Keeping Women In The Dark:

Sometimes a man has to say "Don't worry I've got this" or "I'll fix it" or "I'll work something out" even when he has absolutely no idea what to do, not out of egoism or a desire to be deliberately misleading, but because he doesn't have the luxury of "not knowing".

He has to say these things to reassure the woman, to protect both himself and her from the ravages of her runaway neuroticism. If he tells her he's improvising and lacks a plan, she will worry, and when she worries she will increase his stress load with negative emotional outbursts, making it harder for him to address the source problem he's already struggling with.

He doesn't have the luxury of not knowing, because the only thing worse than not knowing what to do is not knowing what to do whilst a woman panics, her neuroticism triggered by the situational uncertainty, he will have to divert his attention away from the source problem to fix the more emergent and pressing problem that's resulted from her believing he can't handle it - calming down the hysterical woman.

This is why the man always has to seem like he's got it all under control and knows what he's doing even when he doesn't and hasn't got a clue, often figuring things out along the way by himself - because if he was fully transparent and included his woman in the process, she would worsen the situation with her worries, necessitating further emotional labour from him with the amount of reassurance she requires, which only further undermines his ability to fix the problem by diverting his attention away from the source issue. More efficient then to just reassure her off the bat even when you don't know what to do, than being honest about not knowing what to do and having to reassure her ten times more because your uncertainty is stressing her.

And before you deride women for being like this - this isn't even a conscious or malicious choice on their part, it's just one of the drawbacks of their neuroticism - making bad situations worse by overreacting and mounting further stress and pressure on the shoulders of the men they expect to fix it.

They just "want the bad thing to go away" - they don't want to hear the man who is meant to "make the bad thing go away" say he doesn't know how to make it go away.

This is why we keep woman in the dark - to stop them worrying and to make problem solving easier on ourselves - life's hard enough without adding a worrying woman to the equation.

Copied: Illimitable Men (Twitter @tellyoursonsthis)

So what you say is we should do wamen the more they look the less they see

ozome15:
So what you say is we should do women the more they look the less they see

Hmm...