Are you marrying her or her brother?

Dark October and real housewives of Abuja no follow for Nigeria movie atall

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for you sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

Confused human being, na hungry or na the fuel increases dey worry you?

Firstly, what tribe is she?

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

Something is affecting your "mental health" and you still what force yourself into it? Na WA ooo!

See ehn..... What is yours feels Natural, Calm, Clear not Chaotic, Forced, Confused.

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

Point of correction,
You 'want" a woman ,not you 'NEED".

Be prayerful

Guy if Diplomacy fails, you go to war. It's a simple philosophy. Don't end up fighting a never ending war for the rest of your life. They have told you a piece of their mind, and it's a big minus because they'll always be a part of your life if you marry their daughter.

If you don't have peace of mind in your marriage, you will die earlier. It's not a curse but a fact. Don't use the rest of your life to fight a war you know nothing about.

Still convince her not to listen to her brother's talk.

pachigo001:
her brother said he don’t like igbos

Red flag 🚩
there is more to marriage than Romeo & Juliet affair…. get yourself a decent lady from your tribe and avoid all the drama
anyway, it’s waste of time to advice someone with testosterone and access to money

Intratribal marriage remains the best.

Marrying someone from another tribe comes with a lot of headache.

You need up adjusting to a lot cultural differences.

I see the sense in what her brother is doing.

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for you sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

Silly, filthy tribalist!

I hope you're now ashamed of yourself after learning the people denying him are not Igbo, and that he's just a victim of hate-filled people like you?

The advice you need is right with you yourself, because you know this girl more than we do here... The question is does she really love you as you claims, can she stand and stay with you if you have any difficulty or problems tomorrow..one things I know is that Ladies are very vulnerable when their man fail in his responsibility as a man...and more so family play a significant role in marriage and if her brother and family doesn't support this then there is a big problem.. I'm sure you will figure it out...I wish you the best......

What of her parents?

Bobs, do as your mind pleases.
We weh marry another tribe ie Yoruba woman for over 22 years nko? Seyi marry igbo, Adeleke papa marry igbo.
Abeg tribe shoukd not be an issue.

incandescentena:
Atiku married Yoruba. Davido married Igbo. FFK married Igbo. Bashir el-rufai married Igbo, and many moore. So whats the issue?!

That's not true. The lady's mother is Igbo.

incandescentena:
Where are you from and she also? That region denying you is Southeast. and you are from the North or vice vasa. They will give you hell. Better try somewhere else for you sanity sake.... Wait o! Is the girl Fulani and you are Igbo?

Bebeto... cover your tribalistic and racist tendencies with glue. You should be ashamed of yourself

incandescentena:
I hope the fallout of these recent elections isn't started to haunt people from that region o. Its well... The elections really brought out reality of Nigerias politics. I blame these politicians for your woes Op

Nigeria has never been united.

We just keep living in denial and managing our irreconcilable differences.

You will enjoy the family because one because is against the Union.
On her own part, any small you have with her, she will keep remembering what her brother told her. This will make her to live in regret, which will later reduce the love she have for you.

pachigo001:
nope I’m the one from Igbo not her

Oga,rest,you are not a full blooded NWA AFO.

No true son of igbo land would be brought to such.low cos of marriage to another tribe.

You are either half igbo or just chasing clout.


Igbo guys are the prize, when it comes to marriage, anywhere in naija.

pachigo001:
what do you advice me to do

First, does she know how to speak her language? If she doesn't know how to speak her language, then the issue of you not being from her tribe doesn't hold to me.

illuminutty:
Nope.

Marriage is a scam made by religion that was sold to the west and delivered in Africa.

Marriage was happening before foreign religion was brought to Africa!

Children everywhere.

How old are both of you?

Op sey she no get parents?

What's their own opinion about you and your tribe, if they have no problem then you have no worries

If she's really ready to marry you, the brother is insignificant

The first advice to the op is to let him know that he is not matured yet for marriage, anyone ready for marriage will not be seeking the advice he is asking for, or at least, the girl in question is certainly not the one for him,
How old are you BTW and how old is the said girl? That the both of you can't take a decision of your own simply means you are neither mentally nor emotionally ready, you are asking us whether you should continue or not, were we the ones that told you to start the relationship? Will you be coming here to ask the solutions to the ups and downs that are going to come up I the marriage? Go and get ready first kid

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

Don't play the mental health thing sir. If you are using the mental health card you are not ready for any relationship.

incandescentena:
I hope the fallout of these recent elections isn't started to haunt people from that region o. Its well... The elections really brought out reality of Nigerias politics. I blame these politicians for your woes Op

you foolish, tribal bigot. First your hate filled mind concluded the lady was Igbo, then after your poor, Ill mind was proven wrong, you still twisted to assert your foolery. Animal

pachigo001:
I have been dating this girl for a year now and we planned getting married this year but my problem is her brother always tell her not to marry me because Im not from the same tribe with her.

The thing is really affecting our relationship her brother is trying everything to manipulate her into hating me and the thing is affecting my mental health we love ourselves and she is the woman I need.

just need an advise from you guys if I should go ahead or end the relationship for good

I am going to tell you the gospel truth that I will tell my sibling with hope you will hear. The way Nigeria is now, there is a high tense moments between tribes especially people from the SE and the hate is manifesting. The "sensible" thing to do is STICK TO YOUR OWN because the hate the family had for you might transcends the love she had for you and you will have yourself to blame.

Watch her moves and if she is having double mind don't force her and quietly move on and limit your risk, love alone can't sustain marriage that is just the truth many will not tell you, it is too early to start fighting that battle and at the end is all going to be a pyrrhic victory, I have no issues with inter-tribal but only when the two families agreed to do it in peace anything outside that just move on it doesn't worth the fight in long run.

Let her fight for what she wants; same happened to me, it was her sister. She used to tell me how her sister and her friends are against me but she told them she had made up her mind. We are happily married with two handsome boys, they are envious of us now.
What is her decision about this?
What is she telling you?
Is she affected by her brother's action?

incandescentena:
Atiku married Yoruba. Davido married Igbo. FFK married Igbo. Bashir el-rufai married Igbo, and many moore. So whats the issue?!

the issue b sai, him no get money

My wife's brother said the same too.
I spoke to my wife and her parents maturedly and they supported me. They even called the guy to calm down on the threats, he refused.
We eventually got married and he didnt attend.

Now that the deal is done, he is looking for ways to make amends and be friendly but na me no want.