mean shout, I just talk more assertive and my tone gets deeper and look her straight up in the eye but not shout for her literally) she tried to explain that it was a birthday party she went to with her friends and the celebrant rented a hotel room, I didn't believe one bit regardless that is a boundary you don't cross with me....


Cheating, I don't know if what she said is true but she knew every well before letting me see that status and didn't turn out how she'd expect it, I broke up with her because it was getting childish to me with the games. Pls know I didn't enjoying shouting for her, if you read the whole thing you'll know I'm rational and I tried to settle and talk things out, I say sorry when I did something wrong and she actually complains.


My question now is my friends will now start saying why didn't I sleep with her because most of them do these things alot by begging girls for sex, cheating and faking their lives for sex but for me I stopped way back to become the best version of myself so I don't have time to cheat or text other girls it's for children and a waste of my attention that I could put into work or myself development and I don't beg for sex it's a silly thing to me now to give into lust and surrender to some crafty woman that'll turn that lust to her strength and you become her plaything just because you want free sex, I rather pay than do that now. But should I have had sex with the girl regardless I knew that if I had begged or forced her then I would have slept with her or did I right to stick to my dignity and principles to not beg or force sex?

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1: You are simply her rebound relationship she still has feeling for her ex

2: Exactly when a man is trying to focus on his life and journey, Devil sends some girls to break you.. it happens

3: Before making any decisions try and have sex even if it's with a paid girl, this would clear your emotions, and you won't mistake sexual urge for emotional attachment

4: Don't let your friends decieve you like sex is a big deal in a relationship or you are a fool for not manipulating her

5: If you manipulate her for sex, trust me you would regret it and it would spoil your ego.. do not beg, if she resist leave her

6: Mark it down, the Day you start focusing back on your Job, development, family and personal happiness , Devil would push her back

7: Toxic People feed on other people's Positive Energy to feel high energy... The day you learn to ignore and snub toxic person, you kill there pride and win there energy and become stronger

7a: Take a scenerio of you viewing her status and seeing her in an hotel room, she baited you to suck your energy making you feel jealous and down.. but if you want to feed of her powers and energy while keeping yours, simply view it, and act like you saw nothing, also don't act angry.... This would make her feel worthless, powerless and without control and she would seek you attention... When she come seeking your attention you gain more energy and control




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I won’t read that without paragraphs, buddy. I believe the second poster is your alternate account.

finallybusy:
I won’t read that without paragraphs, buddy. I believe the second poster is your alternate account.

Nah it's not my alternate account, won't do that. If I do how do I get my answers. I need people's views in the matter

solmusdesigns:
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1: You are simply her rebound relationship she still has feeling for her ex

2: Exactly when a man is trying to focus on his life and journey, Devil sends some girls to break you.. it happens

3: Before making any decisions try and have sex even if it's with a paid girl, this would clear your emotions, and you won't mistake sexual urge for emotional attachment

4: Don't let your friends decieve you like sex is a big deal in a relationship or you are a fool for not manipulating her

5: If you manipulate her for sex, trust me you would regret it and it would spoil your ego.. do not beg, if she resist leave her

6: Mark it down, the Day you start focusing back on your Job, development, family and personal happiness , Devil would push her back

7: Toxic People feed on other people's Positive Energy to feel high energy... The day you learn to ignore and snub toxic person, you kill there pride and win there energy and become stronger

7a: Take a scenerio of you viewing her status and seeing her in an hotel room, she baited you to suck your energy making you feel jealous and down.. but if you want to feed of her powers and energy while keeping yours, simply view it, and act like you saw nothing, also don't act angry.... This would make her feel worthless, powerless and without control and she would seek you attention... When she come seeking your attention you gain more energy and control




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Yeah I realized that just recently that I was her rebound. For the toxic relationship I'm done with it I don't need negative energy right now. Damn that was a total waste if energy for 9 months but lessons were learnt though and I liked it. Very thrilling

To long to read

DamianDd:


Yeah I realized that just recently that I was her rebound. For the toxic relationship I'm done with it I don't need negative energy right now. Damn that was a total waste if energy for 9 months but lessons were learnt though and I liked it. Very thrilling

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