The Prophet had made someone the Ameer, leader, of a group of people on an expedition and he instructed them to obey him.
Along the way they got the Ameer annoyed. Infuriated , he told them to set up a huge fire and enter it, reminding them of the Prophet's instruction:

ألَيسَ أمَرَكمُ النَّبيُّ صلَّى اللهُ عليه وسلَّمَ بأنْ تُطيعوني؟

Didn't the Prophet tell you to obey me ?

Some actually attempted while others had to pull them back, saying :
فَرَرْنا إلى النَّبيِّ صلَّى اللهُ عليه وسلَّمَ مِنَ النَّارِ

We came to the Prophet ( becoming Muslims) because we wanted to avoid Hell!
Upon return to Madinah , the incident was relayed to the Prophet and he let them realize that had they entered it , they would have entered Hell itself.

He, The Prophet, mentioned a very important rule:

إنَّما الطَّاعَةُ في المَعروفِ.

"Obedience is only in that which is good"
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Allah has not given absolute obedience to anybody be it parents , husbands, scholars or rulers. Anyone who claims otherwise is categorically wrong.
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If you unfortunately fall under a control freak whether as a husband or wife or a parent and this person gives instructions you find strange, seek for a second opinion. If you follow him or her sheepishly and harm yourself , Islam is not at fault. You are responsible.
We became practising Muslims because we don't want to be stupid.

Self harm because of the instructions of another is the peak of stupidity.

Posted originally by Ustadh Kabir Al Asfar (Make Allah perfect his step and ours).