my husabdn noticed my depression and asked what the matter was and I told him that I dont know why his sister is always saying that she does not know who our child resemble is it because she knows about our ivf success? To my surprise my husband screemed did you tell her? and I said I tought she is aware since you two always talk about my pregnancy failure on phone so I told her during that time we had fracas over the girl you were charting with on phone, when she asked me how far? I said but please pardon me I tought she is your best among your relatives because of the way she hovers around you and you two always talk even in the mid night. as am typing now My husbabd is not at home she does not talk to me, he only tell the little girl when ever he is going out. had I know he did not tell her about the ivf I would nt have tell her
I happily told her because I thought we are all in same boat heading to getting pregnancy.

but anyone that knows their younger sister will know that this child looks like her when it comes to behaviour she behaves exactly like you, her heels does not touch the floor when walking, she hate hot food just like the way you yell when served hot food she does not eat anything beans or leaf just like me.
when she sleep she lies down exactly like my husband, my mum has a kind of set of front tooth which only all the grand children inherited from her
my child's front tooth are exactly like that.

as am typing am all tears simply because I do not have money for DNA test to prove to this woman that her brother who is my husband is the biological father of my child and I am the biological mother (If anyone knows where I can do DNA test in Nigeria that is cheap please let me know i am begging you all)
2. I am thinking of either to give my child away for adoption and quit the marriage because she may be stigmatize by her fathers family if this mummy spread her doubt to them.
3. should I take my daughter and walk out of this marriage then tell her why I divorce story when she grows up?


Everybody please help me how do I come out of this saga. will my child be a member of their family without the stigma of her or them calling her ivf child that they are doubting. please help me I have not eating since morning no apetite Christmas has turned a sad day for me.

To my surprise the little girl is asking me why am not smilling today :' I dont know what to tell her.

Had I knowoooo I would have leave this marriage when I did not conceive please people bring in your piece of advice before I do foolish thing because am totally down emotionally now.

@onweprincess. Hmm. Let me understand u.
1. Your husband was/is unfaithful to u.
2. Your sister in law is talking trash.
Nne. My advice may not be what u are. Looking for but I'll give it from my own perspective.
You give power to whom u want to.
Ist. If your husband wants to cheat, na e cup of tea. Pray for him. Live your life and be happy cos u adding sorrow to yourself won't make him change. Be a good wife and leave the rest to God.
As for your sil. That one is moimoi. Hisssssssssss. Please please please yoou have your baby. To hell with the world and their views. I have done 3 ivfs, married for 5 years in a few days time. If I got a bfp na family member go steal ma joy? Hissssss.
Please take charge of your home.
If she says the pikin no resemble them, tell her thank God for modern medicine that she can do dna.
The way I see it, you are bothering yourself on yinmu talk. Till they call u out. Abegi chop ur rice jare

Ladyguiniever thank for responding. my pain is not if he want to cheat or if he is cheating on me because I am already used to his months of no s*x for no reason life style since I gave birth. he just avoiding me now moving like a ghost in the house as found out that I informed her sister that I did ivf and is affecting me, and it was when the pregnancy was three months old that the strange girl with her message came up so during argument she now informed his sister his sister now called me and asked me why I was quarreling with her brother but she called she first say how far about your body? so it was during that question I now told her that we have done it and it worked she now rejoiced with me and adviced that I should take care of myself that he will talk to her brother concerning the strange girl affairs. I did not know that my husban doesn't want her to know it was ivf we did because he did not tell me to keep it from her. that was what prompted me to tell her. since she had bn showing interest in my infertility problem and helping us to think of way out.

I thought they are best of friends because of the way they discuss their private matter together o.
Now my sister in law is frowning at who the child resemble, My husband is angry why I told her that I did ivf. am shocked and am regretting telling her and all this behaviour is gradually making my enemy to hate the child that put smiles on my face because this is not the first or second time she will be asking that question who the child resemble but her last WK visit was a bumb with midnight meeting of who the child looks like abi Im father na hausa? that was how she just ask the question swiftly and move to another topic, until she woke me up again early in the morning saying that my sitting room, my bed in short the entire house including television is not flashy you need to replace them when she knows am the kolekole in the matrimonial expenditure. because my husband her brother does not have a steady job. but is like instead of giving me a crown for the hard work she really came to plant anger and frustration in my home in her last visit.
pls if you know where I can do DNA with small money tell me because the way am seeing it she must have told others who supported her to come and say what she said. What will become of my child in this family in future?

