Alearna:

Okay, thank you.

I will like to do weekly report.(Every Saturday maybe?)

How do I report to you? I might as well stop frequenting nairaland. Should I drop my email address?

Yes, you can report weekly to me. You can use "Send E-Mail Message To Kipaji" that is on my profile to send me an email.

By the way, is there any particular reason you would like to stop frequenting nairaland? Do you think it can be a drawback on this journey?

Day 1 completed
The greatest journeys all started with one step. I took mine. I'm going to make it. Let's go.

Kipaji:


Yes, you can report weekly to me. You can use "Send E-Mail Message To Kipaji" that is on my profile to send me an email.

By the way, is there any particular reason you would like to stop frequenting nairaland? Do you think it can be a drawback on this journey?

Alright, sent you an email already.

No , not a draw back per se. But whenever I'm on good track, I get busy with other interesting activities offline. It won't allow me to check nairaland.

Also, I believe nairaland has lost its glory. I'm only here when bored.

DAY 2 COMPLETED

I think journaling the war on this forum will help me push through. How will I be able to look at myself in the mirror if i relapse? How will I be able to stay on Nairaland if I relapse after all that I have said?
I want to win. I have to win.
363 more days ahead.

NICE ONE OP

Thanks.

DAY 1/120
So help me lord.

DAY 4 COMPLETED

I woke up with a very hard erection today, but not a single stroke is allowed. I have sexuals thoughts 24/7. But that can't stop me. Tree hundred and sixty one more steps to go.

Kipaji:
Yes. Let's go to the front lines, comrade!

Bro i want you to keep me accountable on this journey.
Please can i get your whatsapp number?

Raptor2cool:

Bro i want you to keep me accountable on this journey.
Please can i get your whatsapp number?

I don't share my number online. You can send me an email, though.

Kipaji:

I don't share my number online. You can send me an email, though.

Okay.
I just sent you a mail using my second account.
Will be waiting for your response.

Kipaji:


Thanks. I hope you got a thing or two from it. If you have any question, please let me know

I appreciate you for sharing your experience on the battlefield of lust. Being a fellow soldier as you are, I could relate to virtually all struggles, resistance and experience. I commend your gallantry.

But I have just these two questions:

1. What made you lose your last battle? Was it sex or masturbation? You were not really clear on this. Not that it's of any importance to me; I'm just curious, but it's fine if you don't feel like revealing it.

2. I noticed your supplication is to ancestors and not, for example, to God (Jehovah or Allah). Is this intentional and connected to your religious stance? If yes, what exactly is your religious stance: traditionalist, paganism, atheism or Christianity, etc.?

I have to join you on this

Kipaji:
DAY 4 COMPLETED

I woke up with a very hard erection today, but not a single stroke is allowed. I have sexuals thoughts 24/7. But that can't stop me. Tree hundred and sixty one more steps to go.

Lakewesttm:



I appreciate you for sharing your experience on the battlefield of lust. Being a fellow soldier as you are, I could relate to virtually all struggles, resistance and experience. I commend your gallantry.

But I have just these two questions:

1. What made you lose your last battle? Was it sex or masturbation? You were not really clear on this. Not that it's of any importance to me; I'm just curious, but it's fine if you don't feel like revealing it.

2. I noticed your supplication is to ancestors and not, for example, to God (Jehovah or Allah). Is this intentional and connected to your religious stance? If yes, what exactly is your religious stance: traditionalist, paganism, atheism or Christianity, etc.?

Thank you for your support

1. I lost to porn. It started with suggestive pictures, then NSFW pictures without nudity, then straight NSFW gifs, and finally porn. In the last days, I was hard from sun up to sun down. I did not even know it was possible to be hard 24/7. I was surprised. Now that I am getting back on this journey, I am not allowing any form of tease. And, if I unintentionally encounter one, I will have enough experience to control myself.
Thinking about this, one of the great things that I got out of monk mode is the ability to appreciate women's beauty without lusting and without loosing focus. Monk mode makes you see the beauty in all women. I am so grateful for doing this. I need to reach 365.

2. I am an African, I embrace African thought and spirituality. Yes, I was intentional; this is connected to my religious stance.

KennethIbe59:
I have to join you on this

All men are welcome to the front lines.

Still waiting for you to reply my mail bro.

Kipaji:


Thank you for your support

1. I lost to porn. It started with suggestive pictures, then NSFW pictures without nudity, then straight NSFW gifs, and finally porn. In the last days, I was hard from sun up to sun down. I did not even know it was possible to be hard 24/7. I was surprised. Now that I am getting back on this journey, I am not allowing any form of tease. And, if I unintentionally encounter one, I will have enough experience to control myself.
Thinking about this, one of the great things that I got out of monk mode is the ability to appreciate women's beauty without lusting and without loosing focus. Monk mode makes you see the beauty in all women. I am so grateful for doing this. I need to reach 365.

