Zulum:


I am a public servant, working in an office from 8am to 5pm, so I don't think leaving her alone will be possible, and considering the environment and how thing are going here in the north....



What do u think about not eating her food, sleeping in different room locked....for the 2 weeks?

Infact I dey fear to eat her food or sleep near her, I always slept eyes opened

For how long are u going to live like this? ..

Zulum:


I have divorced her once, and returned her back...

Also send her home back after some months, when we were called she boldly told her dad that she don't want the marriage that I should divorce her....but the dad sent her away and begged us to return her back which I did

Is the dad wearing the shoe with you? .
Get yourself a sidechic and have peace of mind...You can then marry her...Shebi Islam does polygamy? ...
You are weak and she's taking advantage of it..

Chinny024:


Is the dad wearing the shoe with you? .
Get yourself a sidechic and have peace of mind...You can then marry her...Shebi Islam does polygamy? ...
You are weak and she's taking advantage of it..

I was always thinking about adding another wife.....but am I not too young for that?
28yrs with 2 wives?

Chinny024:

For how long are u going to live like this? ..

I don't know oo,

I have done that before...and she doesn't care....in fact she started locking the door for me that I can't get access to the house when am back from work...i have to sleep in my car.

I then reported to her dad, before she stopped...

So I don't think not eating her food will make her change

Dshocker:


She wasn't suppose to be your wife, that was the mistake you made.

And i am sure you saw these traits in her before wiving her, so why complain?

I saw it oooo, I regretted badly...

LaRosa01:
After many years of marriage,I have since learnt never to take the words of a woman lightly,she is telling you what she is thinking and its a question of time before she acts on it.

There is a time her elder sister came to our house to solve some problems......i told the sister that I am afraid this girl might kill me one day

The sister now replied that nothing will happen, that how many years she's married and didn't kill her husband..

And she's even telling me that even men do kill there wives

kkkp:
Tunda qaddara ta same ka. A runka mata nasiha. Amma fa akwai abunda ya kamata ka bincika.
1. Is she still in contact with her boyfriend
2. Is the Ex boyfriend married??
3. If she is still in contact with him, that will be a major issue in your marriage.

I don't check her phone

But the boyfriend is her classmate currently in the university

gannod:
It is obvious you married the wrong woman. You know what to do as a man and I suggest you do it before it is too late. Stories abound of how wives stab their husbands to death in the north and I pray you are not added to that list. The foundation of that marriage is faulty, it is God only that can soften her heart.

It wouldn't happen to me insha Allah

This time around I will find the lasting solution.....she will decide by herself

haslaw:



Da baka dawo da ita ba... You shouldn't have returned her to your house

This was your opportunity to dissociate from her. Her dad knows that his daughter leaving your house will most likely be bad for his daughter.

Your name suggest Kanuri and if your wife is Kanuri also, I would advice you to thread carefully as she could kill you easily.

Your mental and physical health is very important and you should take steps to your mental and physical health

We are both kanuri Sir
Walhy because of her I hate kanuri girls....i hate them

The child in between you may not be a blessing but curse. You may not be the father, hence she want you dead for secret to be secret. Start by doing the DNA test and you will get shock. No sane person will want the partner dead, except for this reason

Zulum:


I don't check her phone

But the boyfriend is her classmate currently in the university

Thats where the problem is. as far as they are in contact you will never know peace at home. Just pray that the boyfriend is God fearing....anything can happen.

This may sound harsh but it's better to be single again rather than suddenly slump and die from marriage pressure- Oga File for divorce.

Zulum:


It wouldn't happen to me insha Allah

This time around I will find the lasting solution.....she will decide by herself

You will die soon bro.
Rip in advance.

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Watch what you eat ... poison may not be far from you. The reason for your wife's outbursts will be in her WhatsApp chats...Therein lies the solution

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

People don't value what they have until they loss it.

do you really think her sister would tell you otherwise.the mistake most men have is that they decisive themselves into believing that the women of this generation is like there mothers.quote me,watch your back.

Zulum:



There is a time her elder sister came to our house to solve some problems......i told the sister that I am afraid this girl might kill me one day

The sister now replied that nothing will happen, that how many years she's married and didn't kill her husband..