^^we are saying the same thing o! Ignore the girl. Tell her u are happy with ur house. I see no reason why somebody should make u do dna when u don't wanna. Did u use a donor?
DNA as I know is 170k. Check with pathcare or all these big labs in lagos

@onweprincess: its well ma. Pls just ignore her talks. Anytiime she starts just tell her to ask her brother those ques n not u. Dnt give room for depression. Many are looking for a child, u av one n u are talking of giving her away.
Am sure u av learnt ur lesson. Keep things to urslf. Not everyone understands ivf. Prob she is thinking u used a donor. Whatever d case, be happy.

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Ignore that mofos SIL of yours, Love your daughter Love your Life at the end of the day you will be a VICTOR.

@onweprincess, let me ask you, why are you bothered? Did you sleep with another man? Did you use donor sperm or egg without your husband knowing?
Why is your sister in-law' s opinion giving you headache? I don't see a problem in this story you narrated. People have different opinions, she has formed hers and even if you bring a certified DNA signed by the minister of health himself, it won't still change whatever she thinks. You even mentioned giving away your baby and you said you waited 8 years to have her? Hmmmmm!!! You must really value your sister inlaw well oh!

@onweprincess, I'm sorry bt I hv to say this because I could nt read and pass. What does it matter if ur child was gotten tru ivf? D iui u did, its jst a little diff btwn iui and ivf. Why r u fretting and jittery. Wtf does it mater if ur sil goes talking all about? You should evn br greatful u did ivf just once and it worked 4u. Pls u own ur hapiness, don't let others decide 4u. Love your child to the end cos @ d end of the day she is all u have in that marriage. As 4ur hubby, weda he cheats or not, leave am mk e carry his cross.
Pls my own is that don't allow dat little gal suffer for what she does not no. As 4d dna, I wonder y u want to waste your money. Is the child nt urs? Na wa oh, ur sil must really b a busybody. As 4u, I'll advise u to beliv in urslf and kip ur head high, hv some confidence in urslf. Ivf is no taboo, life has advanced far more biko

ooh my God am relieved I thank all of you I thank you people I can't believe I have eaten after reading all the replies, even before Ladyguiniever place the first post the child fell while she was playing I dint other to check on her because it was as if in short hatred took over me but I later went to her and pampered her after reading your words. God bless you all God bless you all for reviving me God pls bless all this people with their own children please God do it for them, I hope you people know what you have done for me so? ewoo chimoo I did not even know that anyone will answer me because am not a member. But as all of you left your Christmas's celebration and come to my aid today I call on God the giver of blessing the God that burnt my clothe of shames to come to anywhere you people are and burn your shame and burn your garment of shame with the holy ghost fire and give all of you triple triple children, blessings according to the way you want. in Jesus name amen.

Ladyguiniver, Gr8fulHeart, itissettled3, Fimbaby, mubzay, I did not use dono egg or fluid, I know that the child is ours. even when I served her dinner this evening she still did same thing I used to do when i was small until I got to age 12, when I was a little child I always cry if anybody start eating before me so my sisters always wait for me to start eating before they ate, is not even as if she does not resemble us completely in appearance. as for why I wanted a DNA? why I wanted to go and do DNA test is that I wanted to just do it bring the result and trow it at her eyes and my husband eyes and let their conscience begin to judge them. and to show whoever she may want to tell same story in my husbands family because the way I am seeing her she is ready to spoil the identity of this girl among my in laws both old and young for just no evidence to backup her suspicion.

see person that wanted to help me adopt and told me that it must be a secret between only 3 of us.hewo is God that even made the adoption impossible that I could not meet up with their requirement. may be she would have done worst thing to me. thank God o.

