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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by okerekingsley90: 4:26pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?


Honestly if this is true then you are not serious about your life

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by okerekingsley90: 4:28pm On Jul 25, 2023
FairlyUSEDpussy:


This life no balance true true......... Graduated in 2018 and served year 2019............

since then no stable job even tho have applied a billion time.........

will be 33 yrs and no plan off getting married self..............

Here's another young man with a good job, car s, comfortable house and already planning to settle down.........at age 33

Oga dont believe everything you see online
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by PeggySandas(f): 4:28pm On Jul 25, 2023
You be bolor. Those foolish in-laws don see you finish. More like you're too good to be true. Sometimes do like person wey get chinchin for brain. Dem go know say you sef get small craze.

BTW, woman finish for this life? Na the onetis mentality wey dey kill most men be this. There's nothing like a unique woman. If you find a good woman there are millions of other women that are better, afterall women population is about 3.8 billion in the world. You fools should start having abundance mentality so no woman or woman's family will treat you like trash. lipsrsealed undecided

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by SocialJustice: 4:29pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?
Leave their daughter for them. Wash and remove your hands completely. If your so called future wife is unable to bring her family to their senses. Then leave her completely. I wonder how you people ignore major red flags before marriage.

The demands will continue into marriage and probably cause your untimely death along the line.

Do not compare your peace of mind to money. Leave the money and move.

If her family comes back to you to beg, decide exactly how you want to marry their daughter, if they say no, just move on. Girls too plenty abeg.

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by jacobnel(m): 4:31pm On Jul 25, 2023
Like say your English is better.Rubbish. Naa so una go dey talk like you don't make mistakes.
Gloriagee:
Which multinational company employed you with all your gbaguns? Sha, e no concern me but for this relationship, I will advise you not to rush things. I will also not advise you to marry someone whose family thinks she can do better than you.
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by promami: 4:32pm On Jul 25, 2023
Go and do court marriage and let your fiancee move in with you.
When her parents are tired of their shakara, they'll ask you to come and do the traditional rites.
Don't ever send the girl abroad!
If there's anyone to go abroad, it's you.
And I'm sure you don't have immediate plans for that. Don't ever do that.
At the end of the day, it might be the girl's idea. You can't trust these girls 100%. They're capable of anything.

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by JASONjnr(m): 4:32pm On Jul 25, 2023
henrimoto:
Humblelion, Stand by your fiancee to fight through this phase. The mother is the problem here.

Don't appear to be eager about the wedding before the mother and the family. Tell the mother you have heard her, call off every preparation for the wedding for now but let your fiancee know what your game plan is.

Calm down, na man you be. Just act like you are not interested in the marriage again, make your fiancee dey play her own part by troubling her mother/family.

Humblelion! Humblelion!! Make you no go beg your fiancee mother o. No go beg am o.


Humblelion1987

Don't even make a mistake of marrying that girl 9ut of lovez else you will regret everything at the end.

The moment you find yourself between your in-law and the woman you want to marry then you will never enjoy your marriage.

You're considering the fact that she's a nurse and that's a professional career woman. But you better settle with a teacher who will give you peace of mind and her family not intruding on your affairs.

You've done so much for her and her family. You will only have to lose everything at first, but they will have to lose everything and more that is there to come.

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by jacobnel(m): 4:33pm On Jul 25, 2023
Even if naa messenger, nothing concern you. The most important thing he is putting food on his table.Amebo
Kobicove:


He's most likely a sales rep

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by chris51(f): 4:43pm On Jul 25, 2023
If the girl is truly your fiancee, I expect the matter to be handled by both families.
This spending too much on a girl does not give you the real picture of the girl's affection. You don't know if it's the comfort you give her that she is in love with.
My advice is for you to take it easy and do your home work.
As you are too anxious, you will be taken for granted.

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by chris51(f): 4:43pm On Jul 25, 2023
chris51:
If the girl is truly your fiancee, I expect the matter to be handled by both families.
This spending too much on a girl does not give you the real picture of the girl's affection. You don't know if it's the comfort you give her that she is in love with.
My advice is for you to take it easy and do your home work.
As you are too anxious, you will be taken for granted.
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Filmdirect: 4:46pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?

First
Please men stop overdoing things for a woman that is not yet your wife! You look desperate and can be easily taken advantage of.

Dating doesn’t have to mean exposing all and showing everyone every hand you can play. Leave some things for your wife!!

Why are you suddenly buying all her forms, and sponsoring everything? I don’t mean to be rude but as the only son don’t you have responsibilities in your family? Don’t start something you can’t maintain in marriage o. Marriage is partnership, is it going to be your habit to sponsor everything until you die? You don’t have to show manhood and court with money.

Because you have started that, things are cloudy for you. You can’t even tell if they are using you. Please don’t sponsor a girlfriend to the UK, sponsor a wife and only if that is what is beneficial as discussed between you and your wife. See that your future mother in law, you are opening a door to control.

I would call off the wedding and regroup. I would take sometime to think. Let things clear up a bit. You will learn a lot on a break. Stop being or appearing desperate. Marriage is a life long affair.

(I’m female)

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Smartguyboy(m): 4:47pm On Jul 25, 2023
If they want you to sponsor her to uk for study just know it’s a scam I am 100% sure you will regret if you do that unless you pregnant her .

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Officialenny1: 4:50pm On Jul 25, 2023
Bro it's better to get marry to a bad wife than to have bad in laws ... Man if she is destined to be yours so be it and if not pls pack your things and leave ... Cause whether you like it or not if your wife is good and her family are unreasonable they will poison her with bad ideas .... Wow she fought her family just for you but its still not enough ....

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by drnoel: 4:50pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary projector am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?

