walcolm:

@OP,

what is good for the goose,  

so if you have a female best friend, she can also get a male bestfriend

seconded!

I have 2 female best friends and we have No hidden agenda. One is married and at first The husband hated me, lol! But eventually he has come to love me like a brother, it's better not to have them else like they say 'trouble sleep yanga go wake am, wetin you dey Find, wahala', 

Selecting other best friends outside your spouse is writing letter to BIG PROBLEM.

Flee all appearances of evil.

iyatrustee:

@ poster, i keep wondering where you get these thoughts of yours from and the annoying thing is that no matter how trival or foo.lish your question is, it makes its way to the front page

thats d power of xynerise. . Are u jealous?

xynerise:

yeah I saw that in d Quran.

Later, you will say you have problems. Very inappropriate post, you should know better! There are some things you just don't play with, this is one of them.

i have a female who is my bestfriend,my wife knows abt her,and my she doesnt complain abt it.akuna matata!

Once you are married, you wife or husband becomes your best friend. It is best for union you limit going out with friends either male or female.

Why not?? I mean getting married doesn't mean being in prison!
I prefer knowing her best friend especially if you think this is a threat, but actually I think we should respect the past of each partner to live him a bit space and continue having a social life, of course we have to fix limits but let's try to trust in our partner

Yes something is wrong with it and everything is wrong when the female friend is a married woman too. Be you a guy or a lady, you are suppose to withdraw from such friendship. The withdrawal may not be sudden but it must be made.

If it's just friend no prob, i hope your wife knows her too.

anonymous6:

The saying is; besides being lovers, the spouses are best friends to one another and you are each others number one best friend but that doesn't mean you can't have a best friend besides your spouse but it is easier for a married man to have a male best friend then a female best friend and it is easier for a married female to have a female best friend then a male best friend(unless he is g-ay but that is not common with Nigerians).

When it comes to a married man having a female best friend there are risk because the wife may think there is a affair when at times it is just innocent friends, especially if you do things like fun activities that you may not do with your wife, not only your wife but many people around you may think or get suspicious that there is cheating. Plus sometimes it can be a catalyst for cheating if the man is not from a perfect marriage in the first place.

Married men shouldn't rock the boat when it comes to having female best friends, maybe a regular friend at work but not best friend. The only way a married man can have a best friend without suspicion from anybody is if the female is a relative of yours like a sister or female cousin.

The hypocrisy and double talk of women never fails to amaze me. So now that it's a married man involved, it's "risky" for him to have a lady as a best friend. These are the same women that see "nothing wrong" in a lady keeping male friends or a married woman having a guy as a friend/best friend.

No wahala.

Nothing wrong. I sure need one to "confide in" just in case madam is indisposed.

It depends,


If the girl in question was your best friend prior to your marriage then the girl should then become a 'family-friend' to both you an your wife not just your best friend.

But i do believe such friendships is just asking for trouble, mehnnn,

Plus having a best friend will require you to invest time and energy into that friendship if shes a girl then a lot your time and energy will be going towards your girl best friend and no wife would like to see their husbands spending that amount of time and energy on another girl.

Think wisely.

To be honest, I dont think Rano can have a female best friend O!

Omo, something must hapun shaaaaa ni.

Ranoscky:

To be honest, I dont think Rano can have a female best friend O!

Omo, something must hapun shaaaaa ni.

How are you?? at least you're honest

why not, if can control your self do it, is a bad thing.

No, I don't think it's a good idea cos there will be a lot of jealousy going on especially if you and your b-friend are really close.
it will jus get confusing later down d line between d both of you and it will just cause problems in your married life, but only you know what's best for you.

Not a good idea, I have come to find (again and again). Unless, . . . . .

Initially things may start out quite innocently-exchanging ideas, make jokes. Then there is the occasional courtesy complements when she dons a fitting dress. This goes on to what I call appreciative compliment. Thereafter you just want to get your hands on what lies beneath. Why not. She is a woman afterall. You do it that one time. Then again and again etc. Yes dejavu-there we go again with all the good, the bad and the ugly of a full fledged amorous affair in your hand.

It is only FOOLS dat give excuses for wrongdoings! IF UR ONE den u can reply my post,FOOL!!

harakiri:

The hypocrisy and double talk of women never fails to amaze me. So now that it's a married man involved, it's "risky" for him to have a lady as a best friend. These are the same women that see "nothing wrong" in a lady keeping male friends or a married woman having a guy as a friend/best friend.

No wahala.

I don't know what you are talking about and what I said is not a double standard cause I did mention that it isn't ok for a married women with a male friend unless he is g-ay(but that isn't common with Nigerians) & it is not ok for married men to have female best friends either unless it is his sister and female cousin. Sorry but that is the truth, plus this thread is about married men, so whats your point.

@ Poster,

What is your definition of "best friend"? i suppose it should mean someone whom you like/appreciate/cherish above every other. Why cant you make your wife that person? Is the lady in question also married or single?

For a married man having a female best friend is not only very risky, but it is one of the most demoting things you can do to your wife. How will your wife feel knowing that she has a female "rival" whom you share your cares, concerns etc with. It's not just an unwise idea, but the truth is that your marriage will only suffer.

There is nothing wrong with having a male close pal whom is also preferably married and of like-minds with you. The wives could also become friends this way and everyone is happy.

Having a female best friend for a married man is the beginning of the downfall of his marriage.

Yes absolutely , but he will soon become an (un)-married man sha !

jumie:

@ Poster,

What is your definition of "best friend"? i suppose it should mean someone whom you like/appreciate/cherish above every other. Why cant you make your wife that person? Is the lady in question also married or single?

For a married man having a female best friend is not only very risky, but it is one of the most demoting things you can do to your wife. How will your wife feel knowing that she has a female "rival" whom you share your cares, concerns etc with. It's not just an unwise idea, but the truth is that your marriage will only suffer.

There is nothing wrong with having a male close pal whom is also preferably married and of like-minds with you. The wives could also become friends this way and everyone is happy.

Having a female best friend for a married man is the beginning of the downfall of his marriage.

ok.

xynerise:

@MMM. I am sure u dont know what d topic is all about.

He or she knows, He's just trying to say that women cant be your best friend if you are not buoyant enough to cater for their request.
woman + cash = best friend

Very posible!
My friend @ schl dn was d bestman 4 d groom on his girl-friend's (just friends) wedding.
They are still friends till date, though, limited now.

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no!

My husband shall not have a female best friend, except me, thus says MOI.

ronkebp:

My husband shall not have a female best friend, except me, thus says MOI.

or what?

xynerise:

or what?

You don't want to find out.