Beetle:
Wokeyim, how long is the flight? My only ever BFP was done abroad, had ET on Sunday and flew home the next day. Was carrying bags and all, took a 3 hr train and a bus ride from one city to the airport. Now arrived in UK in the evening and the following day was on a 3 hr train ride to Manchester to visit my bro and it worked. So if it's going to work it will. All other cycles I would chill out for 2 weeks, result BFN. My first ever BFP, I never relaxed and it happened.

please im tryin to send you a pm, please check ur mail, thanks

@onweprincess if I had a dollar for every time I heard, 'who does this child look like' ' your child doesn't look like you or your husband' 'she is so unfamiliar' etc I will be a millionaire in dollar now

And I didn't do ivf, iui or any type of assisted method.

Now as she is almost 2 years, I hear 'wow she is beginning to look like you' or 'she is beginning to look like your Dh' or 'she looks exactly like your mum'

Maybe if I had done ivf I may have doubted the clinic sha.....but Mehn, people will always talk, how can you base your happiness or the success of your marriage based on what someone thinks, talk less of saying you will dash the child you Carried in your womb for 9 months after 8 years of marriage

Even if you are not the parents of the child, it takes more than biology to be a 'mum' or a 'dad' talk less of your situation where u used no donor nothing
Your attitude will soon make your husband doubt you...

Pls gather yourself together and live your life to the fullest and with gratitude to God everyday, the child will soon bring out her resemblance to the family with time

Merry Christmas

Dear onweprincess , d Lord had been kind to u. God knows that ivf is a difficult option as it is with no guarantees n d Lord was faithful to u n d result is ur darling daughter . Rejoice my sis. Forget d haters. Dis ur sister in law is she Married? She seems to have a lot of time on her hand. She is d type u should be civil with but not friendly to. Discourage d familiarity if u haven't already. As per ur husband. Go to God in prayer. Esther 2vs 18. Personalize n say as confession every day. Take authority over ur home thru prayer. The Lord himself will terminate any operation of strange women. It is well ma. Regards to ur bundle of joy

@onweprincess pls where is your location, so I can come and carry your baby girl since you want to give her out cos of one nonsense woman/lady.

My sis, it's well with your home. Pls show your daughter love this season. Pls stop using the word the girl, always use My Baby girl/ daughter. Don't mind ur sil cos she is kill joy as far as am concerned. See me crying now cos I don't have one. May God open ur eyes to see the beauty and joy your baby brought to your home and marriage.

Pls take your little angel out and spoil her with love. Cheeeerrrrrrsssssss

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@onweprincess if u will take my advise stop smiling wit dt so call sil can't u see dt she is d witch from ur dh family dt is the killing ur joy. The next time she comes or call to insinuate rubbish immediately warn her and put her in her place. Who cares who a child luks like abi make person born pikin and she is ur blood damn everyone and make sure she is happy at all times remember she is ur 1st fruit who removed the garmet of barreness of ur life. Have u not seen ppl who have 5kids and the kids don't luk like either of them and is not as if they did ivf. You are lucky the procedure worked u are now a mother dts y you are leting an irrelevant issue disturb you.

help, i had priapism at 10yrz nd since den i cnt av an erection nd my dick nt growing, nw am 20 nd am fed up

@onweprincess My dear, every child deserves to be loved, talkless of a child you had. Your SIL is not a problem, rather you give yourself a heartache over her comments. As long as she sees it affects you, she will continue, give yourself some peace, be quick to hear but slow to anger. You do not need to prove anything to anyone cause their plan has failed; let her tell the demons in her coven, God has blessed you, do not rejected it. Live, dress well, dress your baby, shine in God's glory cause your victory has caused confusion in the camp of the enemy and they will continue to be confused.

If I tell you my story, you will cry but I thank God for his grace, I'm still TTC after I lost my son. My SIL has even gone to the extent of trying to drive me away from my matrimonial home but failed, as all her manipulations has not worked. Cling to God and do things that make you happy. If your SIL starts getting in your hair, ignore her and strong. God bless

MARRY XMAS TO WONDERFUL MAMAS.

@onweprinces. I wish you are nearer me now. I would have dragged you into a gutter and poured pepper on your anus. What. JESUS. Did l read well. Oh ok. its a joke abi. I want to believe you are joking. Are you for real??. stressing yourself because of what your sister-in-law said. Oh my God. I am so angry now. why did I open this site today of all days.