Family will always come around. True story but not for today.
Bone of contention is you and your woman. There is no need to fight the parents, tell your woman that.
Hold fast achieve your aims and get married, with or without her parents (True story).
Fighting her parents would only depress you both.
Then if your family come enter the fight, na world war 3 Una go fight.
Tell her parents Una go abide by their rules. Continue doing the UK runz. Once is about done, fix date of wedding and marry your woman.
She needs to understand that in this issue, you are the boss. If her parents refuse to conform, then to hell with them. Ofcos don't go telling her that.
I know a couple that had to wait 12 years to get married cos the parents refused. They had been dating since secondary school. Even at the 12 years, her dad refused it was unto I beg they got the mom to agree but the dad staunchly refused. He had to be dragged to the wedding by the mom. U should have seen the stubborn old man then and now when he is playing with his only grandson. Forget parents sometimes, they maybe our support but sometimes they can be the bane of their children
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by realoscar84(m): 4:56pm On Jul 25, 2023
I can't seem to understand the reason some of you are so ocused on this guy's english language imperfection? The message has been passed and quite understood by most who took their time to read the post. If you don't have something reasonable to contribute, skip the piece.


First go and enrol for IELTS and work on your English language and spelling. It is terrible, That is probably the reason why her family is fighting you.[/quote]

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Gloriagee(f): 4:56pm On Jul 25, 2023
No vex

jacobnel:
Like say your English is better.Rubbish. Naa so una go dey talk like you don't make mistakes.
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by swiych(m): 5:05pm On Jul 25, 2023
I believe the parents doesn't like you because you don't know the difference between "there", and "their". I wouldn't allow my daughter marry such a man. It's even good you go to UK with her to school, maybe after you have learned, they might consider you Worthy
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by iammolise(m): 5:07pm On Jul 25, 2023
If I'm to give my advice by your questions; I would tell you that anything you do for a woman is "as on to God", pro Bono, you can never get it back, all you can get in return is unlimited sex(anyhow you want it), it's like puting money in the offering box in church, you can't possibly have a change of mind and go take your money back(it's like a sin). What I'm driving at with all that is that you should forget about whatever you've done for her, you can't take it back and she can never do the same for you(harsh reality), what you are left with now is just a choice between the red and blue pill: Red pill is your finance in question might be in tandem with the family about their demands but doesn't want to hurt you by being on your side in the whole bruh aha and this might just be their final and master stroke all along and the blue pill is, no qualms, there is nothing wrong with you sending the woman you love abroad, after all it's a good thing for both of you no harm, she loves you and that's enough. Peace be unto you no matter the decision you make.
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Evergreen4(m): 5:13pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?
Oga give the babe belle, make sure they are aware of the pregnancy. After some time tell them you're no longer interested in their daughter. Then sit back and watch how they will come begging . let them do their worse. What nonsense

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by AngelicBeing: 5:14pm On Jul 25, 2023
madridsta007:



First go and enrol for IELTS and work on your English language and spelling. It is terrible, That is probably the reason why her family is fighting you.
Hian, una go kill person with laugh for nairaland.com, Muchecheche cheesy
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Foodqueen(f): 5:15pm On Jul 25, 2023
U better leave her alone and move on.

Most nurses parents believe that their daughter must travel abroad.

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Prettychild(f): 5:17pm On Jul 25, 2023
sammirano:
A bad wife is better than a bad inlaw
Not true. You can cut off easily from a bad in law than a bad wife who practically lives with you

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by henrimoto(m): 5:18pm On Jul 25, 2023
JASONjnr:


Humblelion1987

Don't even make a mistake of marrying that girl 9ut of lovez else you will regret everything at the end.

The moment you find yourself between your in-law and the woman you want to marry then you will never enjoy your marriage.

You're considering the fact that she's a nurse and that's a professional career woman. But you better settle with a teacher who will give you peace of mind and her family not intruding on your affairs.

You've done so much for her and her family. You will only have to lose everything at first, but they will have to lose everything and more that is there to come.
Hmnnn ...
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by sammirano: 5:19pm On Jul 25, 2023
Prettychild:

Not true. You can cut off easily from a bad in law than a bad wife who practically lives with you

Dey play
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by loswhite(m): 5:22pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?
later when you stop doing practically everything for her, you will come qvd and tell us my woman has changed....lol
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Kelvin30286063(m): 5:23pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?
Let her travel. Once she's gone, find another girl. Life no hard, na we dey ask yeye questions from life.
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Veecy: 5:35pm On Jul 25, 2023
So sad😢
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by EngGandalf: 5:38pm On Jul 25, 2023
Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advice on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?
Damn Nigga.. you doing too much.

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by akan102: 5:42pm On Jul 25, 2023
Let your ladyvknow you stand with her, but be silent on their family issue, make this known to the parents, that, that is theirs to resolve, they should deal with their daughter, go blank on their calls, but before you get to that point let your lady know the steps you have decided to take.
Watch all of them closely

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Hope1986: 5:42pm On Jul 25, 2023
Your so called wife to be don't love you. She is using the influence of her parents to end the marriage. Never dream of sending her outside otherwise you will loss the two- both your money and the marriage. Why begging them? Move on bro!

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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by jcross19: 5:42pm On Jul 25, 2023
DenreleDave:


What a family!!!!!!

You sef don do too much for someone you are yet to marry. The parents feel they will still be Okay because you have invested so much in thier daughter and they have nothing to lose. If you dont make a fast move, the lady will leave you.

ladies cant go against parent for a long time like a man, all it takes for her is to see another man probably from her state that will what you are doing for her and she will forget you.

Involve your parents. Let adult to adult discuss
rule number one don't force things that does not belong to you to be yours! God might be speaking to the guy for impending doom in the marriage , that's a sign of bad family

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