2. I am an African, I embrace African thought and spirituality. Yes, I was intentional; this is connected to my religious stance.

I appreciate your candour in your response.

I also gradually came to the realisation that monk mode for a guy yet to be married is the best. Regardless of one's beliefs and ideologies or the motive for subscribing to it, monk mode is the best.

For me, the reason why I'm committed to monk mode is primarily for religious reasons, and secondarily, but almost as important, because of that feeling I get knowing that l largely have dominion over lust; that I can control and subdue my lust and not the other way round; that I'm not slavishly tied to that apron string of any woman located between their thighs. This feeling is supreme. It makes me feel strong and invincible. And that's why I feel weak and vulnerable at such times I succumb to the admittedly powerful force of lust.

Your thread is an inspiration, and I would say a timely morale booster to be more committed, tenacious and heroic at the battle front.

Raptor2cool:
Still waiting for you to reply my mail bro.

I replied yesterday.

Lakewesttm:



I appreciate your candour in your response.

I also gradually came to the realisation that monk mode for a guy yet to be married is the best. Regardless of one's beliefs and ideologies or the motive for subscribing to it, monk mode is the best.

For me, the reason why I'm committed to monk mode is primarily for religious reasons, and secondarily, but almost as important, because of that feeling I get knowing that l largely have dominion over lust; that I can control and subdue my lust and not the other way round; that I'm not slavishly tied to that apron string of any woman located between their thighs. This feeling is supreme. It makes me feel strong and invincible. And that's why I feel weak and vulnerable at such times I succumb to the admittedly powerful force of lust.

Your thread is an inspiration, and I would say a timely morale booster to be more committed, tenacious and heroic at the battle front.

Your words motivate me even more to keep going. Thank you very much. Let's go. We are not loosing.

Kipaji:
DAY 7 COMPLETED
I just crossed the one-week bar. There are 51 one more weeks ahead. I am not backing down.

nice one bro.
Please check your mail for my number.

You can't truly go monk mode if you are constantly thinking about women. As you fight against your flesh you should canalize your attention, thoughts, and energy towards other things than women. This can't be done when you are constantly consuming content about women: binge watching youtube videos, wasting time in the romance section of nairaland, reading BS like the redpill or other stuff about sex and romance, and so on.
This is why, from this moment on, I will add a no-woman-related-content dimension to my no-porn, no-masturbation, no-sex 365-day journey.
The only time I will interact in the romance section of Nairaland will be to reply to mention, if I'm ever mentioned, and to write about my monk mode journey.

Kipaji:
You can't truly go monk mode if you are constantly thinking about women. As you fight against your flesh you should canalize your attention, thoughts, and energy towards other things than women. This can't be done when you are constantly consuming content about women: binge watching youtube videos, wasting time in the romance section of nairaland, reading BS like the redpill or other stuff about sex and romance, and so on.
This is why, from this moment on, I will add a no-woman-related-content dimension to my no-porn, no-masturbation, no-sex 365-day journey.
The only time I will interact in the romance section of Nairaland will be to reply to mention, if I'm ever mentioned, and to write about my monk mode journey.

I hope you know there's a thread dedicated to this on the sexuality section.

ThothHermes:
I hope you know there's a thread dedicated to this on the sexuality section.

I am not sure about that, and I don't want to go to the sexuality section for obvious reasons.

But how do you guys get addicted to porn and masturbation though? Help me understand.

Samantha124:
But how do you guys get addicted to porn and masturbation though? Help me understand.

It is a physiological and psychological process. Porn is very addictive in nature as it triggers the brain in a way that encourages it to come back for more and more. There is more than enough content online that explain porn addiction.

Here are two links on the subjects :

https://www.webmd.com/sex/porn-addiction-possible


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc

Samantha124:
But how do you guys get addicted to porn and masturbation though? Help me understand.

It is actually the same way people are addicted to alcohol and the same way people are addicted to sex.

But why does it sounds like it's only men who get addicted to porn and masturbation?

Dexter08:


It is actually the same way people are addicted to alcohol and the same way people are addicted to sex.

Wow! So people really do get addicted to these things?

Kipaji:


It is a physiological and psychological process. Porn is very addictive in nature as it triggers the brain in a way that encourages it to come back for more and more. There is more than enough content online that explain porn addiction.

Here are two links on the subjects :

https://www.webmd.com/sex/porn-addiction-possible


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc

Samantha124:
But why does it sounds like it's only men who get addicted to porn and masturbation?

Whatever the reason why it sounds like that, it is definitely not true. A lot of women are porn and masturbation addicts.

When did you realize that you were addicted?

Kipaji:


Whatever the reason why it sounds like that, it is definitely not true. A lot of women are porn and masturbation addicts.