You must be drunk. Let your sister-in-law go to HELL. What if the child is not your biological daughter. What if you used a donor sperm with your husbands consent. what if the child was adopted?.. what if??. What in this world is her business??.

Why are you allowing a fellow woman take your joy. I want to believe you were not ttc. oh Yes, you were not ttc if not you would not have taught about giving the child away.

I see you as one of those ladies that cook up stories to discourage people from doing ivf. You are just fake.

Hahahaha @cjone!
I'm laughing cos I get EXACTLY how u feel. There are days u just vex when u see 'issues' and u consider the fact that you are yet to born one.

cjane and other that posted after my last comment I didn't ignore your post my child has been very strong I had a very weird dream only to wake up about 2 am and her temperature was high enough to bake bread please spank me as you like but am glad I have you people to talk to because it is obvious that bad thing nearly happen to my enemy because of my sil. she is getting fine by his grace. temper justice with mercy I sincerely thank you all I will make out time to come and reply to everyone's comment tnx.

Merry Xmas in arrears mothers to be. I've been a silent follower and comment once in awhile and join the prayers. Just want to encourage all that God of the Eleventh hour is in the house. Finally saw a BFP for the first time in my life when I had lost hope. I had to do ART and God crowned my first trial with success. I'm still in shock but I believe God is in the house. 
We are no longer Trying to Conceive, rather it's our Time to Conceive. 
#2016mum100%
#iamiyaibeji
#confessionbringsconception
#teamseptember

Bcolah:
Merry Xmas in arrears mothers to be. I've been a silent follower and comment once in awhile and join the prayers. Just want to encourage all that God of the Eleventh hour is in the house. Finally saw a BFP for the first time in my life when I had lost hope. I had to do ART and God crowned my first trial with success. I'm still in shock but I believe God is in the house. 
We are no longer Trying to Conceive, rather it's our Time to Conceive. 
#2016mum100%
#iamiyaibeji
#confessionbringsconception
#teamseptember

Praise the living Jesus! Amen!
Pls what kinda ART did u do and where?

Hi LadyGuinivere. Thanks for the wishes. I did ICSI at Olive branch.

@onweprincess it's well with your Princess. Hope she is good to go now . She is healed in Jesus name, amen.

Congrats @bcolah..may u carry to term IjN.. I am a silent reader here and I really appreciate this thread.. It just helps me to forget about my worries.. Lemme bore u guys with my story.. I ve been ttc for two years now.. Hubby wuz diagnosed with low sperm count.. After taking drugs and injections.. We went for another test and the result came out as azoospermia.. Hubby wuz so devastated.. I wuz too but couldn't show it cos I had to encourage him dat all wuld be well.. We went for several tests which den revealed he had varicocele.. He had d operation in February but d result is still the same.. Our doctor advised we go for ivf.. He said hubby myt be producing sperm internally or we go for donor sperm.. We want to start d ivf/icsi in January or February.. Pls I need more information on the best clinic and cost.. May we all testify IJN.. @bcolah I sent u a dm.. Pls reply.. Baby dusts to us all

Bcolah:
Merry Xmas in arrears mothers to be. I've been a silent follower and comment once in awhile and join the prayers. Just want to encourage all that God of the Eleventh hour is in the house. Finally saw a BFP for the first time in my life when I had lost hope. I had to do ART and God crowned my first trial with success. I'm still in shock but I believe God is in the house. 
We are no longer Trying to Conceive, rather it's our Time to Conceive. 
#2016mum100%
#iamiyaibeji
#confessionbringsconception
#teamseptember

Congratulations. U used Medical Art? Can I pm U? We may likely b in d same cycle...

Hullo. Pls I want to know if anyone here has had d experience of getting a BFN at d initial PT test following an IVF procedure only to later get a BFP. I think I might have noticed something like that on this forum before. Truth is I really need to b encouraged. Tomorrow will b 3 week exactly dt I had d procedure done. I went for Blood PT yesteday but it was negative. My consultant asked me to do a repeat test tomorrow. I am so unhappy I didn't just see d BFP straightaway, but as a child of God, I am believing God that Iam pregnant and as my name is, iam a joyful mother of children. Anyone with some experience I could relate to? Thank U. #joyfulmothersof2016weare100%