And she's even telling me that even men do kill there wives

I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. It's important to remember that this comment cannot provide professional advice or opinions, but I can offer some general guidance.

In any relationship, arguments can escalate and emotions can run high. Sometimes, hurtful things may be said in the heat of the moment. However, it's crucial to address these issues in a healthy and constructive manner, prioritizing open communication and understanding.

It might be beneficial to find a calm moment to discuss the argument with your wife and express how her comment has impacted you. Honest and empathetic communication can help both of you understand each other's feelings and find a way to move forward. Additionally, couples therapy or seeking guidance from a professional counselor could be an option to facilitate constructive dialogue and help you both work through these challenges.

Remember, maintaining a healthy and respectful relationship requires effort, compromise, and understanding from both parties involved.

Zulum:


I don't check her phone

But the boyfriend is her classmate currently in the university

Haba alanguro they're in the same class ma. Zato zunubi ne ama de kam something is fishy ka samu wani daban yama bincike akan su mutumina. If she doesn't love you she can do anything mutumina

Zulum:


If it's easy to run for my life, I would have done that since....i have a 3yrs old child with her, I love that boy....when we separate I know definitely I will miss him.....thats my fear

If you allow her kill you, you'd still miss the child.

I don't know how your culture (Hausa/Muslim) works but if you'd seen these red flags and you ignored them, her actions now only lay Credence to the fact that you two shouldn't have married each other. Please, we don't want to hear stories that touch the heart...Housewife stabs husband to death... please, let her go now while you still can. You don't joke with death threats. She'll be so annoyed with you one day and carry it out. Be wise and be more careful next time when choosing a woman.

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Happiness is a choice, choose wisely.

Zulum:


I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

Unfortunately, you wont have access to your 3-year old when your wife kills you.

April396949:
I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. It's important to remember that this comment cannot provide professional advice or opinions, but I can offer some general guidance.

In any relationship, arguments can escalate and emotions can run high. Sometimes, hurtful things may be said in the heat of the moment. However, it's crucial to address these issues in a healthy and constructive manner, prioritizing open communication and understanding.

It might be beneficial to find a calm moment to discuss the argument with your wife and express how her comment has impacted you. Honest and empathetic communication can help both of you understand each other's feelings and find a way to move forward. Additionally, couples therapy or seeking guidance from a professional counselor could be an option to facilitate constructive dialogue and help you both work through these challenges.

Remember, maintaining a healthy and respectful relationship requires effort, compromise, and understanding from both parties involved.

Thanks.....

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

BROS LEAVE YOUR WIFE ASAP
SHE'S SAYING THE TRUTH OOOO
SHE WANT YOU TO DIE
REMOVE EMOTIONS AND SEE WITH YOUR CLEAR EYES

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Divorce her immediately

Zulum:



They aren't serious, they always complain that I am impatient....they told me that I don't have to report everything about my marriage, that I should be able to solve it as a male.

You know here in the north parents don't want their girl child been divorced, it's like a shame to them....so they don't care what is going on in the house...they just want her to stay

are u not providing for her and the child or wat is her problem

Zulum:


I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

You fit no witness the 2nd divorce. Dey play with your Life

gassbee:
are u not providing for her and the child or wat is her problem

I am trying my best....spending more than 200k in that house in a month

compton11:
Threaten her ass with divorce and her brain will reset

Dey play....maybe that's what she is even looking for so she can reconnect with ex boyfriend that may have been contacting her on WhatsApp

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

sorry

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....
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I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Relax ...Relax...
Anytime an argument want to start...
Dont talk...
Just smile and shake your head...
And leave the house... OR...act dumb.. for 2 days...
It takes a lot of patience to live with a woman.

Did Niralanders choose the wife for you, or you heard that Nairaland has marriage counselors? Why are you guys bringing every issue to Nairaland? You will worsen your case here if you don't know .

Zulum:


I am a public servant, working in an office from 8am to 5pm, so I don't think leaving her alone will be possible, and considering the environment and how thing are going here in the north....



What do u think about not eating her food, sleeping in different room locked....for the 2 weeks?

Infact I dey fear to eat her food or sleep near her, I always slept eyes opened

How comfortable are you living under these conditions? Na wa o! Me not have peace in my own house? No way! It's either she leaves or I walk.